Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years but kept constantly going back because I felt as though he was all I deserved and that maybe things could change and so on even if they never would. It is not uncommon but with time, realizations will eventually arise and you will learn to be without this person and see that there is better for you.

Maybe because there is a gain in going back. Sometimes that gain works as the drug in an addiction, when you realize the gain is smaller than the damage thats when you can start making a real change, you get to see it coming, the temptation, and you get to see the exit door to it. Somewhere in the path of learning you'll get to learn when to take the exit door.

She is a beautiful woman, a celebrity... she makes me feel special when we are together, the sex is the best ever, we have been together for 10 months, she distrusts me all the time, she is aggressive, she is narcissistic, she mistreats me and my daughter, she cheated on me in june... We have broken up this week and I'm already afraid she won't take me back, although I know how bad she is for me and that I have to stop looking for her or taking her back if she looks for me. Please help!

because youre dumb and you cleary like your ass to be beat. And you like the dominance of guys choking your dumb ass out

More often than not, a "relationship" gives us a feeling of satisfaction and belongingness. Depending on our appetite for these feelings, we choose to stay in a relationship even when we know that it's toxic and unhealthy. This is especially common if one doesn't have many satisfactory connections; so it becomes really tempting to hold on to a relationship even if it does more harm than good.

Because it's hard to move on from one person whom you've loved with all your heart as you werent aware of how the relationship would turn out to be but since you love them, you keep focusing on the good side of the relationship which makes you always go back even if it hurts you. Just like a moth and fire.

I guess because is toxic and creates you a dependence. The best is trying to work on making your personality stronger and try to live a happy life on your own before being attached to a relationship.

It’s probably because you are scared of change and want to live with something you are used to. Leaving a person would mean making a major change and your entire outlook on life could be affected, but normally change is a good and healthy thing. If you push yourself to explore your options then there would be so many benefits.

You may go back because even though you know it’s bad, you remember the good and ignore the bad. Or you may just feel lonely and don’t want to be by yourself

You go back for one pr two reasons. One reason is feeling like there is no where else to go and that it is the best place for you. Yet deep down in your heart you know that it is not true. The second reason is that you are not sure how to leave without having somewhere safe to go from the toxic relationship so that you never ho back to it.