Why do I feel that I am rejected or neglected by people?

This can happen because of a lot of reasons. Sometimes, people are not very sensitive to others, and they may never realize it. It may be intentional, but most of the time it’s not. We don’t realize it, but a simple turn of the back or a short one word answer can hurt people’s feelings a lot. There’s nothing we can do about these people besides talking to them and letting them know how we feel. It takes a lot of courage to do so. If you want to continue building a strong and relationship with them though, don’t be afraid to tell them how you’re feeling. Get them to understand you, and in turn, try to understand them as well. It’s not wrong to feel bad, but don’t let that affect your own image of yourself.

Sometimes we place false or unrealistic expectations on people and ourselves, as do others with us. We also sometimes jump to conclusions about how people feel and think about us, misconstruing what they said or did as an act of neglecting or rejecting us. Best way to prevent these assumptions is to just ask how the person feels about you. As humans, we have so much information to decode from other people, our jobs, families, and media; we tend to confuse nonverbal cues with those of dissatisfactions and ridicule when really the person might just be in deep thought dealing with something personal.

Anyone who lived through high school gym class knows the anxiety of being picked last for the dodgeball team. The same hurt feelings bubble up when you are excluded from lunch with co-workers, fail to land the job you interviewed for or are dumped by a romantic partner. Rejection feels lousy. Humans have a fundamental need to belong. Just as we have needs for food and water, we also have needs for positive and lasting relationships. As clever as human beings are, we rely on social groups for survival. We evolved to live in cooperative societies, and for most of human history we depended on those groups for our lives. Like hunger or thirst, our need for acceptance emerged as a mechanism for survival. I know this doesn't really answer the question but I thought it would be helpful.

You might have low self-esteem, or a lesser amount of confidence than you think you might have. Unless the other people are really rejecting you or neglecting you, than you have a right to feel that you are feeling rejected and neglected. If is hard to understand why other people do this to us, but we can control how we respond and react to the situations that we are in. We have control over how we respond and react to circumstances. If you can change your thoughts and try to say affirmations to yourself, or other ways to boost your self esteem and confidence, this might help with making you to feel that you are accepted and approved by other people. I have found that once I changed my attitude of myself, that this has helped me and I find other people that will accept and approve of me. I try my best to get along with people of differing opinions, and politely say what I believe, and if I get rejected or neglected, I have learned to not let it bother me, and move on with my life. It takes practice to not let certain people and circumstances and environments bother a person. I have found that through boosting my self esteem and confidence and being attentive to whom I am around, and adapting my situations, that this helps with being rejected and neglected by people.

Sometimes we exhibit what is called the spotlight effect, where we imagine a shining light upon ourselves (like we are on a stage), when really many people have this spotlight over their heads and are too caught up in their stresses. As a result, what we think as neglect, might simply be a person caught up in their own problem. Regarding your question, it's okay and human to feel this way, and a good way to approach it - is to let the person know how you feel. We often assume others do things with bad intent, but it's also possible that they had no idea due to miscommunication (they are unable to read what is in our minds). Hopefully, this helps.