Why is everyone around me always being so mean?

Sometimes, you need to stand up for yourself and many times bullies bully others because they have their own problems and they want to burst out to someone. When the words can no longer hurt your feelings then you are winning. You can always do that by showing them that their words do not affect you! You can always talk to a friend about it or even to a listener. You can also talk to a professional who can guide you to find a solution to your problem. Try to accept yourself for who you truly are. Show them that you are okay with yourself and you don't care about others' opinion. Remember only your close friends and family members want to help you to improve yourself!

Good news: if you are feeling like this, chances are that you are anxious and that that's the main reason why you feel like this. Why is this good? Because it means that the world around you isn't as bad as it feels. It is just a feeling. Please check the Anxiety guide. This perception is an example of catastrophizing and all or nothing, black and white regressive thinking, which happens when we are very anxious. It could hardly be true that everyone is always being mean. Something that could help is to ask someone what was the kindest thing that they had seen someone else do, and what they think is the kindest thing that they have done in the past week. Or what are the 5 kindest things. The world isn't so bad. Anxiety makes us see it like that.

This a good time to spend time with one self. “Me” time. We are the person we spend our entire lives with. So, this is a good time for introspection and self reflection. Looking inward. Maintaining a little distance with people who are being mean to us. Give them also time to reflect and introspect. Usually answers come to us when we are just with ourselves. Some people who are ridiculously mean may have an issue and need help themselves as they may have unresolved issues which takes form of rudeness to other other people. A little understanding can take us a long way.

People who are nice usually have a well balanced view on life and are able to see the silver lining. When they expect others to have the same view on life it can lead to disappointment. There are a range of reasons why people come across as inconsiderate, they may feel envious of others or be oblivious to how their uninvited critique is incisive. When people are accommodating, friendly and open, it may be seen as a vulnerability that the 'mean' people are insecure about within themselves. By critiquing others they can save face and (in their mind) show that they don't have that 'weakness'. Learn ways to trust yourself more, and share more carefully, and you'll grow to be less concerned about the views of others.

Some people may find that they don’t know how to react to u, this could be that they don’t know how to explain to u how they feel, or they just genuinely don’t know how to feel. Often emotions like anger, often are cover ups for other things like sadness, longing, doubt or envy. Maybe try talking to someone who is being mean to u. Ask things like have I don’t something to upset u or is there anything I can do? Sometimes the person may not even be aware that they are being mean or making u feel bad. Just try and be patient and forgiving if they don’t know how to answer your questions.

I've always been quite sensitive to people around me being 'mean'. I often think that this links back to being bullied as a child. I know however, that I certainly have never been bullied as an adult. I am learning that there are a number of things to consider when I begin to feel that familiar knot in the stomach that results from the 'mean' words or actions of someone else. First of all I need to remind myself that I seem to be wired for a negative interpretation. Maybe the other person who didn't smile, or didn't say hello, or was snappy in responding, is stressed themselves, unaware of me at all, having an awful day, or is just plain distracted. Don't I have days like that? It's not always about me. Step back and try and be objective. Or maybe they actually were being mean, perhaps they meant to snap, sneer or ignore. What was the context? What happened right before? Do I owe an apology for something? Can I come right out and ask, Have I upset you? And sometimes it's just worth remembering that some people can be mean for no reason, and that this says a lot more about them as a person than it does about me.

Hello-hello, thank you for the question. :) I would offer two points of view: Let´s believe it could be just a temporary feeling due to having a terribly bad day. Or maybe you experienced a lack of support and kindness, as all people surrounding you were accidentally focused on their own problems. This sometimes happens to me as well. :) I call it a stupid day - when everybody seems to act negatively and everything is painted black. And because you are a sensitive soul, you might feel pretty hurt because of taking people´s behaviour too personally. Let´s hope that it is really just a momentary feeling and will disappear soon. When the bad feeling persists... Then you might be right. :( It could be simply because they are unhappy and want the others to be unhappy, too. Unfortunately, we can´t influence or explore the inner world of a person until he or she lets us in. Think of those lots of reasons making somebody unhappy – jealousy, unhealthy comparing to others, bad situation at home, loosing someone beloved, gossipy co-workers always ready to hurt. You also might be aware of people being mean just because somebody else is wiser, more beautiful, more successful, more popular. Please don't take it personally. Try to remember their unhappiness isn't your fault and you are not responsible for it. Try to stay kind and warm-hearted to yourself and don't let the others discourage you. I am sure somebody will appreciate your kindness soon and the two (or more) of you will be ready to brilliantly overcome the daily challenges together. :) Crossing your fingers, :) Silky

It can certainly feel like everyone around you is mean sometimes, and it's okay to have those feelings! You deserve to be around people who make you feel cared about, and treat you with respect. You should be able to turn to those around you to feel supported when you're going through difficulties, and have them listen to you when you try to communicate your feelings. It's okay to talk to those who you feel are being mean to you, and have a conversation about what can be done to change the way you interact. It's okay- you're not alone!

