How can I convince myself that my friends don't hate me? I have this irrational fear that they actually hate me.

People are generally upfront when they dislike you. If they agree to spend time with you, or invite you out, they like you. When your mind is clouded by it's own self-hate, those negative thoughts are projected onto others and they are most often inaccurate and distorted perceptions.

What you have described is a form of thinking error where you assume to know the thoughts of other people. You can ask them how they feel about you. You can write down your thoughts in a journal and reason to yourself the reasons why you might be wrong.

That's all in your perception of yourself..if your friends hated you..they wouldnt hang out with you.

I can understand how you feel. I would say working on self love is important. You feel this way because you don't feel very good about yourself, so you expect others to view you the same way when in actuality, they likely see you a lot better than you see yourself!

You alone know the response to this question. Your friends don't hate you. You're awesome, smart, and wise. You need to think about yourself

It is sometimes easy to over analyse the way your friends communicate with you, and to assume they don't like you. I have had these thoughts myself. However, you said it yourself that the feeling is irrational. If your friends are willingly spending time with you and engaging with you, the chances are that they do like you. However, it's always possible to do some self-reflection to consider how you could become an even better friend. By initiating conversations and being a great listener to your friends, you will hopefully realise that you are a good friend and that you are liked by your peers.

Well it depends honestly. It depends if they are real and healthy friend. A real friend wont mind if you have different interests than them, a fake friend or someone who wants to use or control you, make want you to do things they want to do regardless of how you feel about it. It's important to choose people who respect your choices and emotions.

Ask yourself how logical this fear is, fear usually amplifies the thoughts in your head with a negative bias. You can choose to talk to your friends about how you feel, which can help clear your doubts and fears.

Start concentrating on the things they do to show you that they love you and care for you. Sometimes you just need to think positively and focus on the better things in life.

Friends are one of the best resources you can have in your life. It really is a bummer when you have a fear that they don't actually enjoy spending time with you. Try thinking back to a time when you said something that made your friend laugh or smile. Did it seem like they disliked you then? If you're truly unsure, having a heart-to-heart with them about your feelings might help you relieve some of the stress you've been feeling. :)