I cheated, should I break up with my partner?

I understand what you are going through. I have been in your place once. Tell me more about what happened.

I think that would depend on the reason for cheating.. If you just think it was a moment of weakness, drunk at a party etc. you know what I mean, something of that nature.. i would say no.. but if the infidelity is causing you a lot of grief and stress possibly. I think when people cheat there is usually something that caused it. not enough affection from your partner, feeling neglected things of that nature. so if you had, lets say a moment of weakness:).. I would say no.. If you are truly unhappy in the relationship in general. then yes.. only you really know what happened, and why.. just take your time and think it over. dont rush into a decision.. I have been in the same situation..

I think before you ask yourself if you should break up with your partner, you should try asking yourself some other questions first. Do you think you would ever cheat again? Why is it that you cheated in the first place? Will you have a discussion with your partner about what you did? How would you react if you found out your partner cheated on you? There are so many questions that should be asked, but always remember, communication is one of the key aspects of a relationship. Before thinking about breaking it off, ask your partner what he/she thinks of all of this as well.

Do you know why you cheated? Do you have stronger feelings for your affair partner or the other person in your relationship? It'll take a lot of soul searching to figure out which is the best choice for you.

Yes. Cheating is never ever okay. If you find yourself developing an inclination towards another person, first break up with your current partner, then go about your business. Don't do it WHILE still in a relationship.

I'm in a 8yr relationship and she has cheated on me I try to forget and forgive but I just ended up doing the same thing she did to me now I'm moving forward because no matter how hard you try that thought will always be in your mind best to let go and move on

A relationship takes two people in order to make it work and communication between those two people is a necessity. I think it might be helpful to do a little soul searching and try to figure out why you felt compelled to seek the attention of someone other than your partner. Is there a flaw in your relationship or is it possibly a deep seeded issue within yourself? Take time to reflect and figure out some things about your situation. Another good question to ask yourself is: What do you want? Is your current relationship giving you the tools to help make you happy or are you simply in it for the other person? After you've answered some of these then I think it would be a good idea to communicate with your partner about what happened. They will probably have questions and react with more emotion than logic. Try to remain grounded, and calm. This will help you stay on track with what you want to express. You may even try rehearsing aloud or writing down what you'd like to say to your partner. This is ultimately going to take effort from the both of you if both agree to salvage the relationship, however your partner may feel that the trust just isn't there anymore. They may need time to digest the information and do a little soul searching of their own. When it comes down to it, the ultimate goal of a relationship is to create a symbiotic harmony in which both people can find comfort and happiness in the company of the other person. If one doesn't feel like that, than perhaps it's best for both people to move on. You can't force emotions that aren't there. It may be a hard task, but in the end you'll be able to pick yourself up and try to pursue happiness either with your current partner or with another.

You must go and confront your partner first. Depending upon the reaction that he/she gives after listening to you, you will find a way out. If he accepts you, well and good. If he refuses, then you must accept and respect his decision and move on.

No! Ask yourself why and take a look at your behavior, is it something that you are not getting from your partner that caused you to cheat? Is it a level of freedom that you want in your relationships? Are you just wanting to explore and expand but not leave the person you're with? After answering these I'd then TALK to them and share your experience. Tell them what you learned, reassure them you're not going anywhere (if you've decided to stay) or tell them why you're choosing to leave. Cheating doesn't mean an end to a relationship, it just means its time for honesty, both within yourself, and with your partner.

If you cheated because you are really not into your partner then yes. You are not doing him/her any favors by staying in a relationship you are ambivalent about.