Why do I keep going back to my toxic relationship?

This could because you miss the feeling of being in a relationship with someone. It may not be the person that you miss (since they would be the toxic factor of it). But it could be the fact that you miss being in a relationship or with someone. A lot of times, people tend to miss a relationship after they are out of it. A lot of people still long for the feeling of a relationship when they are out of it. This is one of the, but also most likely, reasons for your problem that you have described.

Often, we have deep rooted ties to toxic relationships. It can include reasons such as, not believing you are worthy of genuine and healthy love, feeling comfortable in relationships that are inconsistent due to childhood environment, and abandonment issues, among other things. Do any of these feel true for you? If so, look up suggestions for related therapy (not self-help) books. For example, “Attached” by Dr. Levine is a great resource for understanding attachment theory and why you might keep choosing partners who don’t make you happy in the long run. Or if it have something to do with boundaries, perhaps looking at www.Boundaries.me by Dr. Henry Cloud may help. There is an over abundance of resources, knowledge, and tools at our fingertips. It might seem impossible now, but with some diligent digging in, you can make significant life changes - especially when it comes to unhealthy relationships. You are doing an incredible job just by asking this question and I hope you’re able to find the answers you need

Depending on the person, mostly the relationship is manipulating meaning it is extremely hard to get out of. The person or partner usually is also charming or is dangerous and abusive. Both ways can be harming and lead you back to the toxic relationship. Usually the person is heavily attached to the person which means it can be heart braking and hard to leave the person even if they or the relationship is toxic. Even if you might feel alone, this is very common and many people struggle with it. Remember if you are having struggles, you can always come to 7 cups for help. You can also start the guide program which helps you chat with other people who a having the same issues. It can be very helpful.

I feel you on that one. I had been doing that for quite some time. If I take my experience, the reason that I kept going back is that I didn’t think I had a choice. I didn’t think I have the power or the authority to say no. I also didn’t think anybody else would want me, ever, so in order to feel wanted, I need him. All that was pretty much the fear talking. Plus, I had this belief stuck in my head, ‘this time it will be different.’ We can have such a great time, maybe it will stay like that. Obviously, it didn’t. What helped me a lot is opening up a little bit and realizing that the world does not end with this person. I tried to shift my focus from my inner insecurities to look at the world around me with curiosity. It was hard and didn’t come naturally for me. Many aspects of my progress are still ongoing…but it’s going. :) Inner reflection is necessary, but in my case, I got too self-conscious and I mostly got fixated on the negative things about me and my situation. Let me tell you.. not the best way to go. Of course, I do not know what kind of toxic relationship are we talking about. If it has dangers to physical or mental health or you are concerned that it might, do not be afraid to seek professional help.

For me it was because I felt that I was trapped, or felt that without them I was nothing. I felt they needed me and that I could fix them and their outbursts were just a result of their mental health. While a lot was from their mental health it still wasn't okay. But I tolerated it for a long time until I gained self respect and left it after a year and a half. Anyone that feels they keep going back to their toxic or abusive relationship, don't. It's a cycle, the good times shouldn't make up for how they treat you or how you treat each other negatively. It isn't worth it. There are other opportunities. You deserve more than you think :).

You probably keep going back to your toxic relationship because you believe that everything toxic that happens is love. I have been there so many times before and when I finally end the relationship I think to my self how could I be so dumb and not see the red flags? You might think it’s love but really it’s not. It’s just hurting you mentally and emotionally without you even realizing but it will get better. Just try and listen to your friend when they tell you not to go back to the relationship because they are your friends and they are just trying to help you

From my experience once you love someone like truly love someone it’s hard to see there faults and walk away because when you love someone no matter how much they hurt you, you still want to wrap your arms around them and never let go love is like a drug and it’s hard to just completely stop wanting it but once you start to look for the really bad things in the relationship you will start to realize that the person you love is not as great as you thought because they are the type of person who manipulates others into liking them and the type of person who only really cares about themselves and doesn’t care at all about the others around them and slowly you will be able to fall out of love with them and find someone much better

Every relationship, even really toxic ones, has it's good moments! When you try to let go of something you naturally begin to see all the good moments, and they over shadow the bad! It's important to keep your view realistic and try to move forward to better and healthier things. You are number one and need to care for yourself before anyone else. It can also be because going back to a toxic person is easy. They know you, and you have an established relationship. It's easier than forming an entire new relationship with a brand new person, and therefore can be extremely tempting. Just thoughts from Premmy~

You feel safe. You are comfortable. You focus on the good moments things that it will get back to when you were happy. You are so abused and damage you think no one will ever treat you the same or be able to fix you. And all of that is not true you will get stronger and love deeper! Get a support system to help you stay distracted see how happy you can be without him/her see that you dont need a partner to go on in life. When you love your self loving some else is much easier!

Well it really depends on what you see in your significant other. Most people tend to return to the relationship for the intimacy of it. Maybe your trust in the other person may seem weak but your love for them is strong? It could be a variety of things, love is tricky. Why not write down your thoughts about the other person and ask yourself how they are benefiting you in your life? Are they making you happy? If not, then why go back? Those questions can be answered by yourself. Once you answer those questions, I believe that you'll have your answer.