Should I tell my husband I cheated on him?

I cannot be the one to decide that for you, but i can help you by talking through how your feeling to see what you need to do.

No. There's is no need to tell every part of your life to your partner. When you can cheat on him you could even hide what you did. Cheating hurts. Getting cheated by your wife/partner is painful. Sometimes what is hidden gives you less pain than what is known. He is happy up now. Try to fix yourself by not doing it again and love your husband so it will compensate what you did. Stay blessed.😊

Depends. Do you respect him enough to tell him? Do you care what happens in your relationship enough to tell him?

Yes. And you should probably ask for a divorce too because if you have cheated on the man you love then you can't possibly love him all that much otherwise you would not have betrayed him. Rather leave than be unfaithful.

Our first rule on 7 cups is that we do not give advice, because we are not in your shoes, and the wrong advice can be harmful. However, here are some questions you might want to ask yourself that may help you come to a decision: Why do you want to tell him? (Is it maybe to relieve yourself of guilt?) What will happen if you tell him? Can your marriage survive the infidelity? (A lot of marriages do) Do you want it to? Do you regret cheating? If you do, and you're never going to do it again, why hurt your husband by telling him, if instead, you could carry that secret to the grave? Is there a problem in your marriage? Are you unhappy? Are you sexually satisfied? There might be something else you need to talk to your husband about.

Honesty in this case can do a great deal of harm. Any of our actions can bring cause harm if we aren't first aware of what we are trying to accomplish. One choice would be to find a way to forgive yourself. There is no situation that guilt can't make a little worse. Guilt serves to make us feel better about our actions without really addressing the behavior that led us there. Forgiveness requires that we first be honest with ourselves about the impact of our behavior. Once we come to peace with our choices we can then see more clearly what impact a confession will have on the person we wronged. You are the ultimate expert on you. Find a place of peace and ask the question will my confession hurt or harm? Does it serve me or him? Then make the best decision you can. I try to remind myself when I speak with another that the person in front of me is important and their happiness matters. I hope you find a place of peace. You both deserve it.

The best relationship is one where couples can be honest, frank and understanding with each other, accepting the flaws and mistakes of each other and forgiving each other at all times and letting go of the past.

Every good marriage is based on trust and truth, regardless of you regretting it or not, the truth must be said in order to make things clear between you two and help you figure out what you are going to do from now on. Besides, it would be much more painful if he discovered that you cheated on him by himself...think about it. I hope I've helped you somehow.

I do not think he would be able to recover from that, and might have that suspicion in his mind all the time. If you are able to, I would say, just never do that again, figure out what you are missing in your marriage, i.e. what were you getting from the other man, and then have a discussion with your husband, asking if he could provide whatever that is, for you, because, you really need it. Stress that is important to you. We all make mistakes, learn from them and move forward.

Absolutely! Just asking the question shows you are ready to in my opinion. You intentionally destroyed the foundation of what a relationship is built on, trust. Own up to your behavior and speak the truth to him. This challenge will not be easy but it will put you on the right path to self discovery. I congratulate you for asking such a question and I admire the courage it took to even come onto a forum such as this to start your healing. -Robert-