Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

Sometime we get caught up in toxic relationships due to trauma bonding or codependentancy... we need to really take time to learn and understand what it is we are seeking or trying to get ... moving forward can be scary. Change is scary. Life is hard, however if we can at least be aware of trauma bonding and want change we can learn and change.

That's a valid feeling, because attachment is hard to break after a long period of time. Sometimes you'll feel like you owe them, or that you might not find anyone else, but believe me you will. There is so much more outside that toxicity, and we are here to help you on your journey to find it.

Honestly you probably go back because they promise to change, they spend some time acting like the perfect person and makes you think they will change, You need some time out, you need to think about this before going back, how many times have you been back and how many times have you been hurt, I wont lie, it will hurt walking away however in the long run this will be good for you and you will realize you are worth so much more.

Sometimes we go back to a toxic relationship because we love the person dearly but also, sometimes we don't miss the relationship, we miss the routine or the connection and time we spend with a person. We may know that the relationship isn't good for us yet we keep going back because we feel like we need the person in our lives or you feel like you can't handle being without them. Once you learn to start having a new routine and spend time with different people, you will eventually be able to stop going back to that toxic relationship.

From a psychological perspective, it is likely that your significant other in the relationship has manipulated you and changed the way that you think about yourself. This is a common abuse tactic because it can make you feel like you are worthless and need this other person in order to survive. This toxic relationship feels comfortable with you, even though you know it's toxic, simply because it is what you are used to. I would suggest going to therapy, as a therapist can help you to notice your unhealthy habits and change them. This is an important thing to do because you are especially likely to end up in another toxic relationship after having already been in one.

Something addictive is something toxic, isn't it? There are many reasons why we cannot leave addictions behind: we "think" we need them to survive, our brain wants them desperately even when sometimes very deep inside us we know they are not good for us. In toxic relations, the addition is that the other person may keep making promises he/she will change but then does not. We get used to that relation, and since we are also intoxicated, we cannot accept a change. There are times when our toxic relations are a complement to our own toxicity, and our system will not allow a separation. Other times, we just keep there because we are afraid of the change.

We as people tend to cling to the things that are familiar to us in our daily lives. Unfortunately, when you end up in a situation like this, it becomes habitual. You may want with every ounce of your being to be able to step away from this toxic environment, but once you do it’s easy to feel like you’re missing out on this person. Truthfully, you may be giving your all into this relationship. You don’t want all of the work that you’ve put into it to go to waste. It’s normal to miss something that you’ve put so much time and effort into once you don’t have that anymore. Perhaps that’s the reason you see yourself going back to this situation. It takes time to truly be in a position to be done with a toxic relationship for good. But once you are, it’s something that you’ll know for sure. Trust in yourself, know that you’ve got this. Take some time to do something that you love, and connect with friends and family around you. As a person who has been through this, I can tell you that doing those things has been what has helped me most. One day, after it’s all over, you stop thinking of this person so much. It starts to hurt a little bit less each time you think about them, as you realize you’re headed in a much brighter direction. When you’re truly ready to leave this situation, know that it’s okay to be sad. It’s okay to be hurt, or angry or confused. But, know that you will get through this. And know that you will always have a community here to help you through anything that you may need.

You go back to a toxic relationship because going back to a person who hurt you is often connected to problems with self-worth. How to leave someone who hurts you(toxic person) 1. Cut contact. 2. Stop fantasizing 3. Understand the grieving process 4. Reach out for support 5. Take all the time you need. 6. Ask yourself what you're really looking for in a relationship REMINDER:- Establish yourself as a person, what you believe in. Stop returning to the person who makes you feel less. Because you are more.

Sometimes, you keep going back to a toxic relationship because you don't know what it's like for a relationship to not be toxic. You also convince yourself that maybe you deserve whatever is happening to you in the relationship. Or maybe it's the only way you can feel something and you end up mistaking the toxicity for love. It's completely valid. But please put yourself and your mental health first. You're not weak for going back to a toxic relationship. In fact, it shows your strength in being able to endure it over and over again. However, everyone has a breaking point. You need to critically analyse your relationships and attempt to make them healthier so no one gets hurt. And remember, even when you love each other, it's okay to let go if it becomes toxic, you won't be a bad person for doing so.

Hi there friend! I can actually speak personally on this. We go back to toxic relationships for a number of reasons. A big one is because it is familiar. We as humans want to feel comfortable. And so we go back to things that we know and are used to even if they are bad for us. Another big reason is love. Often we love the person even though they are toxic and we so desperately want to fixed it and be loved back the way we love them. Especially if they were way different in the beginning. It's confusing when they go from treating you from good to bad. A term often referred to as "love bombing". But its important to know that you should never stay in toxic relationships no matter what reasons you have. Better things will come. Me personally I went from a horrible toxic relationship that was painfully one sided to a man who finally treats me with all of the love and respect that I deserve and more. Don't ever settle for less. And remember it's better to single and happy then in a relationship and miserable. It took me my whole life to learn that very hard lesson. There's so much joy in life, don't let anyone take it away from you. I'm here if anyone wants to talk! Much love! :)