Why are we fighting over small and stupid things?

You might be fighting with the one you love because you have so much similarities and likes. You might also be going through a phase where the both of you needs a little space!

We fight over small and stupid things because it means that we care so much about things no matter how small or big of a deal it is. It can be a good thing or bad thing, depend on you.

Sometimes anxiety and stress is more about the little things in life. Things tend to implode in the smaller things to hide the fact that there are bigger things on the picture that we must face.

Define small and stupid things? What is small and stupid to one life form's pov, maybe a HUGE obstacle to another life form. You cannot define what someone else is feeling or thinking unless they say so or evidence through actions or what they said is given. So knowing that would prevent a lot of small stupid fights and give something called empathy and compassion. The other reason might be because we all can be small and stupid sometimes. So we can do dumb things simply without thinking, or because we didn't know. So checking yourself first to understand why the life form is reacting to you in a specific way, helps to eliminate another portion of the petty fights that could happen. Save your energy for the more important fights to come, the fight for love and life. Thank you very much .

Ummmm ... I think that small and stupid things are not that much small and stupid for the person you are fighting

You both or one of you might have something else thats bothering you which leads to you guys taking it out on eachother. I know exactly where you are coming from and you both just need to talk about what bothers you and what you both think would make the fighting stop

Sometimes fighting over small things mean you care towards each other and the small things. it can be stressful, but it is best not to worry about them too much.

Because something bigger is wrong but not being addressed and we feel powerless to change it. Or we could just be tired, stressed or overworked.

Every "stupid" thing is not that stupid if we take time to consider its aspects. There's also another aspect to evaluate: when small things pile up, they build a huge thing. Instead of fighting over them, a good technique is to try to observe without judging. Try this exercise: imagine yourself looking at the sky, peacefully ejoying the nature around you. Look at the shape of clouds: they come and go very fast, there's no need to feel attachment towards them. Once you feel that detachment, think of something that is bothering you at the moment and treat it like a cloud.

Sometimes we do it because it is easier to express your feelings over something trivial than over something that really matters. So we mask our true issues with small and not really important ones. And sometimes we feel like we just need to vent and use that as an excuse to be apalled, offended, annoyed... And sometimes we really are as petty as it seems even though we would like to come across as a bigger person. But usual small fights just show we are not happy with our current situation which more often than not has nothing to do with the fight itself.