How can I forget about the bad memories of my past?

You can't forget your past bad days all of sudden. This is so human nature and you can't do anything about it. Therefore don't try to forget it. The harder you will try the worst it will become. It is our past that makes us what we are today. It makes us stronger, so we can deal with the problems we have in the present and future. Accept the fact that things were bad in your past. If you really want to forget the past just concentrate on the present and try to make it as nice as you can. You can't forget the past bad memories but you surely can replace it with the good ones that you make in your present. I hope this helps you.

Focus on yourself right at this moment and distract yourself with something else, like something you enjoy (listening to music, art, etc) something that may also help you forget about the bad memories of your past is focusing on your future and where you would like to be 1 week from now, 5 weeks from now, 1 month from now and maybe even a year from now. i suggest also setting goals for yourself and maybe even seek professional help if it gets to extreme. this is what i personally do if i would like to forget about bad memories of my past

I don't think we can ever forget bad memories from the past unless one dissociate herself/himself or when we try to repressed those memories which have high chances of getting back when certain factors triggered us. Sad to say memories from our past always has its way to haunt us whether we liked it or not. there was a saying that pain never really goes away we just get used to it that we numb from it, or in the long term we learn on how to cope up with it. However acceptance (no matter how hard it is) can be one of the keys. we can't change our past bad memories however we can do something about it in our future.

Someone once told me that bad memories makes up who we are and I didn't understand what they meant. The time I was told this I was this jolly person and had a fantastic life and honestly speaking i thought they were just out of their mind and I remember laughing and walking awatlittle did I know. Then my Father died, my mom left me and my mother's in laws abused me . I would fight every day not to remember what happened to me and it made it worse. The more I fought my thoughts the more they haunted me. These thoughts drank my confidence and esteem, I had no life of my own because I wanted to be happy like all the people around me. So I started this thing i would remember a bad memory and face it, look for light in the darkness. Search for something positive. I started embracing my problems. I started to realize that if it wasnt for the challenges I passed through I would not be where I am. Your bad memories make you and be proud of you. Love yourself and see the light in the dark. I hope this helps someone

Bad memories are really hard to deal with. Now the bad memory, might be coming into your mind. So from we can understand the depth of this. They bother you for a long time. The first misconception I had was to forget about it. To forget it people ignore such thoughts but I thought more about it. So ignorance is a temporary solution but the permanent solution is different. So forgetting them is a long way to go but you do have a choice to live with it positively or negatively. Negatively- means that you just keep thinking about it and how hard it was and you're basically reflecting the negative thoughts by focusing on them and feeling bad. Positively- is to live in reality. The present time you live in is now the reality. The reality in the past doesn't exist. It only exists in your conciousnes. So convince yourself that it is over because it is. If you think about it, it occurs in your very mind. So the best positive thing which I did was to remember it was the past and was a new experience for me. Though negative but it can still make me feel stronger. Don't worry about the Future too much, the future also doesn't exist. Just live in the present and give your best in the present. “Yesterday was history, tommorow is a mystery. Today is a gift. That is why it's called present.”~Oogway- Kung Fu Panda

This isn’t an easy one, especially when you still have to be around people, things, or situations that can be reminders of those bad memories. It’s not a one day job, it takes time. But remember that you are the owner of your mind. Staying away from triggers may be helpful, and it may also help to find a way to reconcile with the past, if possible, but the most important thing is to take back control of your mind cause you may not always be able to stay away from triggers. These thoughts may come, but you can make a conscious decision and effort to let them go, perhaps by focusing on something that brings better emotions. The goal is to refocus when you notice your mind has shifted towards that, and keep on doing so until you have more control (which will happen eventually). The mind is very powerful but remember you’re in control, you decide what stays and doesn’t. Bad memories of the past only hold us back more times than not. And you may not be able to change the past, but you decide what actions you take towards a better future and better decisions right now.

In the words of Daniel Howell, what you're experiencing are called "cringe attacks". Out of nowhere, you'll suddenly remember an embarrassing or painful memory from your past, which will then cause a physical reaction in the present. I myself have experienced many cringe attacks, but I have learnt how to minimise the damage. The most important thing when trying to forget bad memories is forgiveness. You have to learn how to forgive yourself and the people who have wronged you in order to move on. If you have forgiven yourself for your mistakes and forgiven other people, your reaction to these memories will improve significantly. Plus, if you feel embarrassed or hurt by these bad memories, it means you have matured as a person and are better than you were in the past, so that's wonderful. However, if you really want to do something about it, I would suggest taking actions to resolve the bad memories. If you've wronged someone, apologise to them. If someone has wronged you, confront them. If you're just embarrassed at something you did years ago, relax: no one remembers.

I don't think we're supposed to forget about the past. in fact, if we try to, it could lead to more issues along the way. I think we need to find a way to accept the past, instead. There's a huge difference in accepting and forgetting (and as I said, we can't forget traumatic things only bury them). Meditation is a great way to deal with these bad memories. There are tonnes of guided meditations on Youtube (free) that will be specific to whatever memories you have. Meditating will help you look at your past and see how and why it is affecting you today. Sometimes, we default to thinking things about ourselves that are negative. Although these thoughts don't make us feel better, we feel safe when in a place we are familiar with. We need to recognise when we are doing this and again, meditation and self-reflection can help with this.

Firstly, you need to accept the fact that life goes on. We need to think of everyday as a new one. No two days are exactly the same. There was a line a friend of mine said to me. "We build walls to keep away the sadness but we don't realise that those same walls keep happiness away too." Let that happiness allow to enter in your life. Build new memories. Beautiful ones. Those memories will help you replace the old ones. We can't change the past, we can never forget it but we can accept it as a part of us. Learn something from it & move on. Do everything you loved to do! It might be hard for few days but they don't have to be perfect. Just do things for yourself. Hope it helps. :)

Many of us struggle with forgetting things. Some more where are my keys or what did I study last night before the test. Others are things we would prefer to forget but pop up anyway. Some suggest it is a subconscious drive to handle unfinished emotional issues. Others suggest it is a defense mechanism to prevent us from making a similar action that hurts us. Either way it is our brain bringing to the front what it wants us to see. I suggest two things, one is to find a sense of security around the issue. Tell your self and prove to yourself that it is not going to happen again. Second overlay good memories that reward your brain so the negative ones are reduced in importance. Both take time and careful attention to not create a worse situation or lose touch with what is real in your world. Guidance by a councilor is advised in my opinion, and patience, lots of patience.