Everything in my life is messed up. Motivation works temporarily and I'm not suicidal but feel it's pointless to live like this. What should I do to feel hopeful?

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confidentKoala73 on Feb 8, 2018

Just know that the sun shines again, and sometimes talking to yourself and building motivation that way is a great way to feel hope! 

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selfconfidentFan2887 on Feb 9, 2018

look at yourself in the mirror and you see that person looking at you?well that person is you .you are amazing ,worth it,beautiful ,handsome everything,but most of all you matter!you have so much ahead of you and so many reason to be hopeful.i promise you'll have bad and good days but in the end theres so much to be postive about and look forward to.

SilentSerenityy on Feb 9, 2018

If you wish for change in your life, you must change something within your life. Maybe think about something that you're not particularly happy about in your life and ask yourself how you could change that thing to turn it from a negative into a positive. If you're really struggling though, please don't be afraid to ask for help from a professional or chat with a listener here! 

Anonymous on Feb 11, 2018

Maybe you can focus on something that makes you happy? Also you can try and avoid things that make sad. But you always have to remember that your in control of your life. 

LittleNinjaS on Feb 17, 2018

Stay positive! Your life is not pointless when you think about the times when you are happy and laughing over a cup of tea. It is not too late to give up! Life throws curveballs at us, and so there is nothing wrong to feel bad. We have all had that time when we felt useless- but we can change that! If you need help, we here are 7 cups are more than willing to help you feel better! 

ccjax on Feb 23, 2018

Try out some after work/ school activities like go to the gym, do some dancing or singing.. something that makes you happy! I tried it myself and it worked for me:)

mthilliard on Feb 28, 2018

Motivation absolutely is temporary. It's not just you. The difference between motivation and dedication is huge, but finding something worth your time (that feels natural to give your time to) is insanely hard. To be hopeful, just know that there is something out there that will fulfill you. You just haven't found it yet, and you just need to keep searching. 

Anonymous on Mar 3, 2018

Focus on the future, do things you enjoy doing and surround yourself with good people, they should be able to give you more hope.

shadeofblue741 on Mar 4, 2018

Sadly even hope can feel pointless at times, so you just get through the days and try to take care of yourself. Each day, make a list of things you're grateful for or things that you thought fell into the category of good/beautiful. Once you get that going, try to live each day so as to make that list longer.

Anonymous on Mar 8, 2018

The first, most important thing is to talk to someone. Even though you're not suicidal right now, you don't want to let this progress to a point where you are at risk. I'd also say setting long-term goals might be a good idea, like projects you can focus on and put your energy into, even just to give yourself a small sense of purpose. But again - reach out! You can do this 