Should I tell my boyfriend that I cheated?

To answer questions like this, I believe that it's easier to find the answer when you flip the question around. So rather than asking if I should tell my boyfriend that I cheated, flip it to "would I want to know if my boyfriend cheated". If the answer is yes, then tell him, if the answer is no, then you can choose to not tell him.

It is impossible to state a universal answer to this question that will work for all situations. Some things to consider, however, are as follows: 1. Will telling your boyfriend create an unsafe environment for you? Will he react in a manner that may put you in danger? 2. Have you always been open and honest with no instances of retaliation or judgment? 3. Do you feel telling your boyfriend will have a positive/negative impact on your long-term relationship? There are many other things you should consider before proceeding. Once you feel you are ready to open up about the topic of cheating, ensure you have some supporters to lean on in case the discussion does not go as planned, or even if you are unsure about what to say in order to help manage the situation. Only you can know how to approach this situation, and I know you will follow your heart and make the best decision that you are able to make when the time comes.

That depends on if it’s something that will eat away at you if you don’t. Or if you want to stay with your boyfriend, have no plans or wants to be with anyone else and you know that your cheating is a past memory that won’t bother you because you know it was a mistake and you can forgive yourself for it. I understand wanting to be truthful and 100% honest and transparent in a relationship but sometimes the truth doesn’t do any good. Sometimes it just hurts leaving your relationship broken and possibly so badly so that you can’t fix it. Him knowing most likely will just leave him hurt and feel like he’s not enough, and quite possibly ending the relationship leaving both of you heartbroken..Unless he’s amazing and forgives you for your mistakes and understands why and how it happened. Just remember it you choose to be brave and she this with him , you’ll never be able to take it back and you will always be labeled as a “cheater” and unfortunately sometimes word gets around. Yes, I’m speaking from experience. I hope this helps and that you do what feels right and what’s best for you.

Yes, keeping the secret to yourself will only make you become paranoid and feel more guilty everyday. And once you tell your partner the truth and explain yourself, you could both try and work something out together and help each other to move on from the situation.

Yes! Honesty is the only option that should ever be available. Even though circumstances may be hard to deal with after, it will be on high moral ground and you will have nothing to hide. Plus you will know you did the right thing to tell the truth. If you lie, then even though it may be easier in the moment, in the future keeping lies can cause even more pain. In addition, if you are eventually caught then the lying will make everything worse. Therefore, all acts of cheating must be confessed.

It is better to have come from you then anyone else out there. It would hurt him either way but it would make him more mad if some1 else tells him then you telling him.

Absolutely. The trust might be gone afterwards, but he will respect you so much more if you do tell him. The trust can be built back, with dedication from both sides.

This is not a one answer fits all question, However, you have to do what is best for you and also you both as a couple. Think about if you were in his shoes and he cheated on you? Would you want to know? Would you be upset? The biggest things in a relationship should always be Trust and Honesty. You can't have that if you cheat and then don't tell the truth about it afterwards.

This is your choice. But if you ask me, personally, I would. The basic thing in a relationship (whatever it is) is trust. If I would cheat my girlfriend I would of course tell her, because she has the right to decide what to do after having known it. I can't deny her this right.

Yes, Honesty is the best policy. It may or may not go your way but being honest still proves that you're willing to tell the truth to your loved one.