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I'm stressed out and when I try to go to sleep I can't shut off my thoughts. What should I do?

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I'm stressed out and when I try to go to sleep I can't shut off my thoughts. What should I do?
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Anonymous
July 5th, 2015 6:55pm
Getting up and going to bed at the same time is key to good sleep.If you have worrying thought comes up right before bed, you need to deal with them first and have peaceful mind.Being able to distract yourself from your worries can be enough to help you fall asleep like turn to more positive thoughts,Exercising regularly and a lot more. If you Still feel like you’ve tried everything to no avail, find a sleep specialist in your area who does cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), the number one recommended treatment.
Iam80Here
July 5th, 2015 3:27pm
Perhaps, writing down the thoughts on a piece of paper, on your personal diary or on your phone might just help you. If it does not, face the thoughts that stress you out, do not distract yourself. Try to come to a point where you can be satisfied with the thoughts of yours, keep your brain busy thinking about it logically and don't freak out. Have faith in yourself.
BooksandTea21
July 5th, 2015 6:08am
This is a more common problem then people like to believe, especially for those who suffer from anxiety. Our minds are wired to be constantly thinking and so at bed time it can be hard to get the mind to stop chattering. One important thing to remember is to not fight it. Fighting yourself because you're worried about keeping yourself up will only make matters worse. Instead, try using some mindfulness recordings to help keep you present and slowly relax yourself. This will allow your body to gently ease itself into sleep and will help to quell some of the anxiety you may be feeling because of it.
illkeepit
July 4th, 2015 11:47pm
i have experienced this a lot in my life, and i still do. Sometimes listening to the radio might be a good thing, because you are listening to people talking so you are not focus on your thoughts anymore, watching TV is a good option too
MikeyMouse
July 4th, 2015 8:56pm
If your thoughts are over powering you, and stopping you from sleeping, then it is going to affect you in more ways than one. One of the most powerful ways to stop this, is to play music (preferably your favourite songs/playlist) and play on repeat until you wake up. Focus purely on the music and the lyrics. Count the beats of the drums. If this doesn't work, you can try talk to someone until you fall asleep, and get them to challenge you to name different types of things (e.g. breeds of animals, types of animals, countries etc).
FractalWellness
July 4th, 2015 6:59pm
Sometimes I turn on the radio at a low volume so I can focus on the words of the music instead of my thoughts. I will also focus on my breathing and repeat something to myself such as "breathe in, breathe out". The secret is to replace your stressful thoughts with something else. If you're struggling, just keep trying.
Stainedglass
July 4th, 2015 2:35pm
Count! I like to count, it forces other thoughts out of my head and its slow, repetitive and thoughtless enough that it bores your mind and helps you shut it off. I usually start to dose off at around 200-300.
Anonymous
July 4th, 2015 2:21pm
Since you have a problem shutting off your thoughts let's get you to close your eyes and use your thoughts to an advantage like like about what color the sky is it imagine where you wanna b n the world use your brain to draw images in your mind while your eyes are closed in bed so you can end up actually dreaming the rest of the night.✨
VictoriousVision20
July 4th, 2015 12:08am
Try breathing in and out your nose. Your body doesn't need as much oxygen when going to sleep so it you take big breaths in your nose and out your mouth for 7 seconds in and 9 out it may make it easier to transition to sleep. Another option is simply pretend you are asleep: to do so you have to deepen your breathing and lie still because you are focusing on this you pretend until you are asleep and it takes your mind off of your stressors.
Anonymous
July 3rd, 2015 9:10pm
Calming my body, while im in my bed, with none of the lights on, helps me a lot and listening to the weird yoga music also helps in relaxing my body. Calming and concentrating on my breathing helps me sleep at night. Sometimes i make myself dream, like i make up there scenarios in my mind and start picturing them or i just plan out my day in advance.
Angelbeatbrony
July 3rd, 2015 5:27pm
When i was little, I watched TV to go to sleep and still do that might help getting other things off your mind
LoveYourself21
July 3rd, 2015 12:29pm
Try listening to music. It Alwas helps. Or you can take a nice warm bath,it gives away the stress.
