What should I do if people think I am lying?
Anonymous
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Apr 18, 2021
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you can't do anything. There is nothing wrong with you if yourself feel you are right and others are just taking the chance to say you are a liar. It hurts but I am just saying why waste your time and energy on people which they think you are lying. They seriously don't have time for others other than gossiping or spreading rumours about you. You might want to stay away from them? …or it depends on which people thinks you are lying maybe because in past you lied and they can't trust you or ..? it seriously depends on the situation you are in. Many perspectives should be taken …not just one story but both story ..hope you got my answer!
AFellowPilgrim
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May 27, 2021
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You have to be really honest with yourself first. Were you telling the complete and full truth, or were you slanting the truth to look yourself or your ideas look better. Were you leaving out part of the truth? Do you have a reputation for distorting the truth or have you always told the truth to everyone in every situation. People will find out if you tell the truth or if you are a liar. If you have told people lies before then it will be hard for people to believe you. It does no good to tell people, "I'm telling the truth this time." Your reputation of being a truth teller or a liar will follow you. Also, if you have a habit of conveniently "altering" the truth you may not recognized when you are telling lies becaues that is part of your character and a part of your habit pattern. If you have told lies in the past you need to go back and correct them. What you can say is something like, "That which I told you about xx is not accurate. What I meant to say was yyy". If you want people to believe what you say, then you have to be very diligent to only speak the accurate truth and to correct anything that you say that wasn't accurate.
Anonymous
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Jun 24, 2021
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It is not your responsibility to correct other peoples assumptions.
I do understand that it is not as simple as telling people they are assuming things at times, when someone close to us thinks we are lying or when someone gaslights us, says we are lying when we are not only to invalidate our stance or attack our character, it's a very hurtful experience.
I cannot decide what you should do, as I do not know your situation better than you, I can only say that if they are hurtful, you do not have to engage with them, if they are someone very close, you can sit down with them and have a calm talk about it. Understand why they think so, empathize with them, then express your feelings on the matter and together resolve the issue and move past it.
Anonymous
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Jul 14, 2021
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I think for myself I've dealt with this most when I was not very much focused on communication.
For instance, in the past one family member could ask me a question and I would answer but was not thought to be telling the truth. For some time, I questioned how such a thing could occur. Soon, I realized that I wasn't focused on changing my facial expression as most people would and I had my own visual cues. Since I wasn't spending a lot of time with this family member, I believe they must have perceived things to be different because I wasn't aware of the expected communication. (Example: someone's annoyed gesture could be smiling.)
When I generally learned more common communication, I found more people would listen.
While I'm not someone who jumps at the idea of changing for just any reason, I did find it helpful for short interactions where a stranger may not be well acquainted.
beck1
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Jul 31, 2021
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First, I would do a little self-analyzing to see if that is true. Have you lied about anything? If the answer is no then you move onto the next step
Second, I would then go to the person and ask them why they believe I'm lying. If they are able to talk to you in a somewhat calm manner about things you're noticing, you could clarify with them what you are actually thinking and they're you're not lying
However, there are sometimes people who just want to hurt others. Telling someone they are lying could be one way they could do this. So please keep that in mind
jollyvibe
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Aug 6, 2021
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I would kindly address the person that thinks I am lying. We often fear confrontation, but I assure you it is much better than having anxiety thinking people think you are a liar. If you kindly address things you can clear the rumors/tension up and all will get resolved! If the person still does not believe you, then they are not the type of person you should be around. You have no reason to feel stressed. You are not obligated to keep any bad relationships with anyone. Your health and mental health always come first. Be happy! :)
thatlittlehope
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Sep 5, 2021
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You don't have to prove yourself to anyone. For as long as you know to yourself that you are being truthful to yourself and to everyone else around you, you don't have to explain to them anything. People will assume whatever they want to assume. At the end of the day, they will judge you no matter what you do, sadly I know. But you're doing great.
Prevent yourself from stressing over something that is out of your control, and that includes other people's judgment of you. The only validation you need is from yourself and from the people who truly know who you are.
Anonymous
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Oct 6, 2021
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It depends on who the people are. If they are people you care about, you need to know why they think you are lying. If it has been because of something you did or said that raised their concerns then you have to be more careful how you talk and act to rectify the problem and regain their trust. If you don't care much about the people then don't worry too much about what they think, because there will always be people thinking bad no matter what you do. They key is to always be honest and truthful with everyone, and do not worry afterwards.
Anonymous
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Oct 23, 2021
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I have gone through this. It can be frustrating when people do not believe you. Always be as open and honest as you can. If it is happening during arguments, show empathy rather than getting defensive. Try to understand why they might think you are lying. Be patient and always stick to the truth. Ultimately, you cannot force them to believe you. You do, however, have control over your own actions. It can be easy to get discouraged or feel offended, but try to stay positive. No matter what, take solace in knowing you were honest. Honesty is a good quality to have, regardless of how many people believe you.
Anonymous
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Dec 26, 2021
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I would carefully and patiently explain my real thoughts to the person. Firstly I will comfort the other's emotion and then when the person become calm, he or she will be logic to think about whether my words are sincere. Therefore, in such condition, my sincere words will not be considered as lying words. To show how sincere you are, you can guide the person gently and also share some own true experience to allow the person to trust your willingness of helping him or her. Following the kind emotion, I believe that people will be more likely to trust you! :) Hope that the answer can help you!
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