The Facebook "Seen" message gives me a lot of anxiety! When I see that the person has "seen" the message, but does not reply, I start thinking about all the possible reasons why they would 'ignore' me... Does anyone else feel this? If so, how do you cope?

I do relate to this, it can be really anxiety inducing! I usually just try to stay busy, which i know is way easier said than done. Important to remember that everyone lives a separate life and just like when youre sometimes busy and unable to repond, its the same for them. I try to keep this in mind when i start to become anxious about it! If it gets too much its totally okay to message them again later, just try not to take your anxiety out on them as they likely dont even realise what theyre doing or how its affecting you.

Yes sometimes i do feel that way too.. Especially when I feel tired, down and has a bit of low self esteem, i would tend to see the situstion worse. A tiny unintentional message can lead to a huge argument because of miscommunication, message can easily be misunderstandood. In this situation, it is best to take a break from messaging, to engage ib self care instead, take a deep breath and try to relax. Do something that does not require phonees/ laptop screen so you can disengage from all the messaging activities like taking a shower, reading books, eating, meet people in real life, there are many thing we can do!

A lot! So usually before sending message, I check it and read it for several times to avoid any misunderstanding. After sending, if I didn't answer immediately, I tend to overthink a lot and being anxious. I usually try to get myself thinking about different scenarios of why they weren't able to answer me. They might be driving, going outdoor, eating dinner. Or they might simply need some time to think about what they're going to say. It's sometimes true about ourselves too, Isn't it? I myself try to avoid others from overthinking when I don't answer immediately. So I try to read message from its "notifiation", find a good time or think about the answer, and then check and send it. But to be honest, It's still really hard for me, especially for the those who are important to me.

This is normal! A lot of people share this anxiety but sometimes we cannot help but leaving others on seen. Think about when you leave someone on seen, what are you doing? Putting yourself in their shoes can definitely help. It makes you realize “ah ok. They are busy and will soon reply.” You can also try calming exercises if you believe they will benefit you. You’re the master of you. You know what works and what doesn’t! Experimenting is always alright. Trial and error will always help in the long run. Time also passes quicker when you occupy your time.

I used to have troubles with this very issue. There is a looming sense of being neglected or taken for granted when someone sees your message but doesn't respond to it. However, I remind myself that they, just like you, are human beings; that they are managing their own baggages on a day-to-day basis. Maybe they are going through something and just needs a little room to breathe before replying to you. These things can range from being overwhelmed by the workload they have on that day or their darker emotions taking over their ability to have the strength to socialize with you in that moment. Whatever the case, they deserve the benefit of the doubt and you can find peace in knowing that they'll get back to you as soon as they can. The only scenario in which your fear of being ignored gains merit is when the frequency at which they do this to you is high. If you find yourself in a situation where you are the one engaging in conversations most of the time, and there is very little effort on their part to keep the conversation going while also being left on "seen" over and over again, then you may need to question whether they are worth the trouble at all. Every healthy relationship (romantic or otherwise) requires a healthy give and take. Effort on both sides is what makes the relationship going. So, ask yourself which of these cases feels more likely to you and I think you should have your answer. Your fears are normal, and something I believe many feel. Know you are not the only one in this boat. Ultimately, whichever case they fall into, you are strong with or without them and if they can't provide it to you, there are millions of people happy to pay the attention you deserve. Hope this helps! :)

I cope by turning on some music and dancing around. This helps me release some of my anxiety. I might also turn on my favorite movie or show. This helps my overthinking because I have something else to focus and I know what will happen on the movie and tv show, so that also helps my anxiety. I will also call a close friend or family member to talk to them about it. They usually calm me down and help me to look at things in a more positive light. I will also try to tell myself that it is not what I think it is.

Yes! I often worry that the person I’ve messaged hasn’t responded because they are upset with me or are waiting for the “right time” to tell me something awful. It’s an awful feeling. But I try to remind myself that just like I have. A lot going on, they probably do too. The delayed response likely has very little, if anything, to do with me. It can be challenging not to send a follow up message. But I find it helpful to give people time and space to respond. And I try to remember that we never might never know what someone else has going on, so I try not to assume the worst :)

I can definitely relate to how you are feeling. I also get anxiety when someone does not answer me, and sometimes I think maybe they do not want to talk to me. I then try to remember that there have been times I do not answer right away was well. I think we have to try and take a step back, take a breath and realize that they may just be busy at the moment. If they take longer than a day to message back, I usually send another quick message asking "Did you get my last message? I wasn't sure if it went through or not". This usually helps keep the conversation going!

You are not alone! I feel like this all the time- not just on Facebook but in every app with texting. I personally feel like this because I'm afraid that I am being judged, and that I said something wrong that caused them not to want to respond. I usually cope by distracting myself in any way possible from overthinking about what the "seen" message means. I go watch a show, read a book, talk to friends, etc. Once, someone left me on seen for a while, so I asked them if something happened and they just said no, which made me overthink more so probably wasn't the best idea. I also like to put myself in their shoes and calm myself down by thinking about how I would have probably done the same, and sometimes I just forget to reply, just like they probably did.

I feel this away a lot too! What helped me is re-accessing why it mattered to me if they replied. If the person didn't reply right away I have to remember they probably have other priorities and will reply eventually. If this is a repeat occurrence, this is a great way for me to know that this person probably don't see eye to eye with me on our friendship level. This helps me reevaluate our relationship and keeps my exception low on them in future. I find this way helps my mental well being and also help me see who I really care about as a friend and them to me.