Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

From my personal experience, I believe the reason for this awkwardness, is due to an unconscious sense of embarassment, on part of the person that the breakup was harder on... And also because I no longer felt comfortable talking about myself to that person, probably because it felt like they had other people/person , taking my place, some other person is now important and I no longer hold the same place in their life as I used to. And a part of me felt like talking to them, as we used to previously, might make me fall for that person again, and by instead having informal conversation, I'd only be protecting myself from the hurt and pain .

It is difficult to talk too an ex significant other because of how intimate the relationship once was and the vulnerability you've shown them in the past. Memories of the relationship can also make it difficult to speak to them in a platonic manner since the feelings for them may not have faded. If a breakup was not mutual this can also cause an awkward encounter when trying to communicate again with a person that broke your heart. Awkward tension if a once romantic relationship is changed to a friendship. Therefore, this can make conversation difficult with someone you once loved.

It is often incredibly hard to go back and have a conversation with an ex partner if you ended on bad terms and have not been talking since. This is because your first interaction with the person will bring back all your memories of the person - both good and bad - making your first conversation back with the person definitely awkward. This can be avoided by hanging out amongst a group, so the pressure is kind of taken off both of you to hold a conversation and allows both of you to remain quite if the conversation stalls without it getting too awkward.

When you start talking again with your ex-boyfriend/girlfriend all the past things come up eventually. Maybe you want to spend some good time remembering the good times but all bad things too come in front of your eyes and hurt you even more. There is rare chance that you too ends on a good note but its safer too let them go and you move on to something new and don't think about him/her too much. Remember life is too short to be worry about all these things just forgive and carry on in your life with hopes and positivity.

It is so hard to talk to an ex because of all the shared memories you both have together. It is hard to not reflect on the times you shared together, whether they be good or bad. After a breakup, it is especially hard to try and revert back to being just friends and old habits because you got used to treating them differently through them being your partner. It is tough to have to go back to the beginning and work around all the shared memories of you both being together because the memories can be overpowering, and sometimes are the only things that come to mind when speaking to your ex. Either way, it takes time to be able to talk freely to an ex without having any of the emotions from the previous relationship attached to the conversation.

One thing that really comes to mind is the fact that you might just end up doing one of two things. One thing you might do is fall back in love with them and they end up, most likely wanting to get back together, which if rushed could end in another heartbreak. Another thing that might happen is the fact that you could just be ending up being more mean or rude to that person to the point that you will try and continue to be rude and disrespectful to them. Another odd is you just do not know how they are going to reply to you!

It's only hard to talk to them when feelings are still involved. If you feel you have completely moved on from them, then there are no strings attached. But if not, then it is difficult because you still care deeply of that person in more than just a friendly manner. I have felt this pain more than once. My ex in high school ended things because he wanted to go to the Navy and didn't think it would work out between us. I was crushed and hurt every time he reached out to me.. but over time once I healed and got over it, it was so much easier to handle. Time heals all!

I think people may find it hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend because it reminds you of what you were, what you had, and who they were. Since it’s an EX, remembering them by talking to them would make you relive that hurt again. That’s if it ended badly. So it’s hard to talk to them, maybe you don’t want to get attached to them again so you’re afraid to talk to them again. Most times it’s not healthy to talk to someone you’ve ended a relationship with, mainly if it’s on bad terms, but if you feel you can fix the broken relation, then it may be worth talking to them again, lots of couples have break ups then get back together and end up being married.. So who knows..

Talking to an ex-boyfriend takes courage. When u talk to them after time has passed it can open wounds you thought were closed already and it won’t be easy. It can make u realize maybe you are still not over them but they are. It is hard seeing someone you once loved; you once thought was “the one” be happy without you but u gotta trust life will get better and you don’t need them to be happy. You will get to see how strong you are. Talking to an ex is not an easy task but sometimes in order to move on we need closure.

I feel like, they become your ex for a reason. It feels like you do not recognize this person anymore and there is a clash between who you knew them to be and who they actually are at the moment. It builds a lot of anxiety over the big question of 'Who is this person actually?' and that unknowing makes it harder to connect with that stranger/familiar person. Even otherwise, you feel restricted to be yourself around that person because they knew a lot about you too once. Let me know if someone thinks otherwise or agree with what I said