Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It might be hard to talk to an ex because often times we still hold some feelings towards the person, either positive or negatives or both. We shared some time and experiences with the person and talking to them could be a trigger to remind you of the past that is already ended and you can't do anything to change what has already passed. Sometimes it can be awkward to have to talk to your ex but in a different role, such as friend or a complete stranger, this role that we are not used to yet and can confuse ourselves as to where it would be seen as 'natural and normal and appropriate'. It is best to take time to be alone to understand and accept your feelings after the breakup and release all the feelings of the past before getting back to talk with your ex again.

Usually, when not being over them and trying to talk and/or see them, the feelings we still might have and our memories flash on our minds so we tend to start feeling extremely sad and hurt, in order to feel bad trying to contact this person. That is because even though it's something that happened in the past, it still hurts us emotionally, and if we haven't gotten over it, it hurts even more. As a person who has had their heart broken many times, I can assure you that it's most likely these are the reasons why it's hard for you to talk to an ex partner.

Sorry, but i don't find point to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend unless you are now "just friends". But yes, it can be harder to be even "just friends" with someone with whom you were boyfriend or girlfriend as very strong emotions and feelings and strong good and bad memories, including those which led to breakup, are involved here on both sides. These feelings can remain even years after your breakup. If you are in new relationship, this new relationship can be another obstacle as your new partner can think that you aren't trully commited to him or her.

Sometimes it is difficult to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend after the relationship you've shared has ended. There are many reasons for this. While some people might think that shared history should make it easier to communicate with a former partner, this isn't always the case. In fact, in some instances, (especially when the topic at hand is a difficult one or when the shared history had a negative impact on either of you--whether that is said openly or not) opening up to them can actually be more difficult. This may be due to a mutual instinct to protect your own hearts and be more guarded about your interactions. Communication with a former partner may also be hard if one or the other of you still has lingering feelings--either positive or negative ones--about the other person, the relationship, or how things ended. It is also natural to not want to open up to someone who might have caused some pain in your life or who you no longer trust as you once might have. This is not to say all relationships end due to pain or a lack of trust, many relationships can and do end amicably! But, even then, it can sometimes feel strained and strange communicating with someone who no longer holds "partner status" in your life. Former partners know us intimately, they know things about us and aspects of us that most people--even sometimes our families, doctors, or therapists--don't. It can sometimes feel invasive or intimidating to speak to someone who knows that much about us, and that can make us hesitant to open up to them as well. They have seen us being vulnerable, and maybe we don't wish to be vulnerable with them anymore. There are many reasons talking to exes may be difficult, but to know why that may be true for you, it may help to look at the relationship, the person, and how things ended between you to really know the context of your feelings to better identify what feelings are coming in the way of your communication with such a person.

It's so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend, because right out of the relationship, they change, and things just aren't the same anymore. It's hard to talk to someone you truly loved just as friends. You may still like them, your heart racing as you go to text them after a while from not texting. Or simply, they could've done something to you in the relationship, which scares you, and when you talk to them, you get horrible flashbacks. You never know what goes on in someone's past relationships. It's okay to get nervous, or scared to talk to an ex-boyfriend/ ex-girlfriend.

It can be hard as both of you were in a relationship, meaning that both of you liked or loved each other, always spent time together, and were comfortable with each other. It is hard because both of you broke up. It can be challenging as something that once was strong is now distancing itself. It takes time to heal. Going back to the old days of when both of you were together can bring mixed emotions and relieve everything. Sometimes reliving moments can hurt your feelings and make you overthink instead of thinking about your future. I hope this helps!

Sometimes it's hard to talk to these people because of the things that happened previously or how you felt about them. You start to be reminded of things that you thought you'd forgotten about and sometimes you just worry those things will happen again or things will go wrong if you decide to talk to them again. It's not easy talking to people you haven't talked to in a while in general if it was left on awkward/bad terms and it does take a while just to get used to and feel the same again. Sometimes it's better just to forget these people and sometimes it's better to remember the lessons you learnt from experiences.

Regardless of who ended the relationship, talking to an ex can bring up feelings of pain. You may experience some grief for the end of the relationship. You may find yourself wanting to talk to them in the same way you had in the past; that is, as more than friends. Grieving the end of a relationship takes time for all parties involved. Many times the best remedy for this situation is just time. It's unfortunate that we can't do more, but as time passes it becomes easier to talk to your ex. Having an honest, heart-to-heart conversation to gain closure may help as well. Just be sure to do it when the time is right for both of you.

They are your past and of course it is hard to talk with them or about them. I was in live with one boy before like one year I think. It was so toxic relationship and I decided that it's time for our end. We were together 3 months. After him I feel better. If you want to talk with them try to keep in mind that they might not want to talk with you and there is a chance that you will get more hurt. We dont want that. Try not to think about them or talking with them.

It is hard because they are your ex. They aren't in your life anymore. It's honestly hard to talk to anyone that was once in your life but is not anymore. They signify an old chapter in your life, the past, maybe an old version of yourself. You also have no obligation to speak to an ex. They are apart of your past and the past is just that, the past. They are not in your life anymore for a reason. If talking to them brings up hard feelings then you don't need to talk to them. You owe no one, not even your ex, any pleasantries if it's hard on you. Blocking them on the phone and social media is a start. If you can't all you need to say is "Hey I hope you're doing well, but I need you to give me my space". If they respect you they will back off.