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Why can't I find the right woman?

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Love is all about trial and error, unfortunately, and love is just the same. I find when you spend your whole life searching for the right person, you're forcing yourself to be with the wrong people. When you let things go with the flow, the right people find you when you least expect it.
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Profile: Ladybug11
Ladybug11 on Sep 6, 2016
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I asked myself the same question too, only in regard to men. I realised then that I was not the kind of person I would have wanted to be with at the time. Then it made sense to me, how can I expect someone to love me if I don't love myself. So I started to change myself for the better, until I finally reached the point where I would look into the mirror and say: Yes I could date that. From there it was a confidence question... yet since I was pretty alright with who I was that was not too much of an issue. Once you are who you love to be thats when the saying "just be yourself" works. Because then there is nothing about you that you would be embarrassed over, or try to hide, you can then be fully you. And be proud of it. Thats when you start to shine and attract people. Learn to love yourself before you expect others to love you. Thats all I can say to this matter... whether its the right woman or not in the end you will see. But one is always true: You Reap what you Sow. Hope that helps, I wish you all the best on your way to being who you love to be xx
Profile: FlowerInDisguise19
FlowerInDisguise19 on Jul 23, 2015
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Love does find you in the oddest places at times, be patient hun the right woman will come. Fate will prevail. You need to be patient and just make sure you read the signs along the way. Don't ever think you missed your chance in any way. What's meant to be, will be. There's a old saying: Que sera, sera - whatever will be, will be, the future's not ours to see - this fits in well here http://imgur.com/5pIa5vW :) I wish you luck with everything :)
Profile: hellopomegranate4772
hellopomegranate4772 on Apr 28, 2015
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Maybe you are looking the wrong places. You will find the right person one day just don't give up. Keep looking.
Profile: FromBrazil
FromBrazil on Dec 28, 2015
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Because the right one exists only in your own head. People fail and it's part of being human. Who didnt fail in meeting someone else's expectations? I did, you did, everybody does fail. So the 'right' woman is the one that is worth trying to be together.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 7, 2015
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There is the right woman for you! you just haven't met her yet; what is meant to be, will be , keep looking and be yourself :)
Profile: Ashleah
Ashleah on Feb 23, 2015
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Many people can't find the right partner because they're too wrapped up in the wrong one. Or, when dating, they're coming off as being too intense, needy, or are being too negative. So to daters leave your exes and old relationships where they belong... in the past! When talking to someone you're interested in keep it light hearted, don't throw all your baggage out there as soon as you meet the new person, don't talk about how lonely you've been or how sad you are about it and keep your attitude on the bright side of life. Lastly, the biggest thing to avoid is settling! It doesn't matter how unattractive you think you are or how you're not where you want to be in life, don't let anyone treat you with anything less than love and respect. Always look for red flags. If he/she seems angry a lot, yells at people often, puts you or other people down, complains all the time, refuses to work or go to school, doesn't call or text you unless you call/text first, flirts with others, or just doesn't seem that into you RUN!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 25, 2016
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Finding the right woman means finding yourself first. The right woman will love who you are. If you are still single, then you are single only because there is someone better for you.
Profile: Cornucopia
Cornucopia on Jul 14, 2015
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Maybe some people just have to put effort into themselves and be the 'right man'. Once they do that, they'll find that they'd attract like-minded people, and in the process, attract the right mate.
Profile: Yourfairygodbro
Yourfairygodbro on Feb 15, 2016
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1)You may have an unhealthy idea of who the right person is or have no idea at all. If that's the case then you could try to make a list of qualities of how the right woman would be. (You could read about this in a website called Thought Catalog) 2)Maybe you havent entirely gotten over an ex yet, if that's the case then you could brainstorm what qualities of your exes your ideal partner would have along with reminding yourself why your exes broke up with you. What would your healthy, ideal person do that your exes haven't? 3) Maybe you're not ready to find her yet, I know this one is a bit controversial since I used to think real love is caring for someone when it's hard to but that leads to codependence if a relationship is just based on only that. If you work on yourself personality wise, then you will be more attractive for her. Examples would be to try to be kinder(compliment five people a day, help three people a day, little things, etc.), be more independent so when you have a relationship then it'll be more interdependent than codependent(you could read about interdependency versus codependency on lots of sites), you could try to be happier overall(There's a channel on YouTube called Actualized that helped me a lot with this), you could try to be more confident(There are Ted talks videos on YouTube that help with confidence boosting), and also you could try to think about what you can do for this ideal woman more than what she could do for you(Like, how would you improve her life? How would you show her that you have a Win-win attitude? You should look up the term.) 4) Maybe you have issues with physical appearance. You could try to improve hygiene, meditate more so you seem less anxious, and eat healthier(become a vegetarian if you want to)... Start slowly and over time, you could improve your diet or even start to excersize. 5) You could try to be more social, tell friends about how you're looking for love and they'd likely try to help. There's lots of social media apps you could find your ideal girl on. Just talking to more people will increase the chances of you finding your ideal person. I left this one for last assuming that you would have tried it already.
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