How to stop thinking about someone who hurt you?

Remember why they hurt you. Remember that you are worth more than them. Remember that they don;e deserve you because you are smart, and talented and perfect just the way you are. You are strong and even though it may hurt at first, you will get over them because you will realize that you are so much better and deserve so much better. You deserve someone who will love you with all they can and will try their very best to be by your side no matter what, and while hold your hand through rain and fire. But most of all you deserve someone that awakes a fire in you that you didn't even know existed.

Everybody gets hurt. We don't always have a the power to change that. But we can on how badly it hurts us, how it changes us as a person. I was raped and sexually abused at two different points in my life. I was and sometimes still am a scared little boy. I did so the second time, to protect my innocent sister. Certain experiences won't leave you. All I've ever dreamt of was hurting this man and his family. That's the cowardly move. I pushed myself away from everyone. I told myself I had the right to do so. You see, it's not the tragedy that turns you into a hopeless person, it's when you forget the meaning and importance of hope. Painful thoughts about the person who hurt you may never go. But you have a say in how it influences your life further. After a while, you know you'll have to let it go, that's the only way you'll allow yourself to find peace and love again. And this world and it's people, even the ones who've hurt you have the potential to become good. We're all humans after all. Before you forgive the person who hurt you, learn to forgive and love yourself. Hurting yourself will also hurt the ones who love and care about you, even if you think you're alone, somebody's still there. Life's greatest lessons are usually learnt through pain. Just don't be too stubborn and hold this pain in you and let it build up. Trust me, if that happens you'll end up scaring yourself. Don't become your own worst nightmare, become the best that you know can be. Love and peace won't come easy. Good things never do. But believe in yourself to have that willpower. Do that and half the job is done. Show others what you can overcome, motivate others. Create your own tiny ripple effect of love and kindness. I thank you if do so, if you don't, know that a stranger believes in you, whosever you may be. Believe. In. Hope.

Embrace the pain they have brought you, and let it hurt you. Grieve. Then, forgive them by that standard -- recognize what they did to you, and forgive them for that vivid pain it brought you. Don't be afraid of letting yourself feel pain -- it's completely normal and okay. Forgive them in your heart, and show them grace and love through acts of kindness. To stop thinking about them within the framework of the pain they brought you is a change that happens from the inside out and outside in.

Distancing yourself from the person who hurt you can help you move forward. Constantly being around the person is painful, and it is a persistent reminder of the pain they caused you. Taking a step back from the situation will give you the time you need to think and allow yourself the time to move on. Surround yourself with good family and friends who make you feel great about yourself. At first, it will seem impossible to stop thinking about the person who hurt you. But each day you will get stronger, happier, and closer to moving on. One day you'll surprise yourself by saying, "Wow. I haven't thought about that in so long. I remember when I never thought I'd say that."

Just remember that the pain doesnt last forever. It only stays a while and you'll have to get over it eventually. When it comes to the person who hurt you, ask yourself "is he/she worth keeping or thinking about?" If its not worth anything then remove that person from your head. Its not worth it to live with this burden.

You don't ever really stop thinking about someone who hurt you because the process of being hurt is a learning experience so you would tend to hold onto that experience so that hopefully you don't allow it to happen again. Being hurt by someone does allow us the opportunity to practice forgiveness, however. Forgiveness is not about letting the other person off of the hook for whatever they have done to us; it really isn't about the other person at all. Forgiveness is a process for the individual to find peace and comfort after they have been wronged by others. In this instance, if you forgive the person who hurt you, you are acknowledging that what they did to you was wrong, but that you are choosing to move on beyond the hurt in a healthy way and continue with your life. It means that you are aware of your emotions and how the other person made you feel and that despite the feelings they created, you are choosing to handle the hurt while moving forward with your life and becoming a better person.

The only way to stop feeling hurt is to stop thinking about it, keep out of situations that let your mind wander, keep doing activities that keep your mind engaged and you will eventually stop thinking about them or eventually stop caring.

When someone hurt me really badly, i was depressed. But after realising that there's people who never would want to hurt me and who love me deeply, i saw what was the most important. It's true what they say: "people who hurt you don't matter and people who matter don't hurt you. When you have even one person who loves you, you will survive.

I wish I knew the answer, I wonder the same thing. I miss this person and know they won't love me back, the person is already taken.

Moving on and forgetting the person is hard, even harder if you have memories that keep you with them. Time, that's my answer. Time healths wounds. Usually if we still like/love the person even if he/she hurt us, then this person ments a lot to us. Give yourself time and distract yourself. You will get better, I promise.