How do I tell my boyfriend I'm not happy?

Overall happiness is important for both parties in a relationship. It seems like you are at a point where you need to decide if this is something that you can and are willing to work on with him, or if this is something that is too far gone and you need to move on. If you are willing to work through it then I think you need to look at the entire relationship. Try not to focus on what he does or doesn't do that does not make you happy but focus on what you both do and what you can work on. Communication is key and hopefully you can establish that so that you two can have a mature conversation where you explain things you wish to change and plans on how to do so. Also, remember to try and think of some of the good things in the relationship and give some positive reinforcement. Even in the hardest times, it is important not to only focus on the bad. You can only suggest change and do what you can to achieve that. It should be an overall positive journey, but if he is not able or willing to put in equal effort then you have to protect your happiness and explore a life without him.

By simply telling him. It can be hard to accept it but communication is a key. You cannot expect him to just know you're unhappy and change something. The more you'll you will hide it yourself, the more you're making yourself endure it and have him be clueless. No one can read minds, if you expect a change in a relationship, you've to make your needs clear. In a relationship its always about compromise and adjusting, if neither of the partners do anything, the relationship won't go any further. I know I have been there and it did not end well for me, I expected my partner to just understand my silence but not only was that an unrealistic expectation from him, it made me even more upset when he didn't meet it. Sometimes we make things difficult than they already are and it serves no good to anyone. I hope it helped.

Communication is key in a relationship. Sit down with him and calmly express you aren't happy and tell him why. It's important to state how we are feeling with our partner because that is what keeps a relationship moving, and they can also help you feel better or figure out what is bothering you. Tell him what has been going on and how you are feeling. He will listen to you and try to help. Tell him how it has affected you or the impact that it has had on you. He will also appreciate you being honest with him.

A couple of the most important aspects for a healthy relationship are communication in respect. When you talk to your boyfriend, you can tell him how you feel in a calm way and also acknowledge his perspective as well. It's common for people to get upset when they don't feel listened to, so be sure to paraphrase what he's saying when you're talking to him so he knows you are trying to understand how he feels. At the end, if you both don't come to a conclusion on how you can improve your relationship, know that you did everything you could and that it's okay the relationship didn't work out.

Discussing a lack of happiness in a relationship can be a tough subject to breach for anyone. If you are with this person, it's probable that you don't want to hurt them, so you may feel apprehensive about approaching this topic. That's totally understandable. However, even with apprehension, you should be able to have honest and open discussions with a partner, to disclose your feelings. That is a necessary component of healthy relationships. When approaching such a discussion, it's good to have clarity on what your feelings are exactly, and for that you may need to reflect. While reflecting, it might be helpful to ask yourself questions like "When can I tell I'm not happy?", "What triggers those not-happy feelings?", "Am I generally not happy, or am I not happy with a particular aspect of life (i.e. a job or relationship)?" Once you are able to answer such questions and have a better understanding of your feelings, start to think of ways you can express them. Consider ways you can tell your boyfriend how you feel in a way that he is likely to understand. Consider how to express your feelings in a way that is kind but honest. After, you should have clarity on what you want to say and how you will say it, so you should let your boyfriend know you want to talk about something and perhaps even set aside a particular time to do it. It's important to choose your setting wisely, it should be somewhere that is quiet and in a neutral setting. You should avoid breaching the topic in chaotic or dangerous situations such as a big family event or while driving in a car. Hopefully, with a little preparation and reflection, you will be able to have an honest conversation about your feelings.

Don't try to give signs. Just say it to him when you both are alone. But first of all try to find the reason that why you are not happy yourself then communicate it with him. Giving signs is only going to make the matters worse. You can initiate by saying that you want to talk to him and then just pour your heart out but remember that he is not incharge of your happiness,may be he can ease it a bit but still your happiness is your own responsibility that you need to fulfill for yourself.

Your feelings are valid. Be open, calm, and patient. Choose a time that is not interrupting, and where there is calm or quiet. It may help you to ask yourself some deep questions first. Can you pinpoint specific behaviors that add to your unhappiness? Are there specific areas in the relationship you feel could be improved that would affect this? What other feelings are underneath this happiness? For example, are you feeling neglected, controlled, burdened, etc? These questions will help you understand what you need in this pairing, and it's okay to have needs. Try to think of some concrete actions that can be taken by your partner (or yourself) that can, over time, elevate your feelings in this relationship. Maybe an extra hug out of the blue now and then, or eye-contact when you are talking, or whatever you can think of. Try to keep an open-mind when you're thinking of these things. If this unhappiness is causing you misery and interfering with your day-to-day life, it's okay to reconsider this pairing, remember the good times, and think about how you can prioritize yourself :) Remember that we are not beholden to stay in unhappy situations, and there is no real rule book. Best of luck to you!

hm well, you always need to tell how you feel to your s/o. you and your boyfriend needs to know how each other feels, im sure he'll understand when you say you're not happy and he also should be understanding about it. i think you should try having a conversation with him, while you're having a conversation with him try to bring up how you aren't happy. communication is always important in anywhere, especially in ur relationship. you need to be open about your feelings. of course when you're ready, you should tell him. communication is always the key. i hope everything goes well! < 3

Sounds like you find it hard to openly talk with your boyfriend. There may be many a number of reasons for your reason. Mostly this's due to the fear of losing your relationship and your boyfriend. But holding back what you wanna say may not benefit any of you as we have no idea of whether he himself is aware that you are unhappy. So i feel like you should open up with him. So that he'll atleast be aware and both of you can figure out a solution together. It will be better if you speak out while spending time alone. Don't hesitate even he'll be happy for you being real with him.

I think the first thing I'd suggest would be to choose a positive formulation. Not as in a word that's rated positively but a word with the negative feeling you are experiencing that doesn't contain a negation like not or "un-"/"in-". At one hand that makes it easier to realize for your partner and as well it can help you with the next thing I would suggest and that is identifying that sense of unhappiness closer. In what terms do you feel unhappy, is it frustrated, jealous, sad, lonely.. it can be anything even not named here. Once you figured this out you can identify what causes that feeling or those certain thoughts so you can think of ways how he, yourself or you both together can make it better and ask him directly if that would be an option. If you just say hey im unhappy he will be wondering if it is his fault or not and what he is supposed to do about it. It can help if you're that step ahead and can communicate it to him directly for example: I feel sad/lonely because we spend so little time together. Would it be possible to meet at least once a week/ phone every evening? Or: I feel jealous because I know you are still in contact with your ex. Would it be an option for you to stop contacting or reduce the contact? Or maybe if it's something not even directly related to the relationship but more to yourself: I am depressed because I don't get things done lately. Could you help me with my motivation by asking me about my plans each morning and how much I got done each evening? And if you are struggling to identify your concrete feeling or ways to change it you can communicate it to him as well: I have been feeling a sense of sadness lately but I am not even sure why, can you help me figure that out? I would like to make our relationship more adventurous but I'm lacking of ideas how. Do you have ideas/can we brainstorm together? After all do not forget that it is your partner and you know them better than anyone here so you would know best how exactly you should or shouldnt talk to them. I suggest to (even if you feel like it is) don't give him the impression that it is ultimately his fault. Admit that there is something not ok with you/ your feelings at the moment and you are hoping for his support in this because you feel like he would want you to be ok.