Can or should I ask my significant other to stop talking and to not associate with his ex? If so, how?

I think this is a very personal decision and everyone will have a different opinion on it. Personally, I do not like when my partner is still talking to an ex. It makes me feel like they aren't over that relationship. I think it's important to be open about how you feel if it's hurting you, but it's hard to ask someone to stop talking to a certain person. I don't think that can ever be taken well. I might ask you this instead - do you want to keep dating someone who does talk to their ex? Or would you prefer to find someone who isn't?

It's easy to forget that people live their lives in first-person and are consciously aware of the happenings around them. When someone reaches out to an ex-partner, it may not be with the intention you think. In their own minds, it could just be to achieve a greater purpose of making friends again. It can take a lot out of a person when they choose to leave a person, and sometimes it takes more time to heal from the aftermath of no-longer being in close contact with that person. Communication is very healthy for every relationship, which includes ones that are no longer romantic. It's healthy to interact with people as long as the interaction does not hinder the involved people's view of themselves, people around them, and current partners. You should be supportive of the act of maintaining healthy relationships, but be careful not to cover up any emotions for the sake of your current partner.

It's usually fine for a partner to be friends with their ex, but it is easy to cross that line. So if anything makes you feel uncomfortable, be sure to speak up. Let your partner know about any relationship dynamics that make you uneasy, and work together to fix them Don't Let Any Emotion Involved. Ask Him Calmly. Look Up For More Information. . Don't Be Guilty Over That. Believe In What He Says. Come To An Agreement. Talk About How You Feel About It. Pay Attention To His Behavior. like The relationship is long over, but he still talks to her. ... He hasn't removed her pictures from Social Media. ... He brings up her name in conversations. ... You've caught him stalking her online. ... He sometimes calls you by her name. ... You don't feel like you are in a new relationship. ... He still has her stuff.

I don't feel comfortable telling you that you "can" or "should" do something, I will tell you about my personal experience with this. I was in a relationship that saw my partner demand this of me. I was troubled by his asking/insisting for two really specific reasons: 1. I felt that I was being controlled 2. I felt that I was not trusted Regardless of my partner's reasons for trying to set this limit on me and our relationship, it began to create a very strong resentment in me towards him. What I perceived to be his own lack of self-confidence eroded our relationship and built barriers in our communication. Our mutual trust and respect for each other dissolved and eventually we divorced.

You most certainly can if your partner has an ex that is still in their life and it makes you uncomfortable. Yes, they can be friends with their ex but ask yourself what it is that makes you uncomfortable about their continued association. If there are extenuating circumstances, such as illness or they are in some sort of trouble then it might be that they get in touch and in some cases that can be reasonable. But If you feel they are constantly flashing up on your partners phone, just for a chat or whatever, ask them why they think it's ok that they do this. And be clear about why you feel uncomfortable. If your partners ex is breaching the boundaries of your relationship then they are disrespecting you and your partner is also, in allowing this. Don't feel shy about a situation which would make most people unhappy and be clear with your partner about how this makes you feel. But it's also worth reminding yourself that just because you feel uncomfortable in this situation that doesn't automatically make you a crazy jealous person. If you can respect someone else's relationship then your should be respected in return.

It is your complete right to ask him to stop talking to his ex. However, equally, it’s his right to say no. If his ex is making you feel like he is untrustworthy and/or they are interfering with your relationship , it’s perfectly logical to ask this of him. However, if you don’t trust your significant other to stay loyal, why are you together? Relationships don’t work without trust, and it doesn’t sound like there’s very much between you two. You two should sit down and have a serious conversation. Express yourself and explain to him that you aren’t comfortable with him associating with his ex. I wish you the best of luck

Thank you for reaching out! It is hard to say whether you can or should ask your significant other to stop talking and associating with his ex. There are reasons both for and against it. Firstly, it can be a red flag or warning sign if a partner is controlling of who their partner sees or hangs out with, as it can be isolating and lead to unhealthiest in the relationship dynamic. Further, your partner should be able to decide and consent for themselves who they spend time with. If your partner spending time with their ex bothers you, or is in some way harming the relationship between you, you should examine why it bothers you and why your significant other is willing to engage in that type of behavior. If it bothers you, does your significant other know it bothers you? If they know it bothers you and they do it regardless what do you make of that? Are they really someone you still want to be with? This is where thinking about your boundaries can be a great way to reflect. You may want to reflect on your general expectations from relationships. Consider talking about the issue with your partner first, before making any decisions on whether you should ask them to stop talking to their ex. Ask yourself if it bothers you and why, and share those answers with them. You may want to reflect on whether you want to ask if your partner they knew how you felt about them interacting with their ex. Do you feeling like asking them if they feel it's important for them to keep talking to their ex and if so why. Try to come to a decision as a team about what is best for both of you. A relationship takes two people to work, not one! There are support organizations relating to relationship stress such as OneLoveFoundation and Relate.

You have the right to ask your boyfriend not to talk to or meet with his ex. I think there will be many ways to deal with it, but I recommend the one that in my opinion is the most effective.. You should make a direct remark to your boyfriend. Make it clear how you feel and suggest that your boyfriend shouldn't meet his ex while having a new lover, which makes anyone feel insecure in the relationship. If he brings up his ex even when he recognizes you're sad, you should rethink if your boyfriend really loves you. I say, if he cares about how you feel, he shouldn't talk or associate with his ex.

You should be worried about an ex when your partner is defensive or secretive about their communication or the nature of their conversations. If you have a gut feeling about your significant other's ex, then you have every right to tell them how you feel about it and tell them that you don't feel too good about it. The relationship ended for a reason and if they start talking they might rekindle the romance if it didn't end too badly. Don't hide the fact that it bothers you and that it makes you insecure so that it has been known and if your S/O still doesn't validate your feelings then they are wrong.

It is necessary to set reasonable boundaries within a relationship. I believe a discussion should be held with the significant other, with you expressing your discomfort with their friendship/relationship. Your emotions matter, and having a partner who is still close with their ex can be intimidating and confusing. I don't believe you should 'demand' they stop talking to their ex at once - rather express how their interactions make you feel. It's unfair to tell your partner what to do - as it can be controlling, but they should respect you in return and strive to be as fair as possible, too. Keeping contact with exes can make someone feel very nervous, anxious, and scared. It heightens the possibility of cheating.