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Is it okay for my dad to take his anger out on me when he's drunk?

Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jan 31, 2015
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No, it's never okay for anyone to take their anger out on anyone and being drunk does not make it any more acceptable. Because he is your dad does not make it okay. If anything, a dad has a bigger responsibility to NOT take his anger out on his kids but to find healthier outlets for those feelings. I'm sorry if this is happening with your dad...
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Profile: Katiesworld
Katiesworld on Jan 26, 2015
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It's not okay for anyone to take their anger out on another person irrespective of wether they are under the influence of alcohol or not, and I am not sure if this means he is verbally agressive or physical aggressive towards you but neither is appropriate.
Profile: JohnGreymore
JohnGreymore on Apr 12, 2015
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Short answer: No. Long answer: Nooooooooooooooooooooooo. As a one-off, regretful action, it is unacceptable, but reveals something about the person's coping mechanism. However, such an action, if repeated several times, is considered abuse, even if it does not involve physical lashing out. Trauma, on both an emotional and physical level, can occur. To understand abuse, we must understand abuse as another language/coping mechanism used by someone when there is a situation that they do not like. This does not condone abuse, but it allows us to more easily come to terms with it. What are they most scared of/what have they lost such that they abuse someone else? If you can put aside the anger and fear that almost certainly comes with repeated abuse, I urge you to try to put yourself in their shoes and see what is troubling them. I stress one more time: This does NOT mean that you allow the abuse to continue. It means that you better handle and come to terms with the trauma that comes with it.
Profile: Gracelalaland33
Gracelalaland33 on Mar 8, 2015
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It isn't ok for anyone to take their anger out on you whether they are under influence on alcohol or any other drug, whether he is verbally or physically violent and angry, neither is ok and you should let me know, preferably when he is sober about how this is making you feel. If this doesnt work, remove yourself from the situation and then he wont have the opportunity to take his anger out on you.
Profile: sheilswheels
sheilswheels on Apr 26, 2015
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Hello I am so sorry that you are going through this. The answer to your question is absolutely not. This is never okay. My Dad used to be physically violent towards me when he was drunk to relieve his stress so I understand how difficult and complex your situation is but you must take care of yourself. Eventually, I took a stand and moved out and into the house of a friend. Since then, he has never acted violently towards me.
Profile: GoldenDragonEyes60
GoldenDragonEyes60 on May 6, 2015
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No it's absolutely not okay. I don't know the level of what happens but if it is to the point where you are even wondering, then you may want to consider calling a hotline that could help you with the situation.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Aug 2, 2016
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No, it is never okay for someone to take their anger out on you, drunk or sober. If your dad is hurting you, please tell someone you trust who can help you. Even if he is not physically hurting you, please still talk to a trusted adult like a school counselor or teacher.
Profile: avanef
avanef on Mar 13, 2017
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No, it is never okay for anyone to take their anger out on any one regardless if they're drunk or not. Taking anger out on people is not healthy and it is not okay.
Profile: ShadowMirge
ShadowMirge on Feb 27, 2018
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It is not. It is never okay for someone to lash out on you because they are not sober. Know that it is their non sober, alcoholic self that is not acceptable, so help him seek help if possible, but if it's not, it is best to just avoid it
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Mar 1, 2018
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no he should not, its not alright when adults abuse their kids because of drinking
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 23, 2020
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No. Sometimes it's not in his control, but it doesn't make it okay. He can learn other ways to let out his anger but you haven't done anything wrong and don't deserve to experience that. It can be incredibly difficult to do anything about this situation, maybe avoiding him entirely when he's drunk would be safest because that's definitely not okay even though it's not something he's aware of. Make sure to stay safe if there's nothing you can do, and get help if you can. Any form of communication comes with a risk, so please take care of yourself. You deserve only the best
Profile: MoonWaterAngel82
MoonWaterAngel82 on Feb 17, 2015
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No, this is never okay. When your father isn't drunk, try to ask him about quitting or tell him how he makes you feel when he is drunk. If that doesn't work, seek the help of a professional or close relative who can get him the help he needs.
Profile: Nrmarco
Nrmarco on May 2, 2015
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No. It is never okay for anyone to take their anger out on you for any reason.. I suggest that you find somewhere safe..
Profile: originalLion57
originalLion57 on Jun 4, 2015
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No! Never. He shouldn't take his anger out on you physically or verbally if he's drunk. He should be clear-headed and know why he'd be angry with you and not be drunk while scolding you. And he should never be abusive.
Profile: lovelliee
lovelliee on Jun 23, 2015
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No not at all. He should not be getting drunk and hurting you. Its not fair. He's the adult here. He should not be doing that
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jun 30, 2015
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No this is definately not okay. If he does this make him aware of his actions when sober. If it continues removing your self from sittuation if possible is adviseable. Alanon an arm of AA is also great support. Or Alateen if you are a child.
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Jul 13, 2015
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Whether someone is intoxicated or not it is never an excuse to take anger out on another person. If it not acceptable when he is sober it is not acceptable when he drunk either.
Profile: frankgarretoffical
frankgarretoffical on Jan 19, 2016
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No you should advise trying to tell your mother about this or get help from a friend or a professional to help you and your father out
Profile: glowingRose54
glowingRose54 on Jan 25, 2016
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No. It is absolutely NOT okay. It is never okay for someone to take their anger out on someone while sober or drunk. It is crucial to find healthy ways to express anger that doesn't hurt anyone. Take care ♡
Profile: Anonymous
Anonymous on Feb 8, 2016
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Drunk or not - you can never justify the abuse of defenceless innocent children. Don't let anyone tell you that this kind of treatment is okay. You deserve better
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