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Is it okay to avoid situations that make me anxious, or is that giving up to it?

Profile: BLY4
BLY4 on Sep 1, 2017
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For me it depends on the level of anxiousness I experience. For high levels of anxiety it is always tough for us to go into that situation, but we feel so much better when we find a way to do it. For levels of low anxiety, it depends on other situational factors, such as other emotions, and the context of the situation. It is important to always try and push ourselves to be a better version of ourselves, and we are the only ones who can know what that it is!
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Profile: Callipiphan
Callipiphan on Sep 7, 2017
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It is okay to avoid the situation. At some point you will need to face it in order to overcome it. Take your time and face it when you are ready to. For me, I have anxiety around driving and cars. I know that I need to drive to get places so it is inevitable for me to completely avoid it. But I breathe. I try to make sure I'm not distracted and be the best driver I can be. Accidents happen. I do get anxious when reporting that I have seen a car accident but I do deep breathing exercise to help calm me down and I tightly hug myself while rocking. Its a great grounding method.
Profile: ElegantUnicorn01
ElegantUnicorn01 on Sep 10, 2017
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Anxiety causes us to avoid anxious situations (eg social), which acts as a reward for avoiding the pain of that situation, making the anxiety stronger. I find it is better to confront the situation head on, and smash through the anxiety - don't let a stray thought hold you back! But if you don't feel you can, don't think it's giving up. It just means you can try again another time - there's no shame in that! :)
Profile: Dan76
Dan76 on Sep 23, 2017
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It's definitely okay to avoid situations you may not be comfortable with. But while you avoid them, you should also strive to get to a point where you no longer avoid them. So it's a 3 step process. 1) Avoid the situation 2) Acknowledge you just avoided the situation and determine why you did it 3) Make improvements so maybe next time you won't avoid this situation
Profile: NaelAure
NaelAure on Sep 24, 2017
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Avoiding situations in which you feel anxious leads to a process called negative reinforcement. It does not mean the same thing as pop culture would make you think. The easiest metaphor to understand negative reinforcement, is pain medication. If you're in pain and you take a pill that relieves you of that pain, your behavior is reinforced (which mean you're more likely to do the same thing when facing the same situation) by the removal of that pain. The same works with avoiding situations in which you're anxious. It's important to preserve yourself, and figure out which situations are really too much for you to deal with and how to go about it. But if you avoid all situations that make you anxious, it'll be reinforced by this avoidance. What can be done about that is some type of "exposure". If you know that one situation is going to make you anxious, go about it like you would go on a trip. Prepare yourself by imagining it, pack "tools" like breathing exercises or whatver works for you to dcrease your anxiety, and reflect on it once it's done, so you can learn more about how your anxiety affects you and how you can deal with it in certain situations. It is not necessarily "giving up to it", because the way you feel about these situations is totally valid, but trying to avoid it only makes it stronger. Which, I know from personal experience, is not somthing you want to hear... But always remember to take care of yourself ;)
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Nov 1, 2017
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Temporarily avoiding anxiety inducing situations is okay to keep you from being anxious, but, if possible, you could try facing these situations in a way that makes you more comfortable. I.e. if you fear going out, ask a friend to go with you to ease you into the situation. If you are worried about school, finish your homework early, pick out your clothing the night before, or do other organizational things to lessen anxiety when the situation arises. You should never put yourself in a situation that you know will cause you harm, but you also need to work on dealing with these situations as they come about.
Profile: OverlyEmotionalMe
OverlyEmotionalMe on Nov 3, 2017
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I think that it's okay to avoid something that's going to be entirely too uncomfortable! But I also think it's important to try to step outside your comfort zone every once in a while. And that's baby steps, nothing to crazy that's going to make you super anxious, just trying a little bit every once in a while. I think it'll go a really long way.
Profile: mthilliard
mthilliard on Nov 10, 2017
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Avoiding anxiety inducing situations will only increase your fear for future encounters. You have to overcome those situations firsthand in a different frame of mind.
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CountYourBlessings1by1 on Nov 13, 2017
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To some level, it is reasonable to avoid situations that make you anxious, as long as it does not become a cycle of avoidance, which can lead to agoraphobia or just worsened anxiety. I'm not saying its good to just throw yourself into scary situations, but gradually get yourself used to things and it will get easier.
Profile: silverPower68
silverPower68 on Nov 15, 2017
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Yes it is okay to avoid places that make you anxious and it is definitely not giving up it just means that you are stronger for identifying that theese places make you anxious
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