Why do you let the person who hurt you occupy your thoughts?

Because that's what most people are comfortable with. They can relate to that similar feeling of hurt and pain, they want to keep that comfortable feeling with them so that they don't have to change who they are.

Well love, we begin to look inside ourselves as we try to understand the why behind actions the other makes. Whether the feelings turn to anger or sadness, they will take hold in your thoughts. However, worry not love, the thoughts will pass as you begin to move on, as you allowed yourself to forgive. Forgiveness isn't about forgetting love, it's about accepting, acknowledging, and learning from it as you move forward.

It's funny, When humans grab something that hurts them, they quickly let go of the offending object, in order not to be hurt by it. However, the problem is, they still need to heal, from the damage that was caused by it, and of course learn not to grab that object again. When you think that all life forms are actually objects that are alive.. This question seems a lot less mysterious, and well kinda more easily understood.

keeping them in your thoughts actually makes you stronger. it pushes us to learn from it and become better that them

I think we let the person occupy our thoughts not because they hurt us, but because we love or have strong feelings toward them (that is how their actions could hurt us in the first place). We may think of them because we still love them, which is completely normal, or because we are still haven’t forgiven them for what they did or we still dont really understand why they hurt us. It depends on what kind of thoughts you have when you think of them, negative or positive, the good times or bad. It’s important to let yourself grieve and give yourself time. If you feel like the thoughts are too overwhelming, it’s absolutely okay to talk to someone.

Second chance. Everybody deserves a second chance. Even a worst person can change to a good guy if given second chance.

It is important to ponder over the past to learn from your mistakes and move forward. Sometimes those who hurt us can teach us the most needed lessons.

Precisely because they hurt you, and because it was a deep impact you need to process it to move on.

Its hard to separate your feelings sometimes and to make sense of them. But if you were hurt by someone its hard not to think about the fact that they hurt you. If you are having difficulties dealing with those feelings, perhaps speaking with someone you trust, or a counselor or therapist can help.

Because after a while of that person hurting me I finally started to believe everything that person was telling me.