How do I keep myself from getting to attached to people?

Firstly, ask yourself whether you trully need this attachment to people you have. If you needn't it, just distract self with something else when you will feel urge to be with the people with whom you wish to reduce attachment. Slowly it will fall into habit to not need so much attachment to them anymore and it will free you from these urges which are no fun and can bring more misery than wellbeing. Getting too attached to people can be a kind of nonchemical addiction. I hope that you will be able to reduce your attachment to people and get your life back.

First of all, there's nothing wrong with feeling close to people that you care about in life. It's okay to rely on others for support. However, if your worry is about getting too, too overly attached, I have some tips for that. Remember in life that the person you should prioritize is you! You are the constant in your life. Remember that you can always rely on yourself, as well as any super close family/friends in life. Also, a way to avoid becoming too over attached is to learn to enjoy independence and being with yourself. Being by yourself is a chance to reflect on your goals, ideals, and who you are as a person. Enjoy your independence and take time to relax from the loud sounds of the world when you can.

Its human nature, to be connected with people, and leading to attachments for emotional support or for other needs. even if am certain to exercise control over myself to stay away from such attachments, the other person might still be influencing to break restraints and be connected. One of the ways to keep boundaries from being attached, is to observe my emotions , study them objectively and see if i can meet my own needs and wants without becoming dependant on others. If i can build on my self reliance , a lot of this attachments can be platonic and need not be deep dived and enticed. A lot of inner work can be done to work on being calm and build myself up so that i can still spread joy and support to others, but can still remain within my own boundaries of self care. Cheers !!.

Honestly, there's no easy answer on how not to get attached to people. It might happen even when you're unaware. However, one of the most important things to do is realise why you want to separate yourself from said person: have they hurt you in the past/are doing so right now? Is it a personal issue, or due to external pressure? Once you're more aware of the reasons why you might not want to get closer to this person, you can go ahead and slowly ease off the contact with them: keep chats to the minimum, don't hand out much, and even if you have to, do so in groups. Apart from that, and from my own personal opinion, I think we're just afraid to get attached because of all the hypothetical 'what if's. What if I get hurt? What if they leave? But more often than not, these are completely baseless reasons our mind conjures to protect us from something that hasn't even happened yet. Being vulnerable in front of someone is scary, but worth it: you'll know and experience so much more once you do. But that's completely on you to decide, based on why you don't want to get close to this person in the first place :)

Knowing you and loving you will allow you respect yourself enough to know your worth. Learning to make yourself happy and content with yourself reduces the need to be attached to other. Knowing your worth capabilities and respecting yourself form an attachment to yourself. We can love people and their vibe just like we do music or actors or even material things. But once you understand how to interact and let go of things(attachments) you learn that people and things come and go but yourself will always be with you, therefore that’s the strongest attachment needed to be created- to allow your attachment from others to reduce

Don't fantasize too much about people and the future. Even when you think you know a person, they can always behave unexpectedly and disappoint your expectations so the main rule is not to have expectations about people. Everyone carries their own burden of dissatisfaction, unhappiness, suffering, anxiety and moodiness so we are all united by the same fears, emotions and types of automatic reactions. This awareness must lead you to a lesser attachment to people who can have a thousand valid reasons to change, even from one day to the next, their attitude towards you. Look at each person as if they were the most important in the whole world. This allows you to actively listen to him/her and also know some of their most hidden sides, their deepest desires and, if s/he is completely sincere, also their fears and anxieties. Only when you put yourself in this condition while you are in front of a person, you realize that s/he should not be judged, on the contrary, s/he should be protected in its weakest and most fragile side because each of us has one that we keep hidden in the depths. Attachment to people arises mainly because we believe we need someone to be happy and live a fuller and more emotional life. Often, we don't realize that, instead, there is only one person who will be by our side for life, who will love us unconditionally and who will never abandon or betray us and that person is ourselves.

It is fine to have a connection with people but not to an extend that you depend on them. People are meant to complement your life not to take over your whole life. Connections with people are meant to improve you and bring some sort of energy to your life. However, we are an individual self and we should always remember that. Like I said before, it is fine to have a connection with someone the important part is to always remember that when that person hurts you or harms you in some way you should let go. You will be fine.

We all have an innate need to connect with other people and it’s worth developing good friendships and relationships. The answer is not to shut yourself off from the world, to imagine that you can be fully self-reliant, to commit to the existence of a hermit and to officially declare your independence from the rest of the human race. However, it is important to learn how to look after yourself too. And the ironic thing about wanting to be less “needy” is that the solution is to recognise that your needs are very important and won’t go away if you neglect or ignore them. Dependency is often the result of having your needs neglected and then neglecting them yourself.

Getting attached isn't always a bad thing. If you feel like you are getting attached to someone who you are in an unhealthy relationship with, then being attached is not good for your well-being. I think the best way to not be attached to someone is to recognize why you don't want to be attached to them and use that as the main focus. You can pick out things about that person specifically that are a negative impact on your life and prove that you should not spend so much time worry and caring about your relationship with them.

Do not let your guard down right away- wait until that person proves that you can trust them. Make sure you get to know them before telling this person your whole life story. Some people will be quick to judge you or take that information and run with it. This is meaning that people will use it against you in the future. If you start to get to attached to this person try telling them you need a break. Try taking some time for yourself. Sit back and think about how you could better the conversation the next time you guys speak.