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What is the best way to stop myself from calling my ex whenever I'm lonely?

Profile: DipityEnigma
DipityEnigma on May 10, 2015
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I always stick to the motto "Ex's are ex's for a reason". Never forget why the relationship ended. The reason most people will for back with an ex is because they remember the good times. People don't just break up. It usually has to be for a very good reason. If you're lonely, try finding someone to talk to, finding a new hobby or taking up an old one, going out places with any people you know etc. I know it's hard to be lonely and not have anyone there for you, believe me but contacting an ex is usually one of the biggest mistakes you'll ever make.
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Profile: MonBon
MonBon on Apr 8, 2015
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There are several options, I wouldn't necessarily call one of them the "best" You can come on here: we have several group chats or you can one on one with a listener. You can call a friend, whether it's through skype or whatever. You can watch a movie or a tv show. You can play a game. You can clean your room. Anything to distract you and remind yourself that you are worthy.
Profile: 4you247
4you247 on May 30, 2015
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I order to give yourself a moment to hesitate before doing this, perhaps change their name in your phone to 'wait' and give yourself a breathing time to question whether it is really what you want to do. If not, call up a friend or parent instead to stop yourself feeling so alone :)
Profile: newbeginnings3
newbeginnings3 on Mar 13, 2015
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I understand that this is very hard, but direct your thoughts elsewhere. When your ex comes into mind, push those thoughts away. You can control the direction of your thoughts. Try calling someone else, finding other company, or occupying your time with things that you like and are fun. Take your time to fully get over your relationship. Good luck!
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Apr 10, 2015
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one must accept the fact and move on :) the more you will hang on the more you will tend to hurt yourself :)
Profile: keeleybearx
keeleybearx on Dec 19, 2016
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Ask yourself if they are really worth it. I've struggled with relationships in the past where the other person simply didn't care for me, or was using me. If they themselves haven't bothered to reach out to you, then they do not care for you like you do for them. Would you really want to be with someone who doesn't feel the same way about you as you do about them?
Profile: Celty
Celty on Jan 15, 2015
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You can erase his number, find someone else to talk with, connecto to 7cups, distract yourself by practising sport or art, and remember that even if you FEEL lonely you're not alone. :)
Profile: AaronWenny
AaronWenny on Jun 17, 2015
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The best solution is don't put yourself into a lonely state. For example, you can make new friends, focus on other things which interest you, which makes you forget about loneliness and make time passes faster. The ultimate way to stop yourself from calling your ex whenever you're lonely is to get rid of that lonely thoughts. Don't think that you're "lonely", get rid of it and replace with better positive words.
Profile: heycrysteezy
heycrysteezy on Aug 31, 2015
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Find a new hobby, get into a new show, exercise, hang out with a friend or friends if possible, family if that's an option, but if all else fails, block their number. If they try to get ahold of you in some other way, like social media, you can choose not to respond, but you can also choose to explain to them that you are trying to focus on you and recover, and don't want to be tempted to call them. If they don't understand, then it justifies the breakup even more.
Profile: knickknacks
knickknacks on Apr 22, 2015
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Well, you should remind yourself that he/she is already your ex and it's over between you two. You dont need to ask him to talk to you whenever you are lonely. Try to meet other people who can make you happy!
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