How do you effectively confront people who are spreading negative rumors about you?
StayStrong152
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Sep 8, 2015
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You just gotta come right out and say it, it avoids making everything worse by you letting it continue on. Make it clear to everyone that it is just a rumor and that it is false, and come right to the person starting it stating that you know they started it and ask why they did
Anonymous
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May 8, 2015
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Go to higher classmen and tell them. They have no reason to touch nor talk about me like that. It is very unacceptable.
Anonymous
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Feb 19, 2015
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Assertively. Take some time, calm yourself, practice in your mind what you would say to this person. We want to describe the problem to them (so there is no confusion or guessing needed), tell them how it makes you feel (using "I" statements, not being accusatory), telling them what you would like to change, and how you'll feel after the change. For example, "Hi John, I was talking to Mary today and she said that you were telling a bunch of people in the staff room that I'm the one who stinks up the bathroom all the time by not flushing. I feel really embarrassed, and upset, because it isn't true. In the future, if you think I'm adding unpleasant odors to the office, I would really appreciate it if you would come speak with me, and just ask me first if I did, and then if you would like me to change something, let me know then. I'd feel a lot better, knowing that you would approach me first before talking to others."
Stinky poo in the bathroom might not be your situation, but we can use those step to speak assertively with others. Remember to have confident body language, this is important to you, therefore it is important.
Anonymous
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Nov 11, 2016
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I let it be. Let them spread negative rumors about me. I will just move on to my own life and enjoy myself. Why would I stress about something that is not real? And know myself better. :) I have friends too that knows me. :)
Schaei
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Nov 23, 2015
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You can effectively confront people who are spreading rumors about you by politely ignoring those people. Denying and accepting rumors is never necessary. As long as you and the relevant people in your life know the truth.
Supergirl94
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Oct 1, 2016
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Explain to them how they are making you feel and ask them why they are doing it, try to understand their perspective and also get them to see your perspective. Dispell the rumors as well!
Anonymous
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Jun 17, 2015
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If this is happening in a school setting, ask a teacher or supervisor to help. If this is happening anywhere else, let the rumors slide off your back like "water off a duck", as my father would say. If these rumors are hurting you physically or setting you up for bullying, ask a parent or guardian to help.
GroovySoul
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May 25, 2019
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I've had this happen to me more times than I could count. I look at it this way, people who matter to me most know the truth so I have no reason to prove myself to anyone, especially people who find it entertaining to talk negatively about another human being. Responding/confronting someone isn't going to matter in the end (in my opinion) because if they cared about you or what you think, they wouldn't be spreading rumors about you to begin with. I used to confront people, but in the end, I realized that it bothered them more if I didn't stoop to their level.
Anonymous
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Aug 25, 2015
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You ignore them or report it to an adult, if you are a child. If you are an adult, things canbe harder. If it is a work place that the person is spreading rumors, then you report it to the head of admission. Hope this helped!
gentleWinter41
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May 7, 2017
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Do not be aggressive! That approach will cause both of you to get angry and solve nothing. Take the person aside and be calm before doing so. Enter the conversation with an open mind. Do not attack the person and try not to use accusatory words such as 'you'. Express clearly that you do not appreciate the negative rumors being spread as it is negatively affecting your work/school/personal life. Do not try to discuss the rumor as it may give the person more to talk about. Ask the person to kindly refrain from spreading the rumors in a firm but not aggressive tone. End the conversation peacefully.
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