How to stop hating yourself after cheating?
RainnyKParadise
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Mar 27, 2020
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Cheating can make you blame yourself for your mistake. However, nobody is perfect since they are born. We all go through lessons in our lives; some by trials and errors. If cheating occurred, you might not know better at the time. After you have realized your wrong. It would be the right thing to apologize from the heart to the person who you wronged. Be sincere. Do not expect a person to forgive you right away. This can take time but you do not say sorry to get forgiveness. You do it to free yourself from your past mistake. You then forgive yourself. Telling yourself that now you have learned how your action could cause the pain in the other person. You make commitment to not repeat the same mistake again. You do not need to hate yourself for your mistakes. You do not carry the baggage of your past. You can always realize your wrong, correct it, learn from it, move on and start fresh.
Waluigi420
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Apr 8, 2020
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It’s natural to feel bad after cheating. What you need to try to do instead of hating yourself for what you did, is to accept that everyone makes mistakes and bad choices. What really matters is that you realise what you did was bad, and that you need to try and not do it again. Hating yourself isn’t going to fix what you’ve done, but maybe admitting what you’ve done and accepting it, so that you can move past it, might help. I really hope this helps a little bit! Hope you have a good day and stay strong
ListenerKatia
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Apr 9, 2020
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Learn from your mistakes, learn to know yourself. Usually behind an error there was another error. Don't take all the blame. Just make sure it never happens again. I know what cheating means, I know how bad you are, I know how much you lose the importance of yourself, as if I don't know you anymore. But I want you to know that if you are worrying, if you feel guilty, you are not a bad person, quite the contrary. Don't punish yourself, don't blame yourself for everything. If you are worried you are not a bad person, you have only made a mistake and everyone can commit them. This is because we are humans and humans are wrong. But being human we have the rationality to understand our mistakes and become the best version of ourselves. Everything will improve, work on yourself.
ListenerJennie
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Jul 22, 2020
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You are a good person full of a spectrum of qualities. And the first step to stop hating yourself and forgiving yourself is to accept that its’ happened and move on. You made a mistake, it has happened and it’s now in the past and is best left behind you. Now you must look forward, not back. Be kind to yourself. Its human nature to make mistakes but one mistake does not define you as a person. If you kept notes of your time with your partner you’d see that you’ve likely done loads of good for your partner more so than bad actions. One mistake has happened but you have lots of qualities and the fact that you want to stop hating yourself shows that you know it was a mistake, so please, be kind to yourself, forgive yourself and look forward. Not back. Feel free to message me if you want to speak :) Take care.
IntuitiveMuse1313
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Jul 31, 2020
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After the act is done and the self hate sets in you have to allow yourself some time to process what happened. Think about why it happened and how it made you feel. If it's something that you may do again and why. Once you understand your motivation behind the action you will be able to forgive yourself and work on a plan to not have it happen again. When you have reached that point then you will be able to better guage if you need to leave the relationship you are in and if it is giving you what you need, or if it is healthy for you.
Anonymous
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Aug 6, 2020
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Acknowledge what you have done, what you have learned from the experience, and how you can move forward. Everyone makes mistakes and you must know that to move forward you must let go of these ill feelings. Be willing to think about your mistakes thoroughly. It may be difficult, but analyzing the actions and feelings that lead you to make cheat may help you better understand that you are not fully to blame and hate. Things happen, if your partner is willing to mend the situation take this time to acknowledge any issues you may have as a team as well as individuals.
Petra1234
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Aug 6, 2020
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First step is to forgive yourself. Maybe forgiveness letter to yourself would help? Think about all circumstances that caused that you cheated. Think in what way it changed your life. What do you need to move forward? How moving forward would benefit your life? It's a process, but starting with forgiveness is a good thing. Remember that everyone makes a mistakes - it's also about taking lessons from it. Experiences (both good and bad) makes us wiser people. It's important that after the mistakes we have to take responsibility, say sorry to the loved ones and to try to built things over again. One situation doesn't determine who you are.
SweetSugarCup
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Aug 14, 2020
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Everyone makes mistakes and that is a humanly thing to do, I'm sure it was a mistake, but hating yourself is not worth it. Focus ons yourself and on self love, and forgive yourself for your actions. Forgiveness is the root of recovery. If you are able to forgive yourself you will one day be able to forgive others. Admit your actions and that you cheated, but promise yourself to commit next time. Take a small break from relationships if yoi have to and take time to be ready for the next one, remember forgiveness is key to the problem.
Anonymous
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Aug 28, 2020
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The first thing you should know is that cheating does not happen out of thin air. There are some things within ourselves that drive us to take certain actions, and sometimes those actions hurt others. Acknowledging why you cheated and how that affects the people in your life is the first step to healing. Knowing that you've potentially hurt one of the most important people in your life is really difficult to take in, and learning to forgive yourself for it takes time and working on yourself. Oftentimes talking to the person you cheated on and providing an apology or clarity can help with the path to healing and learning from your mistakes.
IAmBubbles
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Nov 13, 2020
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Acknowledgement first. Know that you can't undo your action it had a negative impact and you can't change that. If possible reach out apologise and be aware they don't have to forgive you but show them that you do not stand by your actions. Be aware to yourself that you have tried to improve your actions but you can't change what's been done. Know that you will do better in the future and that's all you can do. Make it clear to yourself what type of person you are if you need to make improvements make goals on how to achieve that. Most importantly forgive yourself, don't forget what you did, don't do it again but don't hold it against yourself as that's not going to make any progress.
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