how do i stop worrying about the things that don't matter?

Sometimes thoughts grow much bigger than the original problem or situation. Once you start building thoughts on fears it takes on a life of its own. Scenarios play out that probably will never happen and your body has no idea if what you are thinking is true or not and reacts in ways that are toxic to your body. I think that the first thing to do is break the cycle when you see you are obsessing about something. Takes some practice but in time you learn to see when crazy is coming! An old trick I learned and still use is to put a rubber band on my wrist and snap it whenever I find myself swimming through crazy. I get up, walk around and find someone that will help me reason things out. Sharing your thoughts rather than worrying about things will help to sort out what matters and what does not matter. Tell crazy to take the day off and then you will be able to calm your mind.

If you are worrying about them then they usually do matter, to you. I have experienced this much, and feel that it can't be stopped. Once you find things that matter more, these old unimportant things should stop bothering you.

Try to focus on things that you can actually work on. Realizing that sometimes there is no changing things.

My brain can only hold one thought at a given point of time. The best way to stop myself from worrying about things that don't matter is to distract my mind by involving myself in an activity. Pursuing a hobby, or doing something else that interests me or learn something...just interrupts me from worrying, and over a period of time those worrying thoughts get replaced with more positive and affirmative thoughts.

How I stop worrying about things that don't matter. That's the real question isn't it? How do you decide what doesn't matter? It really is a personal thing. Something that matters so much to you, might not affect someone else. So the first thing is, it's up to you to decide what matters to you. After you decide that, then you can figure out what doesn't matter. I write down what is worrying me about the thing. Why is it worrying me? Is it logical to be worried about this thing? What could happen if the thing you are worried about does happen? I find that helps me to stop worrying about the things that aren't worth worrying about.

Maybe instead of thinking about "What if..", start thinking about "What can I make happen?"

It helps to write a list of the fears that hold you bac, look at them objectively and then refute them, one by one. When you do that, you will realize that fears and worries are just assumptions, that are stopping you from living the way you really want. So fight the fear, fight the worry. The best way to do that is to just take action in the direct opposition of your fears.

Just try to keep in mind that worrying doesn't ever help or solve anything. It only is destructive to yourself.

Keep telling yourself that the particular thing does not matter. It's mostly your mind playing tricks with you, making you conscious about it. But well, you know it doesn't matter, right? Just squeeze in a bit of confidence, and keep telling yourself that! :)

Worrying about things is a natural part of us, we worry about little things and sometimes big things. The question could be "how do i manage worrying about things so i can deal with them". There is no right answer as we are all individuals, but recognising how things can affect us is a very good start. Think to yourself "why am i worrying about this".. if you can work out the answer then it will be a step towards the right direction. Sometimes its good to worry about things, if you are struggling with this feeling it would be good to make a list of things worrying you. Then work from it and ask yourself "what can i do to distract myself from these worries". Distractions are a good technique, they can help switch your mind off for a while. Hopefully i have been able to help in some way. Everyone at 7 Cups is always here to listen!