Why was I both the bully and the bullied?

It's a cycle, much like how those who were abused at home tend to become abusers. It's up to you to break the cycle.

You are beautiful and resilient and amazing. You bend and bounce back. But life happens. Sometimes people don't know how to handle a beautiful thing so they break it. That's why you were bullied, because you were misunderstood and so were they. And because you were misunderstood you misunderstood others who were like you. You thought it was okay to break something beautiful, because it happened to you too. You want them to feel how you felt. Even though it a wrong thing to do.

You were probably bullied then that led you to subconsciously or consciously bully others. What you need to do is work on dealing with you being bullied then you will be aware of your bullying others. Maybe that's how you cope with being bullied.

Being the bully is something that a lot of people have a hard time coming to reality with, most of us only see us as the bullied. Being the bully is something all of us have been at one time or another, whether it was laughing at someone or making a joke about someone else, that is still bullying whether we see it that way or not. Being the bullied is something else that happens to everyone, we are all bullied about something whether it's our hair or clothes or smile. It is in the human way to be both a bully and the bullied.

because maybe bulling was your way of dealing with being bullied. when someone makes you feel small and worthless, you want to make someone feel small or worthless so you feel like you have some control. it happens to the best of us, it doesn't mean your a bad person.

Alfred Adler came with this theory of inferiority complex. He claimed that a person with inferiority complex will either become aggressive (playground bully) or the person will withdrawn himself from company/social circle and become a loner. These two are just different means of coping with the same issue.

Maybe because a victim of bullying thinks he/she cannot do anything to solve her problems, so she becomes a bully by releasing her pain and anger on someone else just to make him/herself feel better.

Bullying will make you angry so you take it out on someone else

Being bullied hurts. Many who have been bullied know all too much about it. I try not to bully others because I know what its like but sometimes I feel strongly against someone and will say something or think something due to my belief. Never to hurt someone even though they may feel like that is the reason.

Bullying can be a vicious cycle based around self esteem. If you were bullied, you might think less of yourself because of the way you were treated. Some victims, in an attempt to make themselves feel more validated and powerful, exert control over someone else by bullying them. Both bullies and the bullied often have one thing in common: low self esteem. It is important to understand this way of thinking so that you can overcome it. If you are bullying and were bullied before, it is helpful to think of how you felt in the past when you were the victim. I hope this helps someone.