Why do I always think everything I do is wrong?

Because I was raised to be perfect and fulfill all expectations of me. Nobody ever told me that doing my best could be good enough. Or that I had inherent worth beyond what I could accomplish, beyond being the best. Nobody ever taught me I am good enough, as I am, or that being kind and gentle is worth as much as being assertive and dominant. I think everything I do is wrong because I am not looking inside for what is right. If we search for only what is wrong, we'll never see what's so perfectly right. And we miss out on the full picture of who we are.

There can be a few contributors, though I believe the biggest one would be low self-esteem. If you don't think positively of yourself, it can reflect in your head as not being good enough for something. The human brain is a finicky thing, and can often be our worst enemy and a relentless bully. There are also many mental illnesses that can cause those kinds of feelings, so it is a case-by-case basis, but low self-esteem is very often a large contributor and goes hand in hand with mental illness. Taking the appropriate steps and working towards improving how you view yourself as a whole person may be able to help ease those feelings.

I believe this is down to a negative outlook on yourself and perhaps even life going on around you. It can make it worse if others tell you that you're doing something wrong as well. Focus on everything you do right, above anything you may do wrong, even if its as simple as you got up and got yourself ready on time, you remembered to take out the trash, every wrong can be made right with a little dedication. You just need to take a different outlook on the world going on around you and with a little practice, you'll be just fine.

Because I tend to fail at a lot of things. I am very hard on myself, and I feel like I am not good enough. Everyone judges me and makes me feel worthless. I feel alone most of the time and that in turn makes me feel like I am always wrong. I need to try and focus more on self love and self acceptance. I put myself down too much when I should be trying to lift myself up. With no support whatsoever, i just feel so alone and like I dont mean anything. I feel like nothing. I feel numb.

Hi, I am sorry that you are feeling so down on yourself :( I know that must be very difficult and deflating. The majority of the time when we blame ourselves or see what we do as wrong it is because of something internal, perhaps a trauma or a way we have been conditioned to view ourselves that disrupts the way we perceive our lives and ourselves. That be said though, it doesn't mean that you are stuck in this place where you feel like everything you do is wrong. The most rewarding thing would be perhaps talking with someone about it, friends, family, a therapist, or even someone here on 7Cups. Don't be afraid to reach out and have a chat about why you feel this way and maybe we can get to the root of the problem. I am here for you anytime that you need. Best of luck

I often struggled in school, and at extracurricular, and at relationships. Life feels tricky when you can't find something right away that you feel passionate about and others around you have found their passions. I realized it's not about doing everything right, it's about taking little steps. I took walks, looked at nature, took photos of trees and nature and surrounded myself with my passions. When you find things that make you happy, others’ skills and ways are less important. My life became no longer striving to win medals and get perfect scores, but find what made me happy. And that is what right is, to me.

I always thought every step I took, every decision I made, every dream I dreamt about my future was wrong and I was a failure only because I never knew my own strength. Everyone at some point of time need someone else who listens to them, point out their strengths and give them hope when they feel they are lonely. Its really important to have people in our lives but people who are trust worthy, who are capable of understanding us are the real thing in need for anyone who is trying to come up by themselves. A helping hand is the major requirement as each and everyone have their own strengths which should be brought out.

because you are not sure about your possibilities. even if you are perfect, you always trying to be way better than you really are. it isn't your fault that you think in that way. its because of society. we never know what is right to do exactly... but we still doing because we dont have another choice to do. we need to try and then we will see the results, we never know how right is our moves but we still moving. if we stop, nothings will be go right... i suggest you to keep moving and do whatever you want, even if you think its wrong... you think in that way because people or things what is happening around you makes you to think like that. but if you dont pay attetion on your around and people, you will make choices without thinking of their rightness.

When a person looks at their life they instinctively perceive the world around them through a variety of lenses that are based on their experiences, moral systems, ideologies etc. One such lens of perception centers around the perception a person has of themselves. If that lens is negative you will immediately consider anything that you might do in a negatively light, with suspicion, or maybe just not "good enough" whatever that mean for the person. If you want to know why you think everything you do is wrong be honest with how you look at yourself. Do you believe you are incompetent and worthless? If you do then naturally you will believe that everything you do cannot possibly be done right because you think you are incapable of doing things correctly. There are other possibilities however, maybe its just you have extreme and unrealistic expectations of yourself. Perfectionism is hardly an unusual condition and it is almost never a good thing as it stresses a person to achieve a position that they cannot reach which is demoralizing in the most poignant sense of the word. Or perhaps someone else is telling you something is not good enough and you have no one to tell you when you do things correctly. If that is true then how could you know when you were doing things well? You'd naturally assume that nothing you did was ever good enough. And if that is the situation then that is tragic. These are a few of the possibilities and they are not necessarily mutually exclusive but they are some of the reasons you may think everything you do is wrong.

Not everything you do is wrong. Get rid of the negatives, stay positive. Sometimes I get the same feeling, you are not alone out other. To stay happy you should get the negativity out of your mind. You should believe in yourself. Not everything you do is wrong, you have failed to see the right in that.