Sometimes people tend to focus on what is lacking or what is wrong, rarely do they appreciate everything around them or focus on the good things around them. You have a choice to either ignore them or spread kindness around to create a better environment for everyone. We all know that no one is perfect and we have no right to judge anyone. Always keep an open mind and always treat others with kindness whether or not they deserve it. Trust me, it would become a better world if you will have this kind of attitude towards everyone. There is nothing wrong with having a kind heart.

Lots of people have built up emotions and issues of their own, so they take it out on other people. That doesn’t mean you’ve done anything wrong though, it just means other people don’t have a proper outlet for their emotions, and therefore take it out on you. I’ve known a lot of people who have trouble with coming to terms with their emotions, so they can get irritated easily. That can come across as aggression or meanness, which isn’t what the person intended. It’s just a response they can’t help. Either way, you don’t deserve to be treated badly. You’re a good person, and the way other people treat you doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you. It could just be that other people are struggling with issues of their own. Hope this help! Alex x

Sometimes our mood can take control over how we view the world. Make sure you have eaten, slept well and had some water self-care is very important! This is not to say that your feelings are wrong, it is always important to talk your feelings out with someone you trust. Being around negative people can impact your worldview, no one is entitled to make you feel unworthy of respect and love. We are all born with these rights, we are able to love and be loved, no one can take that from you, and no one should do it.

I don't think they are trying to be mean to you I think they may be reflecting off of how they feel about themselves and how they have been treated in the pass.to be completely honest most likely their behavior and actions towards you has nothing to do with you

There are many ways to see it. 1. Many of us are very sensitive so what you experience as somebody being mean to you for another could be just ok. It changes the effect that person has on us and our life that makes it different. 2. It can happen that for a period of time we get to meet people who are experiencing a big change or difficult time in their life so they unconsciously can be mean to us and others. 3. There are topics that people do not feel comfortable to talk about and the anxiety, fear of, and discomfort can show signs of anger. 5. When you go through a difficult time in your life everything becomes very difficult and so the things that happen around us take a different look. A sense of negativity and pessimism pervade us and so we feel that the surrounding world is against us and people are mean or they do not act as we wish.

You might be a highly sensitive person, which is not necessarily a bad thing. Maybe it's a misunderstanding. Look from their perspective. Put yourself in their shoes. You can't assume everyone has the same perspective as you. You can talk to them about. Consequently, you can ignore them. Don't make mountains if they're only molehills. Examine your behavior. Analyze your behavior. Could you possibly offend them? Always is a dangerous word. What is your definition of mean? Be aware of words like always. Always, never, etc. Are dangerous words. Please exercise caution when using them. Take care. Make good choices.

Do you know what can I get an amen on that one! Why does everyone always seem to be so mean? The people of this world are just bitter these days. Now don’t get me wrong there are amazing people in this world. But there are also so so so many people that take pleasure in tearing others down. There are actually lots of reasons why someone could be being mean to you. It could be because they’re dying inside and sick and torturing others somehow makes them happy. They could be insecure or jealous of you which is often the case. There are a lot of reasons. It could also be that you are just having a bad day and/or feeling vulnerable and sensitive and everyone seems mean you to. Let’s me honest, we ALL have those days!

This line to me indicates, that the environment one is in is toxic to the mental health of the person and it means to be yourself and find the right set of people you truly connect with. The question needs to be rephrased as 'why are you hanging around with the mean people?'. Make sure you have boundaries. Do not let people hurt you. Always stand up for yourself and have the courage to leave the people that treat you badly. Do it for your mental health. Seek support and establish a good support circle. A warm one. One that lifts you and encourages you.

I don't believe most people are mean people. However, under the right circumstances, most people can be mean. It is the way of live in the world we have now. It's not your fault so don't blame yourself. Dont let it beat you down and instead let it be your determination to be stronger and prove them wrong. Try to look at yourself from an outside perspective and remind yourself of all the unique and beautiful qualities you possess and have the ability to share with the world. The most important thing to remember, whether you are receiving or giving unkindness, is that you are inherently good, and deserve to be loved, no matter what you or someone else tells you.

Some of the people around you may be dealing with life's challenges as well and that could be one reason everyone is always so disconnected

The only way to find the answer to that is to ask them. Ask them what you did to make them so hurtful towards you. The results are amazing.

Would you please explain what people are doing to be mean? If people are often suffering with problems themselves, they tend to release their emotions on others.