My long-term boyfriend told me that my mental health has affected him and he just wants to be friends as though nothing more ever happened. This really hurts me. What should I do?

Give him space because I have a feeling that he needs help and maybe that you should see a therapist.One time before I went through a break up. I really liked the guy but his behavior and morals were not something I understood then. I wanted to leave but had to do it privately because he was not safe as far as loosing his temper at his mothers but when I tried to do it behind his back it did not work. At his parents house I felt trapped. I was abused and I was told by his mom too see a therapist. I liked his parent but his mom told me that as well meaning since she already had a good ability to see that when you enter toxic relationships it may be two and break ups with space is not always forever. Just if you ask that it must have made you think we'll maybe ? I do know you would be wise to speak with a professional when in a relationship anytime because I would have been so much more aware if I would have had some kind of support like this place with therapists. You also should definitely take some self help by as you find out from a professional what is toxic and if the other person says this just do know that this is not all your fault . He is saying something as a need for space maybe he is needing to regroup and is hard to say since so many people have had these experiences I hate to see the other side of something happens because this person wouldn't let the need of space be allowed. It is hard not to take this personal that why it is best to be a better self aware person and then you will know what you need to and get your space since it is a good thing to know thyself and love yourself first.If someone perhaps does have a mental issue what if they would not be able to know because the mental illness was hurting them so it turned into a worse personality and then you would have to be aware since it would be a fault to know you could be harming the person you love and that's you by knowing that you did not care or know the proper thing to know in this day there is so many people who are able to get a better life because they were not worried about finding out because being human is knowing this is better than doing nothing. Mental health is very helpful to check up on so let him get the space and say I am not going to not do that for myself. This man has you looking at yourself and you were in a relationship right and this is why both sides need some good advice. It has to be the choice you make. If you were harming him it would be wise if he went to see why he felt this way because when a person is not happy with their own self they must know if they make the choice to get the help to know why he is blaming you or asking for space by saying your mental health. Just all I heard was space. Two people and not sure but it is not yet understood why and it is never to late to find out and I hope you get that this in a good way even though any relationship is going to have obstacles. The better you know your needs and who you are better then this will be an easier situation. Hope you have good luck and I wish I did this a long time ago since I saw so many things I missed by not knowing and thinking only crazy people need help. I was not aware that this is normal. It is not normal to be unwell after all you deserve it.

Hi dear, all you have to do is to respect his decision. He wants to stay as your friend because he need sometime to sees his self. If that guy truely loves you, he will accept as whatever you are and will support you in everything. I know it's super hard to let go someone but you have too because it would be the best for both of you.

HONESTLY, he is the worst kind of person for leaving you when you needed him the most. He is not the kind of person you want around you when you need to better yourself for yourself. He is toxic, along with that selfish behavior. I can't tell you how to proceed because I don't know the full situation, but honestly, he isn't right for you. It's going to hurt for a while, that's undeniable, but I believe the best thing you can do at this point is to take all that hurt and turn into something beautiful like worrying about yourself, your wellbeing and your mental health.

This is a lot because maybe you have been overly expressing your mental health problems and It kind of pushed him away but if he is long term that means he should have kind of gotten used to it over time. On the mental health aspect I will definitely recommend seeing a licensed therapist if its deteriorating your personal relationship(s). Being friend zoned doesn't make the relationship over just the sex aspect and you can't "claim" them. So I would build on the friendship(you need that anyway), work on my mental health, have fun and show him that you're still that girl.

It is really hard for some people to hear, but mental health issues affect everyone around us. Just as it is unpleasant for US to experience, it can also be really tough for those around us too. Certain mental health conditions can be really draining to those closest to us and can have the unfortunate side-effect of leading them to develop their own mental health issues. I once dated a girl with depression and self-esteem issues. I tried and tried to be a positive force in her life but she wasn't ready to move past her issues, and so MY mental wellbeing started being affected. As much as it hurt me to break up with her, I had to as the relationship started negatively impacting the other parts of my life. People aren't always equipped to know how to manage others with mental health issues. So, seeing their loved ones suffering is really stressful. The more we care the more it can hurt us to see them suffer. It is truly unfortunate. It is nobody's fault. It just an unfortunate reality of how these sorts of things go.

Its his strict no physical or emotional contact policy. Though it appears like this. However, this is him. You can't force him to think happy or sad for you. Chose wisely.

It is important to protect yourself and be aware of negative influences. Keep yourself as the priority and take your time to heal.

There's not much you can do about him he has already made this choice right on focus on yourself and your needs

Well, you must respect his wishes if he wants to end the relationship, he must respect yours if you are incapable of friendship. However, if you want to make it work, you may need to better explain what mental health care helps, how you cope, how to make it easier for him to understand and tend, as well as help you understand that he too is taking on the pressure, and must also be tended and nurtured. Both parties may have to work harder to make the whole thing work. It is up to the two of you.

You should speak to him about what he means by this and think about if he cannot support you on your lows, then wouldn’t you want someone else to be there with you on your highs?