Why can't I learn to open up to people?

Learning to open up to people is a hard thing to do that takes a lot of practice. You have to want to learn and take baby steps of opening up and 7cups is a great place to start that since it is anonymous. By starting with baby steps such as just stating when you had a hard day or you get a bad grade you may find it easier in the future to open up. And by starting small on resources such as 7cups you. may be able to build up the confidence to start confiding in your friends or family.

Hello, great question. The simple answer would be opening up is very difficult when you do not want people to know or are uncomfortable opening up at all. I don’t believe anyone has to open up. Only do what is right for you when it is right for you. Maybe you are not trying to open up to the right person or people. I speak from experience answering this very question so maybe you would benefit from opening up to a listener such as me. Please do check out my profile and decide if I might be the type of listener you would want to open up to. All the best :)

Something at some point taught you that opening up was akin to asking to be nearly killed. The fact that your body physically freezes leads me to believe that it happened at an extremely young age, because there's no basis in logic and/or more mature control. Maybe you saw, as a very young child, a family member be abused. Maybe you were privy to a fight between your parents at such a young age that you don't even remember (nor, probably, do they) that led you to believe that telling the truth about your emotions would result in dire ruin. Whatever happened, you're now blocked. And lying is not the solution, as you well know, because then people either hate you when the ferret out the truth, or act in ways that are not helpful based upon the lies. You can try to figure it out, but since I have survived abuse, I have found that often as a method of protecting us, our brain will simply refuse to allow us to go there until we have healed enough that we can stand to re-visit the trauma, and you're clearly not there. Since you feel physically unable to speak about whatever is going on in your head and heart, I would suggest starting with a very personal, no one every sees it journal where you write down what you're feeling and thinking. Keep doing it daily until your subconscious gets the idea that you will no longer be stuffing these emotions. Once that happens, you may find it possible to seek out either a trusted friend and/or therapist and begin making small steps to talk about things. I did so by letting the therapist begin to read select pages in the journal, and then ask questions.

You can! Opening up and trusting people is a skill literally everybody can learn. And it isn't just you. Maybe you have made bad experiences in your past and that's why your brain doesn't want to open up. That's okay. We can fix that. First of all, what helped me too opening up to people, is viewing it at another perspective. Showing yourself vulnerable makes you feel and seem strong. Have you ever seen people being completly open with their flaws or with their disabilitys? These people aren't just born like that. They only trust. If you can do that, other people will think you're strong and likeable as well. It isn't that likely that people will betray you when you act like it isn't such a big thing. Mistakes, flaws, illnesses etc. are completely normal. They only become your weaknesses, if you act like they were. But they aren't I wish you best of luck.

Sometimes it helps to ask others questions and listen to them open up to you first. Listening to others may provide you with some commonalities and help you realize you can safely open up to them and share some things about yourself. Finding that common ground can help both you and the other person relate and feel comfortable together. Especially if you find it difficult to open up, discovering that you have more in common than initially thought can help to start the process of you opening up to another person. It helps to start sharing one small thing about yourself if this is difficult for you. As it enables the other person the opportunity to enquire more about yourself and slowly begin enabling you to open up more about yourself.

it's not that you can't learn to open up to people, it's that you're frightened to. you're letting you nervousness take over your entire personality as a whole, which is causing you to feel like an outcast, isolated from everyone else, or shying yourself away, as some people would call it. i feel that to be able to open up is to have confidence about yourself on the inside & out and to be able to trust others. in order to trust others, you have to be able to trust yourself. to conclude, the reason for this is bc we just cannot simply open up to ourselves.

When it comes to opening up to people, you don't have to do it with every person that comes in to your life. We all hate to be vulnerable. If you come across someone who consistently overshares their personal business, they’re the odd one out, not you. Most of us from early in childhood are not entirely trusting of anyone. Have you ever seen a toddler hide behind his adult of choice when confronted with a stranger? Infants in their cribs become agitated when approached by someone they consider a threat, and they do that based simply on the inborn facial recognition software that tells them when a person isn’t friendly. Experiments were done using balloons with faces drawn on, and infants were clearly upset by the frowning faces and drawn to the smiley ones.

It can be difficult to open up to people, especially if you're a quiet or introverted person, or if you've been hurt in the past. Sometimes, it is hard to open up due to trust issues, or because you, yourself, don't feel you have much to open up about. A good way to tell why this is hard for you is to ask questions of your self like: 1) Do I have things to express to people that I hold back or don't express? 2) What makes those things hard to express or unlikely to be expressed? 3) Do I see value in opening up to people? 4) Do I have fears about opening up? If so, what specific fears do I have, and what are they based on? Are they realistic fears? Answering these questions may help you get insight into why it is difficult for you, in particular, to open up to people.

there can be a number of reasons as to why you're feeling like you can't learn to open up to individuals. every now and then you'll have issues opening up to people once you have issues trusting other individuals, you're not comfortable with yourself, you've been harmed some time recently & you are feeling like no one is tuning in to you. for me, those would be the reasons why i would have a difficult time opening up to others. opening up to individuals is truly extreme, since when we open up to individuals we are defenseless to them. portion of the reason why you can't open up to individuals could be a fear of being vulnerable. is there something that has happened in your past that has made you doubting of others? were you once rejected by somebody for opening up to them? try to distinguish where you're stuck, and it might assist you open up. presently, opening up to individuals may be an exceptionally troublesome thing to do. in arrange to let that happen, you must to begin with recognize why you're perplexed of letting individuals in. attempt composing down what you're feeling, each single feeling and detail. donate it to one of your closest companions or indeed to an grown-up. you're opening up to someone, through composing. that will assist you w/ becoming more certain & before long, you may indeed be able to conversation around it individually. everything is taken step by step.

Opening up to someone can be a very tough and hard thing to do, especially if you are a very reserved and introverted person. first of all, i think you need to trust the other person to open up to someone. it is very hard to open up to someone who we do not trust, so i suggest you give yourself some time and not rush opening up to someone. take your time and you can open up to them when you feel you are ready. when you practise this more and more, you will be able to open up to people whether you know them well or not.