My boyfriend or girlfriend wants to break up with me, how can I change their mind?

I think the first point to address here is the 'mind changing' part. You shouldn't be focusing on changing their mind, you should maybe try to work on understanding what may have happened to get to this point in your relationship. Also working on accepting and respecting their wishes.

In my opinion you shouldn't try to, it causes an unhealthy relationship. You'd basically be forcing your partner into a commitment they don't want

It may be difficult to hear this, but in all likelihood you cannot change their mind they have already decided they want to end their romantic relationship with you. We cannot control other people's feelings & actions, we can only control our own. So you can focus on yourself instead - why do you want to be in a relationship with someone who doesn't actually want a relationship with you? You deserve a partner who is equally as excited to be with you as you are to be with them - not someone who will constantly need convincing to stick around.

first off ask them why he/she is making this decision, then take into consideration that he/she should appreciate you and you shouldn't have to fight to keep them from leaving you unless circumstances have given he/she reason to. Don't settle.

Well, every situation is different, but in general, to keep someone that wants to break up with you, you can always try to be something that you are not. Try changing for them and ignoring your own thoughts, feelings and desires. Keep working hard to make them happy with everything you do. This might appear to be effective for a while before you are exhausted and slip back into who you really are. At that point, the other person might again want to break up. You could repeatedly try again (I did this off and on for 7 years) or let go and look for someone who wants to be with you for who you are (I also did this and discovered the partner I always wanted to be with). One way is less pain then the other, but you have the right to find out for yourself.

I feel that you can change their mind, but it shouldn't be about that, you will only make yourself unhappy in the long run. Want what makes them happy, then you can say you truly loved them enough, because you loved them until the end and loved them whole-heartedly.

You can not force anyone to love you back . Its a natural and inside feeling. If one wants to move on from relationship then you should let him or her go. Their comfort and happiness also important. Yes you should ask him or her the reason of quit and if you feel that there is some miscommunication and confusion then you should talk to each other but if she or he wants to move on without any reason or just because of he or she wants some change then you should not stop them. Its just my thinking.

Instead of changing their minds...change your own mind!!! You don't need someone to forcefully stay back in your life!! C'mon you are better than this buddy! We need to let them have their way in the relationship! If they aren't happy then they have every right to leave!! Do not convince by words ......your actions should do the job! ❤

It's difficult to be changing their mind, because the emotions they feel towards you are emotions they only themselves can control. It will be hurting you more in the longtime if you are unable to let it go.

To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering, one must not love. But then, one suffers from not loving. Therefore, to love is to suffer; not to love is to suffer; to suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy, then, is to suffer, but suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be happy, one must love or love to suffer or suffer from too much happiness.

You can not chamge peoples mind, you can persuade them by changing but it is their decision on what they want to do.

Well, they'll have their reasons. Maybe they've started to feel unhappy in this relationship. The best way is to ask for their reasons and solve the problem together :)

Are you sure you want to change their mind?

Well, honestly I really don't think that you can change their mind. I mean there is always gestures that may fix the problem, but then you will never know if they are in the relationship for you or because of what you offered them. You can have also have a conversation with he/she explaining to them why you should stay together, but at the end of the day it is up to them to decide whether they want to continue the relationship or not. You can't make someone love you or stay with you. If they decided to break up with you try to find a way to just let it be because the break up is probably for the best and you may not be meant to be with him/her. There is no harm in trying to save a relationship with someone that you love and/or really like, but sometimes you have to just let go and let God. Let time and fate do it's magic and if it's meant to be it'll be. If not it just worked out for the best and you just need to try to move on.

It's their choice. You can't change their mind, only they can. What you can do is tell them you don't want to do so but even then, it's up to the both of you what you wish to agree upon. If the person says no why try and force them with you.

You find out why the want to break up with you. Maybe you have flaws they don't like and maybe you can change them. That is the easiest way

If you have a significant other that wishes to break up with you--let them. Anyone who knows your worth will appreciate you and wish to be with you. If the person you're with no longer wishes to pursue a relationship with you--you both deserve the chance to find someone who will. Begging them back or sacrificing something about yourself in order to convince them to stay-- is not only unfair to yourself but also a means of creating resentment between the two of you. The saying "if you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you it was meant to be, if they don't-- they weren't." is one of the truest sayings I've come across in my relationship experiences. Everyone deserves to be with someone that desires and loves them--no exceptions.

You cannot force anyone to be with you the best you can do is respect their decision(although its very hard to) and let them know that you would always have their back even though you guys are not in contact

There may be a way...but it's hard to change anything where nothing gonna works out...So we first have to make sure if this relationshi really works out where there's only one hand to clap..

It will probably not be the answer you would want to hear, but it's time to let them go. Your boyfriend/girlfriend may want to break up with you for several reasons, but usually it is mostly about them and not you. If there is no way to work it out, it's time to let it go. It will be the hardest thing to do, but set them free. Let them find their happiness and you will find yours.