Why do I feel so unappreciated?

Did you ask yourself why you feel "you are not good enough"? Why you feel unworthy? Who makes you feel this way and when? Are you aware of the pain that you might feel in or out of your body when you feel unappreciated? If you feel unappreciated it means somebody judges you. Did you ever try to sit quietly, in a silent and safe place, and let your mind calm down and look for the answer deep inside yourself?

Often people with depression can feel unloved, unneeded, unappreciated or not wanted and that is completely normal. If you are already diagnosed with a mental illness and you are being medicated for it, you might consider asking your doctor for medication adjustments. If not, seeing a doctor and pinpointing why you feel like this can be the first step to not feeling like this. You can do this!

It starts with you and being happy with yourself, before others can see and appreciate you and what you do for them.

I very often felt like this in years gone by. I eventually learnt that, actually, I'm living my life for myself and not for other people. Chances are anyone you've supported or helped out are actually very appreciative. And if not, then no harm, just move on with your amazing life.

Sometimes I feel like I think about my negative experiences in life so much and end up feeling ungrateful of people who I don't notice, like the positive influences in my life, e.g. friends I feel comfortable with, or close ones I feel secure with. Instead of relying on others, especially the ones who make me feel unappreciated, it is better to be deeply grateful for the things that are already given to me. When this happens internally, I think it helps me notice less of the negative influences around me that I feel unappreciated with naturally. What really works is the right conversation and the right thank you from the right person... I hope I can be that somebody to someone one day.

If not always, often our perception of how other people see is usually projection of our own feelings and pur attitudes towards ourself. Do you appreciate yourself when you finish a task you set for yourself or achieve a goal? Are you too hard on yourself and have unrealistic expectations which are impossible to achieve? Do you discount instances when somebody praises you or compliments you? You don't count them. All these actions may make you feel unappreciated. The journey of self love begins from how you treat yourself. A gratitude journal can also be a great tool to remind yourself of the times when somebody appreciates you. Write it down when you feel good about doing something or when someone compliments you. This way when you are in self doubt you can remind yourself that you are indeed valued and loved.

You might be looking for appreciation in the wrong people. I'm sure you know the things you do are good, and you are trying your hardest, and people don't notice that but you do. You see that you're doing your best, and that is beautiful. That is enough. People tend to take others for granted, or even just forget to see someones effort outside of the usual, so even telling someone you feel unappreciated might open them up to tell you they really do. They just kind of forgot to mention how grateful they are for you, and that they notice your efforts.

I don't know your story, but in my experience, we often feel unappreciated when we are looking for it. Do we expect our boss to pat us on the back every time he turns around? No. He or she calls us out when we do not do our job right. The boss expects you to do your job and when you do, then you are most likely not to hear anything. But when we are called out by our boss and congratulated, doesn't it feel great? Basically what I'm trying to say, in this world gratitude unfortunately does not abound. Don't look for praise. However, when you do receive it, enjoy it. You've earned it!

Perhaps you don't take a notice of some of the small things people show appreciating you. Sometimes it's in the small things. Asking you how you feel, etc. I am sure people appreciate you. Perhaps it is good to figure out how you yourself show your appreciation to people. I am someone who says thank you very often, and that is clear. But sometimes people only smile or give you a nod, or a tap on the shoulder. It could be as small as that. I also often find that if I show my appreciation to people, they show it much more to me as well.

In out everyday lives, we often forget to tell our loved ones that we love them. We're all just busy with our lives and such. Sometimes we feel unappreciated because we receive no verbal confirmation, but in reality everyone doesn't say "I love and appreciate you" enough. Though you may feel unappreciated, there is someone who really does appreciate you. Think of all the people you appreciate but don't tell them. They may feel unappreciated, but you're there appreciating and loving them. There's always people who love you, whether you know it or not. It can be hard not having the verbal confirmation, but in reality, there's always someone who loves and appreciates you for all you do, even if they don't show it.