Why is it so hard to talk to an ex-boyfriend or ex-girlfriend?

It is hard to talk because it is painful to be reminded of what has been and what could have been. We often feel vulnerable towards them because we have been hurt by them and we have trusted them. We often leave things in the past behind because they have left us scars. But that's not the case for everyone. It may be also the fact that we just find it hard to talk to our ex partners or we just cannot find ourselves doing it no matter how much courage we gather up.

Things do get changed with ex , our consciousness remember the reason for a hard and painful decision of break up, and it's hard for it to overlook or just forgive the person , this makes it uneasy to talk to an ex,

Because you were together in a strong relationship for a long time. This way you both created a bond that whenever is broken, hurts you both a lot. While you talk to each other, you remind to each other that it was harmful for you to end this relationship

When two persons share intimacy, they share some aspects of their personalities also. No matter how superficial a relationship may be, you've gaining a part of a person you have once been with. Not one of you two is the same person as you were before. Your ex partner is your conection to your past self and that is never pleasant. It's like looking at a broken mirror reflection. Plus, it is hard to confront with your possible mistakes when it comes to emotion. Every word a person says you understand as an open attack.

Sometimes, it may be hard because there are old feelings there- they could be feelings of love, or of hate. This is someone that you were very close with on an intimate level. It is unlike any other type of relationship. Sometimes it is best to leave some chapters behind. But, if you want to continue a friendship, it will only get easier with time. Make sure you are both on the same page.

You shared yourself with them, your true self which you didn't share with anyone and they it didn't end well. They have your secrets and you have theirs. You can't talk to someone where your true self didn't go well, your true self which you didn't hide. You both know too much and it hurts too much.

You may still feel connected to them either emotionally or physically, therefore, the bond can be hard to break.

Hey there! For this, I think the easiest answer would be memories. We hold on to memories of how things were. It's almost like nostalgia- but we often look at things through rose colored glasses. We may try to talk to them, but end up remembering the good times that won't be repeated. This may lead to a feeling of awkwardness or pain. You may find that holding off for a bit before talking again is helpful. Time may allow you to rebuild a friendship outside of the past romance.

Talking to an ex can cause you to reminisce about past times. You generally go back to thinking about the good times and occasionally the bad and seeing them/ talking to them makes you remember those times.

it is hard because they were once your world. it is hard because you've been hurt and maybe love is still there