How do I let go of pent up anger towards an ex?

Accept any underlying feelings you still might have towards your ex. It's the only way you might realise that the anger you're facing has a source and is not superficial. Once you accept that there is a source for this anger, you would let it go much easily because you would be tending to that source instead of releasing your inner energy on anger.

you cant, it has to go on its own and if you dont at the end, its not like you dont for no reason because they hurt you

Try writing down your negative emotions whenever they come to you. And then write down positive things in your life to replace the negative

You need to remember your worth and remember that not everyone is made like you or for you. You will feel at ease with your decision once you let go of anger and replace it with understanding. The past is the past and everyday is a new opportunity and one day closer to being with your true love. So not regret any of your past experiences they have taught you something and have allowed you to grow and understand yourself as a person.

sometimes we feel so strongly about an ex for a reason, maybe they affected you in several ways ultimately affecting your mental wellbeing during the time you were together and after. the best thing you can do while you heal is understand that its time to move on, you deserve to be happy and healthy and holding onto someone who might have hurt you won't do you any good. you may have to remove yourself completely or as much as possible from their lives completely so that you can heal from whatever inflicted you. its never really a one answer type of deal, this is complicated and you're not the only one who feels this type of heavy anger for an ex, no matter how long its been that one's been apart from an ex.

When you have pent up anger towards an ex, write down all of your feelings, let the paper sit for a couple days, and write more. Make sure you write everything you want to say about the situation. Identify the reason why you are upset. Are you mad because of what they did, or is it a programmed reaction? People don't do what they do because of you. Acknowledge your insecurities and what you could have done differently in the relationship. Then, after you experience the feelings, write about what you want out of a relationship with a spouse.

It's natural to have anger towards an ex because an ex is someone who you allowed yourself to be vulnerable to and after a breakup you can feel many things based on your experience together. If you feel like you were hurt, focusing on forgiving them will help you let go of those feelings. Holding on to those negative emotions only hurts you and not them. But you should also find a way to validate your feelings and look at those emotions honestly. Talking to a close friend, family member, or therapist can help you realize a lot of things about your feelings and can help you see where you are right and wrong to feel certain emotions. Anger can sometimes be viewed as a secondary emotion, so some other emotion could be causing your anger. Try to find the root of your problems because that will help you see the big picture and let go of unnecessary anger. This will help your perspective on your life and your ex, and can help you focus on more positive emotions and things in your life.

There’s a lot of ways to release anger and frustration. 1) you can come here on 7 cups and vent. 2) you can maintain a diary or something and write about your feelings in it. 3) you can talk to a friend or family member about it who’s trustworthy and willing to listen 4) you can pretend that a certain soft toy is your ex and then tell the toy what you’d tell your ex. I guess by following these 4 methods it should be possible for you to release at least a fraction of the pent up anger over your ex

Letting go is difficult but it is the best way to achieve peace with your past and yourself. Recognizing that pent up anger is not good for you is the first step. Talking (out loud) about how you feel about your ex with a friend or a relative helps in relieving your burden. Self-care is the best method. If you don't want to talk about it right away (remember, in the end, when you are ready for it, you must talk to someone for your own good) find activities or hobbies that keep you busy and help you feel calm takes your mind off of your anger. Baking and reading are my hobbies and usually helps me with my stress. Please remember that never bottle up your emotions as it is unhealthy for you. If required, talk to your ex and express your anger.

Anger is always the result of you trying to control something which is in reality out of your control. It becomes super obvious always in relationships, because we will never control the other, simply because the other has choice. Which choice, we can never touch :D As they never can mess with our own choice. So, you see, the biggest problems appear when partners try to enforce their own choice, and they are met with rebellion of course. Then the enforcer (in this case you), will feel anger Because it's natural reaction apparently (look at a baby, when he yells as soon as he feels some discomfort) Apparently is deep rooted in all of us, including animals But, reacting with anger will never solve anything long term. Short term yes, the other gets scared, turns into a slave for a while, but as soon as he or she can, will flee fast, and forever :D Because no one wants to be a slave, basically. So, understanding this biggest source of anger, pent up anger or not, Will clear the way, for you to heal, Choose to respect other's choice, choose to respect the laws (of the universe) Choose to respect the power of choice Choose calm instead of anger Calm is love basically, and cooperation with the universal laws. Admit your own mistake, that you tried to control what is out of your control in reality, with your ex. If you ex chooses to be an idiot, even if you want what's actually best for him or her, Realize that he or she has the right to be stupid, if they so please. And we cannot do shit about it, except a prenup :D