Do I miss the person, or the relationship?

This is a very common question and super important. It can be hard to distinguish the idea of something vs. the actual thing. Just think about how you felt when you broke up. Was it a disliking towards the person or was it that you just needed to get out of the relationship?

Person mind drives relationship. It is not independent attribute. Person and relationship work together. hence one will miss both.

It depends if the relationship was a toxic one or not. I used to find myself thinking about my ex and how things would be if we got back together. I was able to separate him and my life with him, if that makes sense, and realized that I missed the relationship because I felt comfortable in it. But him as a person, he was toxic. But then again, you could very well miss the person if there was a point in time where you were good friends before the relationship.

It could be both, but it could also just be the relationship. You might be missing having someone love you and send you goodnight texts and stuff.

Both? Without that person, there's nothing to miss about in that relationship. Without that relationship, there's nothing about that person to begin with.

You cannot separate a person from the experiences you had with him/ her. It is understandable that you miss both.

When a relationship is over, I always tend to miss the relationship more than the person. I always miss the moments we shared more than the person we shared that moment with. Sometimes I may dislike my exes, but I could never forget the wonderful relationship that we had. Most of the times, I find myself fantasizing on the things we did, the topics we talked about, the places we visited and the wonderful ways that I was treated. As a matter of fact, the best relationship that I ever had, was with the person that I rarely ever talk to nowadays. I miss that relationship, I really do. But I dont miss that person.

I’d personally say both when I went through a break up with the ‘love of my life’ I was talking to best friend telling her I still loved him and that I don’t think I can get over him it took me some time to realize I didn’t miss him but the person he made me. Before I was with him I never went out and just stayed in basking in my loneliness but he made me go out and make new friends so when it was over I bought I missed him but I actually missed the atmosphere that he provided me and the new experiences so I guess I’m some aspects I missed him but I really missed who he made me

It usually depends upon the person How good they were Sometimes people change or say show their true side but the moment we spend with them is what makes us feel good Relationship doesn't matter maybe you can have the same relation with anyone but still you try to be happy not actually happy its because of the personality nature bonding and understanding and of course compatibility with the person You are actually missing that personality those days were awesome it was because of them You are not missing the particular relationship or maybe those days. But the person who made that relationship

Sunday morning breakfasts together, sending each other memes all day, "good night" texts... When a relationship ends, there's a lot to miss. But it's not always easy to tell whether you miss your ex or just miss your relationship. Understanding the answer is a crucial step in how you go about healing. “Initially after a breakup, it’s next to impossible to separate [missing the ex from missing the relationship], But with time — roughly three to eight weeks, Klapow estimates — you slowly begin to differentiate between the two feelings. Ask yourself: What specifically do you miss? Is it the person themselves or all the things you shared with them? Think about the images and memories you keep replaying in your head. Do you notice your partner’s scent among the mix? Maybe it's the cologne you smelled on every sweatshirt you stole from them. Or maybe you still hear the particular sound of their laughter that followed your jokes. If it’s things like their personality quirks or their extra long hugs — things that have to do with them and them alone — then it’s most likely that you're missing your ex specifically, not just the relationship.