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How to forgive yourself for cheating or lying?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 29, 2016
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Fisnas on Sep 9, 2016
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Humans are known for making rash decisions and mistakes, and this can be seen through many instances throughout the course of human history. Be it from grasping to a sense of security at a moment of vulnerability or being seduced by an ulterior motive. What we can do as human beings is only give back as much as we've taken from trust and honesty. Whatever mistake we make, we take a proactive step in reflecting upon our mistakes and proving to society that we are no longer our past self. Lying and Cheating is no different, so first one must evaluate what constitutes as "giving back". A common first step is admitting your mistake without any cutbacks; no excuses. Afterwards, assess the proper compensation for it, in the meanwhile bettering your ideals and principles in order to avoid making this mistake in the future. Once this is done, you have logically given the world your best, and regardless of whether they are open to forgiving you, you will forgive yourself.
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BrilliantSanity74 on May 20, 2016
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It can be helpful to remember that all of the decisions that we make are geared towards trying to make ourselves happy. Sometimes we get confused and end up hurting ourselves or others, but these mistakes don't make us bad people.
Profile: UnknownR
UnknownR on Jun 10, 2016
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You just have to accept that you lied or cheated, with time you'll get over it if you accept it. And remember we're human we all make mistakes no matter how hard we try not to. 💙
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MrWolf on Apr 30, 2016
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Everyone is human, and each of us are limited by our own experiences and opinions. To know that cheating or lying is wrong is, in itself, commendable. To seek forgiveness from yourself for such an act is doubly so. Before you even begin to forgive, congratulate yourself on how strong you must be, and how good your character is, for even beginning to come to terms with what you feel you've done wrong. Just as you would show compassion and understanding to a child for a misgiving, so too is it important to be gentle with yourself. Understand what led to the situation, accept any errors you have made, and resolve that you will learn from them. Reflect on the experience as objectively as you can- don't beat yourself up, but don't inflate your own ego either- and focus on growing from your past.
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Anonymous on Oct 15, 2016
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Understand that mistakes, even big ones, happen. Humans make progress in life - sometimes you have to learn through being stupid or reckless. Many people mess up badly, and they're still able to continue living! Truly, your mistakes aren't as serious as you think, considering how many people there are and how many have ever lived. Forgiving yourself is difficult but the pain eases over time, and you know better how to be merciful to yourself.
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Anonymous on Apr 1, 2016
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The best is confess EVERYTHING, then you will have no guilt but you might have shame. It can ruin your life but be honest
Profile: AdrianElijah
AdrianElijah on Apr 10, 2016
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Forgiving yourself is one of the most important things you can do for yourself. If you have cheated or lied, it is huge to be able to look back on the things you did, accept that they have happened, know that they were wrong, and to move on. Forgiveness is the key to happiness.
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Ask your self why you did it. Don't justify your decision, but understand why you made that decision and promise you will do better next go round.
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Anonymous on Jun 16, 2017
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How you approach forgiveness will determine this. I, for instance, do not view forgiving as "forgive and forget" I like to think of it like with any relationship you have to lay foundations even with yourself. Now a good foundation is stable and can take a lot of punishment but still remain. So your actions can be thought of as bricks in this foundation, so you have a bad brick, forgiving yourself is placing this bad brick into your foundation and promising yourself that you'll build with better bricks around it. That way you will be able to stand on that foundation without fear of it falling apart under you. Trust is the foundation of any relationship and you being able to trust yourself to do better will not take away the fact that you made a bad choice, but it will show that you learned and became better for it. Be the craftsman you and your loved ones deserve, build better.
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