Is it normal for me to hold a grudge against my bully?

When people hurt us, we naturally feel some resentment. But letting that resentment turn into a grudge can be very hurtful to yourself. Acknowledge they have hurt you, but also understand they might be in a difficult situation too. Then try to focus on how you can make your life more positive, rather than how you can get back at them.

It is normal but shouldn't happen. It is so unhealthy to hold a grudge because it eats you up inside and then builds up enough to where you can't forgive them.

Holding a grudge does no one good and will not help the situation. Just remember that hatred to battle hatred is never helpful, especially for the victim of bullying.

It is perfectly normal to not like your bully, I still do not like my bully from a few years ago. It is very normal.

Of course. Honestly who wouldn't? I depends on what they have done to you, but for some, they change they're life majorly for the worst.

It is common. But common is always not normal or good for you. No matter what they would do to you, letting go is always better for you.

It is normal to hold a grudge against people that did you wrong. It what you end up doing with your grudge will determine if its good or bad. Its quite ok to remember the things people did to you in the past. We feel insecure and often scared when we remember those times when we feel unsafe but like I said , its what we end up doing with that grudge would really determine if its normal or not

Personally, I still hold my grudge towards my bully from 3 years ago, despite evidence he may have gotten a lot nicer. This is a person who made you feel awful (mine even made me hate x-box because I associated it with him; I'm now a PS4 player) for a long time and bullying can affect us for a long time. I hadn't realised I still held a grudge to my bully until I saw him at a party, when I realised I still had some resentment I thought I should work on forgiving them and that's something I'm doing right now-it's never too late for either person to be better. In short it is normal, when you feel ready and you see the person deserves a second chance forgiveness is easier to hold than hate.

Yes

It is, yes. You have been hurt by this person and you are probably very angry at them. A perfectly normal reaction. If this is in the past a grudge, while understandable, is only hurting you now. If it is ongoing stick up for yourself! Anger and pain are perfectly normal as is being unwilling to give up a grudge. You probably feel the person does not deserve to be forgiven because of what they did to you. That's a normal feeling when you have been hurt . Only you are hurting yourself now.