How to trust someone again who has consistently lied?

Best course of action is to not trust them. They have already shown their trustworthiness, which isnt impressive, and they have proven their tendency to be consistent with lying and have a pattern of it. They will likely do it again and again and you will just end up emotionally and psychologically harmed which is no good for anyone. So it is best to proceed with caution and protect yourself. It is best, therefore, to keep them at arms length and distance yourself from such an individual so they are unlikely to hurt you again. Dealing with someone who is a confirmed, consistent Liar is damaging, hurtful, and can be very harmful.

It’s definitely hard to believe what someone who has gotten you used to then lying at all times is saying. Once trust is lost, it can be extremely hard to get back. It is definitely hard for us to distinguish when someone we are used to be lied by is telling a lie or they are truthful and it can make us really confused. However, there are times when you can tell they are being truthful - taking into consideration their gestures & language, speaking pace and style etc. For me, knowing why they lied to me is a must, so I know exactly that would not be the case again. Having a serious discussion with the person can also be essential.

It is important to note, firstly, that you are not required to trust someone again who has consistently lied to you. You do not need to keep this person in your life unless you feel it is important to you or you want to. That being said, if you want to continue having a relationship with that person, it would be difficult to do so without developing the element of trust. Trust is a mutual feeling, which means both of you have to be willing to step forward into progress on this together, meaning that for both of you, it won't help to harp on the past, and it won't help to continue to lie. This requires both of you to step out of the tendencies to engage in blaming, dredging up the past, and lying. In other words, you both have to be willing to be trustworthy, and you both have to be willing to trust--that willingness is the first step of trusting again.

You need to forgive, and to see the good in them. Lying always comes from a place of pain, and getting through to that source will help you begin to trust them again. Everybody does things that aren't morally right, and still being there and helping them is a way to help them heal to help them overcome that. Lying is often a coping mechanism, in my experience, and once they begin to cope better with friendships, relationships and just their life in general the lying decreases or even stops completely. Insecurity fuels lies, and being aware of someone's insecurities is a good way to understand why they lied, and to empathize with them.

This is a question I ask myself many times when I have been let down. Trust has to be earned and sometimes it is very difficult to trust someone after they have consistently lied, or cheated, or hurt you. But it can be done with time and patience. Although, I would say, do you need to trust them? Many a relationship is fun and can be productive without involving trust. Think about the areas that they need to be involved in and then decide. Sometimes hurting someone and lying means the relationship has broken down and will never be on the same level again. Does it need to be? Do you want to forgive them or do you need to forgive them? Think carefully.

I think it is very hard indeed, but I genuinely don’t think it’s possible as much as you try. And again it is not your fault you feel that way either. Gaining trust is a really long process which is not something you can control. If they have constantly lied and they manipulate you it is their fault and you owe them nothing. If you really want to trust them again then see how they treat others, if they treat them the same, maybe you should try to talk to them. If they don’t then they are trying to manipulate you, show them that you are not that person.

Regaining trust isn’t easy and it can take time to build it back. It really starts with you and if you are willing to forgive. When someone defiles your trust, depending on the relationship (and how big the lie), there can be acts that may take longer. Sometimes time and space is needed for that healing to occur depending on what’s done. The world is complex with 7 billion souls floating around this pale blue dot. What you may hold important, others might not and that can be complex at times. There are various reasons that people lie as well but, it can be for spotlight, to cast discourse or easier to tell than vulnerable and let people close. Sometimes just putting yourself in their shoes can help a lot with understanding and trying to figure out a even ground with them if you care about them.

Trusting someone who has consistently lied to you previously is a hard thing to do. From previous experiences with an individual as such, it is guaranteed you will always have a thought in the back of your mind as to whether they are or are not being honest with you at that time. Good communication skills are essential in these situations. It is also important in situations that you maintain clear boundaries with the other individual regarding their honesty. If their honesty and integrity has been of questionepreviously, you have the right to not only ask for clarification of their communication/words but you also have the right to ask them if they are being honest. This may cause offence initially, however, at the end of the day, you may investing your time and resources for no legitimate reason at all and this can result in to you harbouring feelings of resentment towards the other individual because they have "wasted" your time. Afterall, should their request not be genuine, you may be investing your precious time and resources that could have been put to use in other more genuine and productive ways.

Trusting someone again after losing hope for your relationship with that person can be challenging. If you are looking to mend things, it could be beneficial to take small steps. Remember you do not have to become "best friends" again immediately, or even forgive them immediately. Often times the best and most stable things in life come over time, maybe look at your relationship with that person in the same light. You could start by asking them to hang out one day, just to talk about things. You could talk to them about how they're feeling, ask them questions, clear the air, etc. Be open with them, ask them to be honest with you if that is what you are looking for.

If I value the relationship with this person and want to trust her/him again, I think the first step is to make sure that we are on the same page and that the person knows how I am feeling and how I am willing to act upon it. I would say explicitly to the person: "I want you to know that I have been hurt by your past lies to me. I value your relationship and trust is a necessary component of any relationship. For this reason, I am willing to trust you again if you are willing to show commitment. I suppose you are aware that building trust again is not an easy task, for this you need to help me in it and show me in action (and not only in words) that I can truly trust you." Then, I anticipate that the next steps will be dependent on the reactions of the person.