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He cheated on his girlfriend with me. Why is he ignoring me?

Profile: Anaiviv01
Anaiviv01 on Jan 23, 2020
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There are many reasons for that. He could be regretting his actions, he could be victim of a huge sense of guilt, he could be knowing that he made a mistake. Or, otherwise, he feels that something is broken with her and he's taking time to evaluate if he can build something with you. Speculation is not the best practise, because nobody can read his mind. The best thing you can do is to talk about him about your reasons. Is he ghosting you? Just move on: you deserve someone who's free and truly cares for both you and your feelings.
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Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 15, 2020
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It is not your fault. Maybe he is having some personal issues he needs to sort out himself. If he puts you into a negative mood or doesn’t make you feel good, don’t be afraid to say no to him because your happiness is much more important then him cheating on his On girlfriend , what you have to do is put yourself in his girlfriends shoes and wonder how she felt when she heard she was being cheated on by her boyfriend , she must’ve have been so devastated to hear that, so maybe he is feeling the guilt at the moment
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 25, 2020
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He may have been deeply insecure about his initial relationship. It seems that he's processing his feelings. I want you to know its not your fault, whatever he's doing is his choice. Now this could go a multitude of ways. I think you should figure out your feelings for him, if their genuine or an adrenaline moment. That should put things into perspective for the both of you. The fact he cheated on his girlfriend gives an insight into who he is but people can change. Be open minded but figure out your stance on the situation and him as a person.
Profile: HeatherLeah
HeatherLeah on Jun 25, 2020
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It could be multiple reasons. He could potentially be in denial about what happened, he could be feeling guilty and avoiding you lets him pretend it didn't happen, he could be assessing what he wants to happen, or he could genuinely be unable to speak with you. What lead up to this situation? Who initiated the affair? Why? What is it that you hope will happen? Is that the best course of action for you? For him? What would you consider the best outcome for this situation? Do you have any underlying apprehensions about what happened (other than him ignoring you now)?
Profile: IncredibleRainbows
IncredibleRainbows on Sep 4, 2020
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Cheating on someone does not take a toll only on the cheated, but on the cheater as well, just in a different fashion. Processing his gesture, going through the stage of regret, maybe coming to terms with the fact that he made a mistake - these may all be things he is struggling with right now, and he needs to be alone. Maybe he lost his girlfriend because of this and he wants to mourn, so to speak. Maybe he regrets what he has done and does not want to see you at that moment, because seeing you would only trigger him and make him break down.
Profile: affinity17
affinity17 on Sep 16, 2020
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Regret is usually the correct answer. People make mistakes and regret them later. Cheating is always a very guilty act. If you participate in someone cheating on their significant other, you may want to take some time to consider your self worth. You deserve so much better than someone who is willing to cheat on their partner for you because what makes you think they won't do the same to you? You need to know your value and respect yourself enough to go for someone who will treat you with that same respect. Don't pursue someone who wants to keep you as a sidechick.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Oct 28, 2020
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Cheating can bring up a lot of feelings, what may feel like no big deal to one person is a big deal to another. There may be many reason for his silence, he may still love his girlfriend and he has a lot of confusing emotions such as guilt but still love. My recommendation is to give him time, let him know that you are here if he wants to talk. But depending on the relationship you want from him, either a boyfriend or a friend, he may just never get back to you. But you are worth more than a man who would cheat on his girlfriend.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 29, 2020
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Sometimes they just need some time to think. Think about breaking it off with his girlfriend, or telling you that you need to stop (you meaning you AND him). You shouldn't have let him cheat on her in the first place with you. I know that it would've been hard, but guys will be guys and be their perverted selves. They can't do anything about it, but society will tell you that you had to do something about it, and not the guy. The guy can do whatever the heck that he wants to do. If he is ignoring you than drop his sorry butt because he isn't worth it. No guy is ever worth it.
Profile: JoshOfTheHills
JoshOfTheHills on Feb 27, 2021
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If he cheated on her with you, but is still with her, then it's likely that his interest in you was only to cheat with you. In my experience, young men can become very misguided with how they view relationships and only maintain a semblance of commitment -- I say this because I was that way at one time and a lot of guys I knew were, too. If he was willing to cheat on his girlfriend with you, it may be worth considering whether his attention is worth anything, because even if he leaves her with you he's just as likely to cheat on you as well. Commitment is hard, but it is worth it in the long run, and you owe it to yourself to find someone who isn't cheating with you to find love with.
Profile: LittleFlower01
LittleFlower01 on Mar 13, 2021
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Most who cheat on their partners might feel guilty talking to the person they're cheating with. A girlfriend is a bestfriend, a lover, someone they trust and respect, and perhaps when they realize that they're going to hurt their girlfriend or have already hurt their girlfriend, they cut off ties to try to make things right again. If he cheated and is now ignoring, then it probably means he was simply looking for a bit of an escape, thought that he would be happy with his choice, but then learned the hard way that what he thought would have made him happy didn't do that at all in fact, quite the opposite.
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