Why do I hate myself so much?

Sometimes we compare ourselves to what the ideal is - promoted in media, fashion, peer pressure and our own expectations. The bar is often too high to be possible and a sense of failure can lead to feelings of self-hatred. Maturing or self-acceptance, is about learning to accept yourself and your shortcomings, as well as celebrating the individual you are. Also about being realistic as to what is achievable.

Sometimes, when we feel down, we look into ourselves and see the worst in us. At times, even the simplest negative things that we do are magnified because when we are fed with constant bad feedback about ourselves, we tend to believe these. It should never be the case. Believe that you are beautiful, unique and you deserve the best.

I hated myself because I was not what society accepted, I allowed the world to convince me that my upbringing meant I would amount to nothing and losing my father in my early teens destined my life for failure. I hated my self for not being flawless and the most perfect looking female. I hated myself for choices I made, for having a mental illness, for becoming a drug addict and the harm I causes everyone. I hated my reflection in the mirror and the fact I woke up breathing when people much better off did not. I hated myself because I never knew my self. Today I can say that all has changed by just one person opening their ears and heart to me and making me realize perfect isn't real, flaws are beautiful, my past doesn't define me, and a beautiful soul is what matters. I don't need drugs or alcohol to numb myself or have to sell my soul for them, found recovery and have been clean for 2+ years now and my mental health is a part of my life, but does not define me.

The reason you may hate yourself is because you haven't learned how to love yourself, Please take a moment to look in the mirror, Tell yourself how beautiful you are as a person inside and out, Tell yourself that your strong and that you can get through anything, and last but not least tell yourself why you are so amazing and awesome. Everybody has their special talents such as dancing, singing, your a good friend, your nice, your attractive or even just that your a strong individual , Anything about yourself that you know is true in your heart and know that you are special. You have to love yourself truly.

Because people have led you to believe so. Once so many people say mean things, it's hard to think otherwise. Your amazing, remember that♡

I hate myself because I see myself as less than others. I feel my condition restricts me from being as strong or as smart as others. The way some people interact with me and the decisions they make reinforce those negative feelings. I feel that I cannot compete with colleagues who are healthy. I feel as though my resilience is on the verge of collapsing. I hate myself because I struggle to motivate myself to do the things I need to do. I hate myself because I feel I do not belong.

Many dislike themselves because they compare themselves to other individuals, have unrealistic thoughts about themselves, and to accept themselves for who they are. Accepting yourself is definitely necessary. While you may be different from others, there should be no shame.

We expect too much of ourselves. We get frustrated and angry when things don't go the way we want and in the end, we take all of the blame, even if none of it is our fault. It's easier said than done, but you must learn to love yourself. It takes time, it takes effort, but most of all, it takes patience. Don't be afraid to stumble along the way. There will always be bumps in the road, we just have to drive over them and keep on going.

Maybe it's because I was never appreciated... Maybe it's beause I've never seen the good in me .. Just the flaws .. Whenever I see myself in the mirror I don't like myself at all ... But maybe it's ok .. It's ok .. Cause I'm not the only one who has been feeling this .. Cause .. Maybe someday I'll see who I truly am ... Cause once I become capable of finding beauty in everything .. I'll be ok .. And I'll know that my soul is made up of stardust .. And that if I've made even one person happy .. I'm not what I think I'm .. I'm beautiful and lovely .. And I hope that everyone gets a chance to start loving themself including me ❤️