KindnessCounts
July 3rd, 2015 3:33am
Play some music that keeps you calm. Try to allow your thoughts to surface, don't fight them. Simply acknowledge whatever they happen to be without judgement. Promise yourself you will think on it more tomorrow. If you still have trouble sleeping, try going to bed about an hour early. Keep a journal next to the bed and write your thoughts. Keep them brief and for important thoughts only. Sometimes, giving your mind the attention to these thoughts can help ease them until they are needed again. If you are stressed or continuously having difficulty, try the 7cups resources for anxiety and troubled sleep.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 11:38pm
you should eat or drink staff what makes sleep. like warm milk, ayran or a tea. they help you to get sleepy and you can sleep easily. :)
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 7:17pm
You just need to relax, clothes your eyes, and focus on sleeping. Try to forget about everything that has happened that today.
optimisticKoala39
July 2nd, 2015 6:30pm
You can listen to "white noise" which can be found online at youtube.com. Plug in your headphones and listen away. If you are a worrier you can create a journal and write down everything you are concerned about. Then create an action plan or to do list. Creating a plan and breaking things up into small "to dos" will reduce your anxieties for next day. Take care of yourself, exercise, meditate, eat healthy.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 1:48pm
Try to put on some calming music and shut your mind off by thinking about good things in you will be able to sleep
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 7:33am
It is very important to relax before one goes to sleep. I try my best to calm down and relax atleast two hours before the sleep.
Anonymous
July 2nd, 2015 2:26am
Try counting your heart beats for 60 second then rest for about another 60. Repeat. If that doesn't work try listening to quiet classical musical or pull out a book. Stay away from electronics as they wont make you fall asleep. They will be more of a distraction.
Anonymous
July 1st, 2015 10:16pm
Talk to someone about it, It may be hard but with enough venting you'll feel a lot better. Don't worry!
Anonymous
July 1st, 2015 3:21pm
The best way is to distract your mind by concentrating on something else. You can do a body inventory, which is concentrating on each muscle from the toes and fingertips in and relaxing each muscle. Or you can do imagery, like concentrating on feeling like you are floating on a cloud. Or you can use a fantasy situation and concentrate on how it would work. Like I imagine I'm stranded on an island and imagine how I would build a shelter, get food, etc. Any time you feel your worries begin to intrude, go back to the image you are using. You can also try some yoga or meditation before bedtime. All these things can help. You just have to determine which one works best for you. Good luck!
Varee
July 1st, 2015 9:59am
This happens to many, many people, so despite how it may feel, you're not alone. If it's due to general mind chatter, I listening to an audiobook on headphones helps me. It's better than the radio, because there are no sudden noises (like a jingle) to wake me up again! There are loads of them online, for example Librivox or Audible. Also available from my local public library, and of course from bookshops. If I can't sleep because I'm worrying, my favourite thing is Emotional Freedom Technique. I'm not trained in it, so I won't try to describe it, but there are many self help resources on the web, in books, etc. I find the videos by Brad Yates on YouTube, to be especially helpful. If the insomnia is coming from thinking about stuff I need to do or to remember, I find writing it down, in a notebook I keep by the bed (or on a phone app) works well. When I really need to connect with another person, or get something off my chest, or I'm just going round and round in my own head - chatting with a 7 Cups Listener is wonderful. I hope those help, do message me if you'd like chat about sleep or anything that's bothering you.
coffeeok2
July 1st, 2015 5:13am
Put on a guided meditation video on youtube and follow along. Write down what is on your brain and leave there it on the page. Talk it out with a listener on 7 Cups of Tea.
Chevy81
July 1st, 2015 2:18am
Get off from bed after 20 minutes if I couldn't fall asleep. Then visit 7 cups of tea to unload all of my thoughts. Or if I have no internet connection, I'll do my hobbies to distract myself.
MaOh
June 28th, 2015 11:07pm
I listen to a podcast about something that I'm interested in so that my thoughts stop. This helps me be focused, thus drifting to sleep.
ImHere01
June 28th, 2015 8:04pm
Here are available free help guide called "Sleeping well" say interesting things, do yourself a look.
BubblyDoll
June 28th, 2015 7:47pm
You could try some relaxation exercises. Breathe in and out slowly. I also make up cool stories where I am the hero to avoid thinking about stressing thoughts. Hope I helped a bit!
Malte
June 28th, 2015 1:22pm
Making up stories in your mind can help. Just imagine who and where you want to be. I always imagine to be a lighthouse keeper at a calm shore =)
Anonymous
June 28th, 2015 2:34am
There are a few things you can actually do. However, the one that works best for me is practicing relaxation and breathing exercises. These exercises tend to focus on breathing. Once you focus on breathing, your mind tends to relax allowing you to fall asleep easily.
professionalDeer72
June 28th, 2015 2:28am
Try reading, find something that might intrest you and read to the very last minute before falling asleep. It will help you distract yourself from those thoughts that deprive you from sleeping and help them shut off. I hope you do find a way :)