Sventek
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Jun 24, 2016
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1. I read a good book on the subject, Letting Go - A Twelve Week Personal Action Program to Overcome a Broken Heart." by: Dr. Zev Wanderer and Tracy Cabot, PhD.
2. I focused on me. I joined a gym and actually went.
3. I read books, swam, biked, hiked, and got myself out of the house.
4. Since the place that I lived in was a place we shared together, I moved.
5. I avoided the places that we used to frequent together.
6. I admitted to myself that while it hurt, it was actually for the best. Now that I'm well past the situation, looking back, it WAS for the best but it was hard for me to see it then because I was so emotionally drawn into the situation itself. It's hard to look at something from an objective prospective when you have such a high emotional investment with the person.
7. I came to the firm conclusion that the situation could not have been fixed and no matter how much I thought we made a good team, we didn't in the end.
8. I wrote down the reasons why things did not work out and kept it with me... added to it from time to time as those ideas came to me. Also, I wrote down what I learned from the situation because that is a key part of moving forward instead of dwelling. Lastly, I made a full action plan of how my life was going to be different and followed it.
9. I spent time with friends who had nothing to do with the relationship I just left.
10. I did not try to do this alone because I realized that I needed people around me as a support system to get me through it. I was so very right.
Anonymous
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Jul 8, 2016
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If you've had a great relationship and depending on the kind of person you are, you can't just stop missing your ex. You'll always miss them because you don't stop loving them - you carry them in your heart for the rest of your life. The only thing you can do is to not let it get in between you and your own life by letting yourself heal over time. Time does heal any kind of pain and even if it seems hard right now, it will get easier for you. Maybe it will take months or even years but you have to be patient. Surround yourself with friends, family, or find something you absolutely love doing in order to keep your mind off things and never give up hope that things will get better. Some people move on rather quickly or jump into another relationship but you have to give yourself time to heal, the right way. Eliminate all contact with your ex if you still keep in touch otherwise it will be much harder for you. That goes with stalking them on social media as well. If you do choose to be friends, allow yourself some time to heal and then when you've moved on, you can be friends. Just because their your ex does not mean that you have to completely forget about each other unless they are people who should be truly forgotten.
Sazbgotyou
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Mar 1, 2018
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Take a look in the mirror, look closely, look past how you PYSICALLY look, look at the SOUL standing in front of you. Without you, she / he cannot speak, she / he cannot eat, she / he cannot learn or love or grow. You depend on you. Of corse, it’s lovely to have somebody you feel you can rely on, but from the day you took your first breath, until the day you take your last, the only person who will ever TRULY know you, will be YOU. So be proud of you, look after you, appreciate what you already do for yourself, without him/ her! You bathe you, feed you, lay your own head down to rest. You fight through everyday for YOUR future. A future that maybe, he / she simply isn’t strong enough to be part of. Your mental health is not you, and it does not define you. Similarly, neither does skin colour, hair colour, eye colour or the colour car you drive! Be proud of yourself, there’s no straight answer as to what you SHOULD do, but there’s 3 things you deffinately shouldn’t:
You should not REGRET your relationship with him/ her, as you learnt a lot, and meant a lot to eachother, sometimes life just gets in the way and two people aren’t supposed to be more than a mean-time.
(But don’t forget, that means Mr Right/ Mrs Right is somewhere, oooooh yaaaa!)
You shouldn’t focus on the negatives, and what you’ve “done wrongâ€. Your mental health is not a mistake, or an accident, do not apologise for being a little broken, and do not blame yourself because somebody else couldn’t appreciate your greatness.
YOU SHOULDNT STOP TRYING. EVER!!! Focus on YOU, what you want from life, and the ways you want to love yourself better.
Find a hobbie, music or art or something crazy, who knows?! And find a passion for happiness instead of another human being, and one day someone will fall in love with that passion, and accept every single flaw.
Stay strong, stay sweet, stay YOU!
Anonymous
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Jun 22, 2016
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Being happy is unnatural after a breakup with a toxic person. They leave you doubtful of yourself and with all the blame for why the relationship failed. It is not easy to get back to your center, but you can start by forcing your mind to focus on new things. Distract yourself by trying a new activity or hobby. This will force you to be brave and outgoing, which are very good emotions for combating grief. Remind yourself never to let them see you break. They do not deserve that.
BassistBriar
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Jun 15, 2016
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The worst part of a breakup is letting go - I speak from experience. The way I got over my ex is focusing my attention on other things. For instance, go out and play a sport, read a book, do anything to keep your mind off of your ex. :)
CherryRedLips04
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Jul 22, 2016
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Before you fall asleep, picture himin/her in a nice place, like a pink cloud, picture the person dressed in an outfit that you like, and tell him/her bye. Give the person a big smile and put all your strength on feeling happy... That way you are letting go. Doing this saved my life after a break up
IntrovertedSpecies1
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Jun 20, 2016
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Over time. Time will heal all. Its not exactly the best and most efficient way of getting over someone. But time is a healing device. As for now, cry as much as you want and let everything out. Just be thankful you were given the chance to love and be loved..
Anonymous
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Jul 21, 2016
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You have to create distance between you and the person. Remove all reminders of them and ask your friends/family not to bring them up. Delete songs that remind you of them, pictures, delete them off social media. Clean them from your life. Then, start focusing on you. If you have a hobby or skill you neglected while you were with them, pick it back up. It will give you your sense of purpose back. Spend time with friends or get in contact with old ones. Keep your loved ones close. But overall, realize that it's totally normal to miss someone you've had a significant relationship with. Suppressing it will only make the feeling last longer. But doing the above steps will make you miss them a little less often. Best of luck!
MalecLightbane
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Aug 5, 2016
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It's called a break up because it's broken. You have to accept that your ex doesn't feel the spark anymore and just doesn't like you like that. Only time can heal a broken heart. Don't jump into another relationship, as that will only make it hurt worse. Listen to good music, do your favorite activity, and enjoy life without a partner until you're ready to start dating again.
comfortingRabbit47
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Feb 12, 2017
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Learn a new skill, talk to your loved ones. Always strive to improve yourself. The more you miss your ex, the more you will miss your chance to find out something new in your life.
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