How do I keep myself from getting to attached to people?

It is not a very difficult thing to do. But it can be a double edged sword. People generally want to distance themselves when they are in pain or dislike the people around. But distance will make sure you are lonely and it will make it far more difficult to find good people.. We can distance ourselves by keeping ourselves distracting with hobbies and passions. And in the age of video games and movies and Netflix. I doubt it is not achievable. But this would has both good and bad and trying to distance yourself from both will just mean emptiness and lead to oblivion. So be strong, have the strength to bear the bad in your quest to find the good

I think a way to keep yourself from getting attached to people is through learning to be comfortable in our own company, being okay with being by ourselves. Getting attached to people often seems to involve a form of dependency on others, and this need to be with others and count on others sometimes stems from a fear of being alone. Ways to not get attached to people, possibly just getting used to spending time by yourself (kind of like exposure therapy), not sharing everything about yourself and also not expecting other people from sharing about themselves, not having expectations of people I guess?

Getting attached to people is a normal feeling. It comes from this simple curiosity that leads one human being to wish to know another. But with time, some relationships may change, disappear even, causing trust issues. It also is a normal reaction. Keeping yourself from getting attached is very difficult since the brain is tricky and the more you will think about not getting attached, the more attached you will get. Accepting to get attached easily is important. The way you think about someone is difficult to change. Try and be as peaceful with yourself as you can be. Getting attached is not a bad thing. You can take it slow, one step at a time. When you have been hurt in the past, it is difficult to trust others, but you will meet thousands of people in your life. Don't hold them accountable for what you have been through in the past. That way, you won't miss any great opportunity to open to someone new and reliable. Trust yourself, and trust others. Your heart knows what is best for your emotions. Don't try to cage it!

I have the exact same problem, where it would happen to me once a year, I would become obsessed with a specific person, whether it is someone I just met, known for a long time, or a co worker, a family member or a classmate. I can't really stop it from happening, as it's a natural thing to happen, if you like them as a friend, or romantically. If it is just a friend, in my experience, it was best for me to simply talk to my friend about the problem. Good friends will stick by your side and will be understanding and if they judge you or don't like you, or talk about you behind your back, it's sometimes best to move on.

Understanding transference and countertransference is one way of filtering emotions. More importantly, is an understanding between empathy and sympathy. We must keep our emotions in check and not be too active or too passive in our listening. We can't involve ourselves in someone eles's issues or resolution. We re not here to be friends but to be ears and a voice of comfort and compassion. However, we are human, and thusly we must keep our emotions in check by maintaining ourselves as well. Healthy people help more than unhealthy people do. We must practice these principles and not cross boundaries.

I always remember the saying, "familiarity breeds contempt". When people know personal details about you, the listener/talker composure goes out the window. You're not there to be a friend, but rather an unaffiliated point of view that can assist a person in need with an issue that you don't have a stake in. Being neutral and approaching the person/issue is the biggest tool in your tool kit. More importantly, the focus should always remain on them, not you. You need to treat these people as individuals that are seeking help, and it is VERY important to put up the professional distance so as they (and you) understand that this is a process oriented chat, not a chance to meet people online. I've seen coworkers in similar situations grow to close to clients, and 100% it ended in complete chaos. As a listener, be mindful that they are people in need, never potential friends.

I avoid getting attached to people by focusing on making myself a better person and taking care of myself. That way, I don't depend on other people to behave in a certain way in order to build the life for myself that I want. For example, I know I feel better about my life when I tend to get lots of chores done. It allows me to feel more independent. I also try to meet new people regularly so that the social circle is always growing. That way, I don't become too attached to any one person. I can also try to respect every one else's decisions rather than try to control them.

What's wrong with being attached to people? Part of what makes a person beautiful is their ability to emphathetic towards others. Yes, what needs to be worked on is out expectations. When we are nice to a person it is natural to expect them to be nice towards ourselves as well. Which is a misguided approach towards empathy. Also, the prospect of helping ourselves should not be overlooked. We can only help others if we ourselves are in a good position. And like all other people we emphatize with, we also deserve the love and complete support and attention of our own.

This might sound bad but think of something bad about that person that turned you off to befriend with them. Usually you feel attached because you have great expectation of them so try to lower it a bit. Trust yourself and believe you are doing a good job at helping yourself to be independent. Distract yourself with your favourite show or hobbies, make yourself busy and don’t hang out with them too much. You need to draw a line first. Just remember never let your feelings get too deep, people can change at any moment. I don’t know who you wanna avoid but I hope you don’t end up hating them too much because you’ll regret it later. Just don’t overdo it when you’re distancing yourself

Everyone becomes attached to people. It is human nature. It is not nice when you end up feeling let down or abandoned by people that you care for and you want to care for you, but it happens to everyone. Even if you kept your self locked away and didn't talk to anyone you would become attached to people you don't even know that you are attached to, like I became attached to the mail man as every time he visited I knew I was getting something nice. The key isn't not to become attached, the key is to regulate your emotions so that you don't become reliant on people or feeling that your life is over because they aren't around.