Why do I always hide myself away from people who want to help?
18 Answers
Moderated by Smita Joshi, BA Psychology / MA / Advanced EFT Practitioner
Updated: Dec 15, 2020
Anonymous
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Sep 8, 2015
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You might do this because you're scared to accept help. Especially if you're a person who usually helps others instead of recieving help. You could also be embarrassed. Or scared they'll judge you.
magneticSnow78
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May 9, 2015
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maybe you were hurt by a lot of people in the past and because you have been hurt badly you put up barriers to prevent those who care about you to help. It is your body's way of protecting yourself from being hurt
Anonymous
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Jan 25, 2015
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Because you are afraid. You are scared that if they help you, you would change, or they would change, or SOMETHING would change and that just freaks you out. It's perfectly fine, when you're ready to fully accept help, you will stop hiding.
cuddlyRainfall99
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Feb 2, 2015
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Sometimes talking to someone who wants to help you can feel pressurizing and embarrassing. You appreciate that they want to help but also feel cornered and under pressure to be helped by what they have to say, when in reality you might not feel any better from their help. This scares some people, and because they don't know how the person will react it can cause fear of the unknown to arise.
Anonymous
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May 17, 2015
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I often think they can't help me or can't understand my problem. Sometimes I think I would burden them if I ever started to talk about my problems and they will find me annoying. But most of the time I don't trust people enough to open myself up to them.
nightFlower81
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May 21, 2015
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Humbling yourself enough to ask for help is a difficult thing to do. As humans we take pride in our abilities to do for ourselves. Sometimes we feel we can do things better without help, or that we may feel that by asking for help we are giving up a portion of our independence. It is normal for us to try to handle things on our won first. It is important to know that there are those who are out there that will help us and love and support us and we shouldn't be afraid to ask.
olimaar
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Oct 26, 2015
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I think you always hide yourself because you are more independent than others, feeling incomplete if you don't do everything yourself.
FlowerInDisguise19
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Apr 11, 2015
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At the moment you are at the process of feeling so bad you may try to push people away from you, but you have to remember that the bravest thing you can ever do is to ask for help when you are in need of it and I am very glad that you have come onto 7cups for support and I extend my hand as a listener to help you and support you through this, we'll fight through it together :)
Anonymous
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Jul 7, 2015
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Maybe you are afraid of being judged. I myself wish I could get help, but I tend to hide from people who offer me help because I'm afraid of them judging me.
Anonymous
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Jul 13, 2015
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It's not easy to be vulnerable and reach out for help. Often, we are afraid of vulnerability and being open to others, especially if we have been hurt in the past. Hiding ourselves away from people who want to help is a mechanism to protect ourselves from being endangered by vulnerability. In other words, we don't want to get hurt.
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