Who do I feel worthless and unlovable after being broken up with?

Can I tell you a secret? You're not the only one who feels like that. It's actually a normal thing to feel. When we get broken up with, it signifies to us that something is wrong with us, or that we weren't good enough. But those are just negative thoughts playing tricks with our heads, and they can really do us harm. It's up to us to challenge those negative thoughts and turn them into neutral or positive ones. Why didn't the relationship work? No matter how it ended, a relationship takes two people. So if it didn't work, maybe it means that you weren't a good pair. If you feel unlovable after being broken up with, maybe that means that you have to work on your confidence. Sometimes relationships don't work, and that's okay. Being broken up with is not a reflection of your worthiness to be loved, because you're amazing.

Because you were once treated so special that once all that has been taken away from you all you've left with is grief over what happened. It's just a stage of grief and with time you will feel better. You just have to be strong enough to do it

You feel worthless and unlovable after being broken up with because you loved that person so much but they apparently didn't feel the same way. It crushes you and you want nothing more than for the person to come back, explain it was a cruel joke or something and apologize. You feel like this because you loved this person with everything in you but they can just break up with you. You feel as if nothing matters anymore and that nobody else will love you. Because you feel lost and broken. And I still don't know how to get over it, but I'm working on it.

Sometimes we seem to judge ourselves based on how people we value look at us, and even though they might have broken up with you for no fault of yours.... it can really make you doubt yourself as suddenly this person who you admire doesn't love you back. And you feel if this person doesn't love you back, nothing will make you feel happy and so you tend to feel unlovable.

It's okay to feel like that, especially after a breakup, however it's not okay to believe that. Many a times after breaking up we feel like we're not worth it, like we're not capable of giving and receiving love. But that's just because of the fact that you've recently broken up and you're heartbroken. A broken heart tends to think like that you know. The pain after the high you feel when you're in love is unimaginable, especially if you were really in love with that person. It feels like choking, suffocating and drowning. Under all this pressure it's likely that people start questioning their worth. But let me tell you something, you're worth it, you're perfect and you're beautiful. Just because things didn't work out this time doesn't mean they won't work the next time. In these times never give up on yourself and wake up everyday thinking that somewhere out there, your true love lies, somewhere out there that person hasn't given up on you and somewhere out there they're fighting for you because they know, they know that you're worth it.

The other person doesn't want to be with you any longer. Thus, you begin to question yourself, since you wonder what it is about yourself that appalled the other individual to the point that they couldn't be with you any longer. And, as you search for an answer, you inspect yourself harshly, and critically, thus, magnifying the negative aspects of yourself to the point that you feel like you're unworthy of affection. Since someone else couldn't love you, you feel like, you can't love yourself either.

My boyfriend of 1 1/2 years. Although it wasn't the longest relationship ever, it was very hard to come back from. I ended up crying myself into mononucleosis after it, and it took a few months to finally get over that. But after i started hanging out with friends and telling them what i needed help with, they were happily there for me.

You feel worthless and unlovable after being broken up with because you value things you believe you do not possess.

Sometimes, after a relationship ends, you are left feeling as though the heartache you feel will never go away. You think that you'll never move on or that you'll never feel the same way about anyone else. It really just takes time. The best thing to do is surround yourself with people who love you and to do activities that make you feel as though you are worth something! Because you absolutely are lovable and valuable!

The chemicals in your brain make you love somebody, they are oxytocin and I think norepinephrine (oxytocin is the same chemical that goes through a woman's brain when she has a baby, it makes her uncontrollably love her baby. Even if she didn't want it). When the person you love breaks up with you it decreases your seratonin level, controls your mood, and makes you depressed. The initial love chemicals are still there but there is a decrease in seratonin. Basically you feel unlovable because the person you cared so much for didn't have the same chemicals towards you