I broke up with him even though I do love him and he loves me. I had to! How can I move on from someone I can't find a reason to hate?

I understand you had to break up with him despite loving him. Can you please help me understand the reason you initiated this break up?

I had to do the same thing recently. We both loved each other, but there were signs it was unhealthy because of fighting. We were best friends and I miss him terribly, but if something in your gut tells you that you need to end it, you have to listen to your gut. There is a reason you broke up, and in time you will be glad you followed your instincts.

I know how you feel, sometimes we have to move on as the situation demands it and we don't get one valid to do so because we love the person so much and we don't want to leave them. But we have to focus on what's coming and where we want to go. look at the facts and what happens if we don't move on. It doesn't mean we don't the love the person It's just that we have to be away for sometime. That's it, with time everything seems to fall in the right place. I think this should help, let me know your thoughts about it.Thank you

You don't have to hate someone to move on. Sometimes, relationships end because both people aren't compatible, no matter how much you love each other. With time and supportive people around you, you'll move on.

Not all breakups have to end in a battle of epic proportions. Sometimes they just come to an end and this is ok, we are all different with UNIQUE situations that no online forum, chat, article, and/or video can sooth completely. I think the best thing to do is ask yourself “Why do I need negative in order to be positive? Why can't we just be who we are, aware of each other, and still live life peacefully?”, Nowhere is it written that in order for you to move on to the next thing in life, you must first feel negativity toward it. If that were true, every song we listen to on the radio, every text we read or every milestone in life would be so upsetting that we will never look forward to a future. What a sad life that must be. I say stay positive and keep looking forward. Its ok to still love what you had, but it's important to keep looking forward and not burning bridges. If you stay positive and they did as well, imagine a future where you two meet again, it would be a beautiful reconnection without fear, anger or resentment. And who knows, maybe the second time around will be better than the first. Because you were positive, you gave your self the opportunity to have the choice and that is a better outcome then the latter, isn’t it?

Well you have to ask yourself, did you only break up with him because, in your eyes, he was too good to be in reality with?

Very carefully. You have to look at it like that game we all played as a kid, what was it? Janga. That's it. Don't remove the blocks too fast, or it'll crash and the slightest move will land you right back in each other's arms. It'l feel great in the moment, but afterwards, all the reasons you had to break up will still be there.

Sometimes we feel very strong feelings for someone who we are just not compatible with in a relationship. It is a tough process to go through but with the right support system (friends and family) one can overcome these challenges. No one is the same , we all work in a different way and we all connect with people in a different way. Sometimes when we have strong feelings for someone we automatically assume that that person was made to be our boyfriend or girlfriend without realising that sometimes that person is in our life to teach us something different or to be a friend. The fact you love him just shows how caring you are even though you had to break up with him. It just shows how genuinely caring you are to still be thinking of not only your feeling but his too.

You have to find closure within yourself for that relationship. You don't have to hate him to realize you guys aren't right for each other. Mourn the loss of the relationship, unfriend him on everything and start to live your life again. Pick up activities you haven't in awhile. Focus on work/friends/self care/school.

i had to breakup with gf because our families didnt accept our relationships, the way i got closure isnt by hating her, because i dont hate her, its just accepting it. I guess you have to accept that sometimes there are things that are out of your hand, and this is for the better. Just gotta wish that one day even though it will hurt you, they find someone who will love them like you did. So my answer is dont try to find a reason to hate them,because that will ruin the image you have of them in your head, just accept that it happened and even thought its hard to imagine, but one day you will move on and find someone who is also great for you :).