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Why do the people bully me when I always helped them?

Profile: HealingLotus
HealingLotus on May 5, 2015
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Being a people pleaser never stopped people from bullying us. I know this from personal experience. Do not give to others if they are not giving back to you. this doesn't count for random acts of kindness, but reciprocity is important for keeping balance in relationships and making sure we arent being taken advantage of. Last thing you want to do is: give give give. it wont make people like you more, and it just makes everything crumble down.
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Profile: CharlotteBanana97
CharlotteBanana97 on May 16, 2015
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Because people don't realise how truly grateful they should be for people who care and love them enough to help them out in times of need. You are above them.
Profile: Actualized12
Actualized12 on Jan 11, 2016
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Most of the time, bullies are insecure themselves. They like to hurt others to make themselves feel better about their own self worth. By helping others, speaks volume in your character. It means you are a kind individual that wants the best for others. This is the best type of person that one can be.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on May 27, 2015
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Sometimes in order to deal with their own problems they let in out on someone else in make them feel like they have control.
Profile: ClaireyMarie
ClaireyMarie on Jul 20, 2015
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It depends on the situation. If this behavior is based in a school, I feel that people do this because they want to follow the crowd. People are often sheep, because they don't want to be singled out. Bullies can also feel better about themselves when they pick on others, regardless of how nice that person is. In my experience, bullies had personal issues in their lives. They often had family problems and didn't know how to get out their frustration, so they would pick on me to relieve some of it. I'm not saying it was right to do, but I find this does happen a lot. That's how I see it.
Profile: friendlyDeer
friendlyDeer on Nov 9, 2015
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People who appear to be mean or hurtful don’t usually do it intentionally. There are exceptions to this, but generally the hurt you feel is a side-effect, not the principle cause. If you're suffering from more severe and intentional bullying, then the causes might be others.
Profile: tavidragonheart
tavidragonheart on Jun 6, 2015
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People like to believe they are better than others. A mentality which has screwed me over often. My advice would be to carry on being nice, however associate yourself as little as possible with these people. I hope it all gets better for you. It's easier said than done, I can tell you. Good luck
Profile: KaylaBella
KaylaBella on Aug 31, 2015
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Sometimes they are jealous of you. Because you succeed more than them. ANd they want to be like you. Sometimes others may turn them against you, but the reason why most of the time is because they are jealous.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Dec 28, 2015
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Because they struggled a lot and have darker pasts, they think that if they hurt other people, it will make them feel better so the people who bully you struggled a lot and have a lot of insecurities and don't feel good about themselves
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 10, 2015
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I'm convinced that it's because they are insecure about themselves, they're so empty inside, that they need to bother others to feel better.
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