How can I stop myself from checking up on my ex?

Try to get yourself busy with the activities you love and whenever you get any thoughts from you ex get yourself busy in that activity

First, embrace the feeling that it is normal to feel like you need to check up on your ex. A considerate human being will want to do this, and let's not forget that romantic interests leave a mark on all our lives. Having said that, the key takeaway is that this person is still your "ex'. Now would be a good time to pause for a second. This person is an "ex" for a reason. You, and only YOU the power to make a choice -- do you want to keep looking back in life, or do you want to look ahead? Let's face the fact that it's going to be hard, heart-wrenching and plain difficult to stop checking up on an ex. But it is up to us to make a choice and stick to it.

Sometimes the urge to check up feels as though it will relieves our anxiety about the uncertainties we are experiencing. Sometimes this will help for a very brief time, however, many people share with me that they feel some relief through engaging in 15?minutes of any other soothing activity. A walk, stretching, listening to comedy, singing along to a favorite song etc. getting past our it initial urges can feel overwhelming and for many practicing other ways to fill that space is very helpful. Perhaps understanding the underlying issue would be helpful. Can you think of a time when checking up reduced your stress? Can you think of a time when checking up increased your stress? What differences do you see between the two? How does this help you to understand what you are seeking when checking up? Are there alternatives that might meet this same need so soothing?

Do yourself a favor and take them off of social media. Delete their number and stop any forms of communication with them. Take the time that you would use to check up on them and spend it on yourself. Do some self care, go for a drive and hang out with your friends & family and do something that makes you feel good. You will be surprised at how much your own self love will help you overcome such a difficult time. Break ups are tough, especially if you still have love for the person. It's okay to be selfish and do something for you. Give your heart room to grow and find new things to love that benefit you 100%. I hope this helps! :)